Who is into roleplaying? There are so many fun ways to bond intimately with your partner in this cozy season. At least for those of us that experience Winter. Sometimes we need to add a little extra fuel to the fire to keep our home hearth smoldering. You’ll want to dig into these Santa Role-Playing ideas, and roast those chestnuts!

The Naughty List: Santa Role-Playing Ideas To Spice Up Christmas Night

The holiday season is upon us, and what better way to get into the spirit than with some sexy Santa role-playing in the bedroom? Whether you’re a seasoned pro or a newbie to the world of role-play, we’ve got some ideas to get those sleigh bells jingling and your partner’s heart racing.

Create a Festive Atmosphere

First things first, set the mood with a festive atmosphere. Transform your bedroom into a winter wonderland with Christmas lights, garlands, and a mini Christmas tree. This will help you and your partner get into character and feel like you’re in a holiday fantasy. Don’t forget to add some festive tunes to the playlist to really get you in the mood.

Sexy Santa Role Playing Costumes

Next, it’s time to get dressed up in your sexiest Santa or elf costume. For the ladies, a Mrs. Claus outfit with a twist, like a mini skirt or lingerie, is sure to get your partner’s attention. And for the gentlemen, a Santa hat, beard, and coat will make you the hottest Claus in town. Don’t be afraid to get creative and DIY your own costumes – after all, it’s the thought that counts, not the price tag.

Christmas Food Play

Now, onto the fun stuff – food play! Use festive foods like candy canes, holly berries, or Christmas cookies as props for sensual play. Create a “sleigh” of treats, like strawberries, grapes, or chocolate-covered cherries, to feed each other. And for the more indulgent, try using “naughty” treats like whipped cream or chocolate sauce to add an extra layer of excitement to your play.

Elf’s Toybox

Every elf needs a toybox, and we’re not talking about the kind that’s filled with toys for the kiddos. Create a “toybox” of goodies, like sex toys or lingerie, to discover and play with. This can add an extra level of excitement and surprise to your role-play, as you never know what treats you might find inside. Just remember to communicate with your partner about what’s inside the toybox and make sure you’re both comfortable with the activities.

Getting into Character

Now that you’ve got your costume and toybox, it’s time to get into character. Watch some Christmas movies or read some Christmas stories to get into the holiday spirit. Practice your Santa or elf accent and mannerisms to really get into character. And why not create a backstory for your Santa or elf character to add some depth to the scenario? This can help you really get into the role and make the experience even more immersive.

Scenes and Scenarios

Finally, it’s time to play out your scenario. Try playing out a “naughty or nice” scenario, where one partner has to earn their gifts or privileges. Or create a “Santa’s workshop” scene, where one partner has to help the other build a toy or complete a task. You could even try a “Christmas morning” scenario, where one partner wakes the other up with a surprise gift or activity. The possibilities are endless, so get creative and have fun!

And there you have it, folks – our top picks for sexy Santa role-playing ideas for the bedroom. Whether you’re a seasoned pro or just looking to spice up your holiday season, we hope these ideas have given you some inspiration. Remember to always communicate with your partner and prioritize consent and safety above all else. And most importantly, have fun and get into the holiday spirit!

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If you’re new to anal sex toys, or you’ve never tried a butt plug, maybe now is your chance! This week we’re uncovering one of the top butt plugs on Amazon: The Oreyurt Anal Plug Training Kit! This is more than just a plug–it’s got a bunch of unique functions and options for couple play.

Featuring a graduated set, you’ll find pleasure from three different sizes. Maybe it’s time to expand your horizons, if you know what I mean!

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Toy Description – Oreyurt Anal Plug Training Kit

This wearable anal toy is designed to give you that freedom. With its discreet design, you can privately play, even when you’re alone.

But it’s not just for solo fun. The remote control feature on the Anal Plug Training Kit makes it perfect for couples’ play, allowing you to take your intimacy to the next level.

This powerful anal toy combines two sensations in one: a prostate massager and anal vibrators. The result is an explosive experience that will leave you breathless.

And the best part? It’s waterproof and USB rechargeable, making it easy to take with you wherever you go. Whether you’re at home, in the shower, or on a romantic getaway, this toy is the perfect companion for your wildest adventures.

Key Features (directly from the manufacturer website)

• Discreet
• Graduated Sizes, Small to Large
• Remote control option, for partner play
• Waterproof
• USB Charging
• 10 vibration modes

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First-Hand Use

I must admit, I was underwhelmed by this crystal plug set, especially considering the price point. While it’s not a complete loss, there are some aspects that left me feeling, well, a bit unsatisfied.

Firstly, the crystal detail on the two smaller plugs is nothing more than a flat plastic gem that fits inside the rubber bezel at the end of the plug. And, to my dismay, it pops out ridiculously easily, losing most of its aesthetic charm. I mean, who wants a sparkly plug that loses its sparkle? I would have much preferred if they were securely attached, but I guess that’s just not the case.

On a more positive note, the vibrating plug was quite nice. It’s supposed to be the largest of the set, and it does pack a decent punch. The vibrations are strong and rumbly, which is always a plus in my book. However, I couldn’t help but feel that it wasn’t enough to make up for the lackluster design of the other plugs.

However, the remote play option is exciting for me. Maybe I’ll finally let my exhibitionist flag fly, one day, and use this with a partner. Who knows?

Overall, I’d say this set is mediocre at best. If you’re looking for a plug set that will truly impress, I’d suggest looking elsewhere. But if you’re on a budget and don’t mind a few design flaws, then I suppose this set might do the trick.

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If you’ve never been introduced, we think you could use an introduction with some fun Temperature Play tips! As an ever-curious person, I can testify to the allure, but I also feel like it’s a very “safe” and “vanilla” way to dabble in enhanced, sensual play and BDSM. If you’re new to kinkier concepts, maybe consider first that BDSM is a wide spectrum of activities that don’t necessarily involve whips and chains– but that’s another blog post!

Pleasure and pain has been likely the most mainstream aspect of BDSM. While I won’t be diving into the spectrum of what that covers, today we’re only discussing a singular aspect that can be used in multiple ways to achieve new heights of pleasure, new sensations and create some enjoyable intimacy. The book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose explores even the more casual ways humans engage in masochism (the M of BDSM, from tattoos to even people who eat insanely spicy food, on purpose.

Temperature play doesn’t even have to cause pain. It can be as simple as kissing someone’s back with cold lips, or adding a chilling sensation to another body part.

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What is Temperature Play?

If you came up groomed as a hetero female, you’ve probably heard the Cosmo-derived advice of, “suck on an ice cube before you go down”. Look, they’re barely even capable of using the word “penis,” but they’re onto something.

No one ever said that there isn’t such a thing as light BDSM, and realistically, that is anything outside of traditional, analog sex. The reality is, it can be fun way to spice things up. BDSM is your friend, even in a “vanilla” relationship”.

It can be as delicate or as masochistic as you want, especially when play involves heat.

Temperature Play Ideas

Some fun temperature play ideas that go beyond the typical can be fun experimentation, and can be as tame as you desire. The term “Temperature Play” is pretty broad, and usually encompasses the application of heat or cold, in the bedroom. Today, we’ll cover a few forms, to give you some ideas for the next time you’re in need of a little experimentation!

But first– let’s discuss a little bit of safety. You should be prepared for any potential burns, and make sure you aren’t removing ice directly from the freezer to produce sensations in your partner or yourself. Ice and Heat can damage the skin, so please take these safety considerations into account when you engage in temperature play for the first time.

Have something on hand to reverse whatever you’re doing. For example, keep cool water nearby for heat, or warming blankets and pads near for cold play. Make sure safety is at the top of mind, when engaging in this or any BDSM play. Utilize safe words if it helps you and your partner feel more comfortable, during your playtime.

At the end of the day, you are responsible for your and your partner’s safety, along with their consent. Now, let’s get down to the good stuff!

Ice/Cold Play Tips

Ice Play is often where many people begin, and can encompass a lot of action. Be wary of cold burns, and keep warming items on hand, should your partner need them. Warm water, towels, and blankets make for excellent accompaniments. You can incorporate ice/cold play in the following ways:

• Freeze a Glass Dildo for Insertion, or other sex toys
• Ice Cubes for melting on your partner’s nipples, skin, and other erogenous zones.
• Ice cubes to cool your mouth before oral stimulation
• Let an ice cube melt in their belly button
• Use to increase sensations on your partner’s body before performing upon them.
• Use Cold Food to lap up, from your partner’s body
• Induce pain, with pleasure. Responsibly.

Fire/Heat Play Tips

This is a fairly common kink. Personally, my first exposure to this was in the music video to Ricky’s Martin’s 1999 smash hit, “Livin’ la Vida Loca”. Anyone else remember that? Just me? Okay then.

Again, keep your partner’s safety in mind. Make sure you know how to treat a burn (both hot and cold) as accidents do happen. Here are some Fire Play Safety Tips, but here are some fun ways to play with varying degrees of heat in the mean time!

• Hot Towels
• Warming Massages
• Warming a glass or stainless steel sex toys
• Wax Play / Candle Wax (tip, do not use just any candle wax. There are candles manufactured for the explicit purpose of temperature play.)
• Carefully playing with fire, near or directly onto a person’s skin. Responsibly.
• Use of Topicals – Massage Oils, etc.

Some experts may recommend topicals which contain compounds like capsaicin. While topicals like this can provide unique sensations, it’s important to note that they can damage and burn skin. Maybe one day I’ll regale you with a story about accidental temperature play and capsaicin ointment, but that’s… another blog. 🙈 On that note, I’ll leave you with one last temperature play tip:

Capsaicin is best removed from the skin with dish soap.

It’s Playtime!

As always, any form of kink or BDSM must be approached with consent and a detailed discussion about personal limits and desires. If you’re looking for more specific Temperature Play Tips, please feel free to reach out to me on Twitter/X, or comment on the blog below!

Listen to your partner, play wisely and safely, and you’ll have something fun to incorporate into your routine whenever you’d like!

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As I was surfing through threads today, I came across this clip from people of Pamela Anderson make-up free over and over. I’m just in awe; I cannot stop thinking about it.

Pamela came to fame as a sex symbol, and these types of figures have historically been polarizing on society at large. While they’re prized and praised for their beauty, they’re deeply sexualized and thus seen as immoral by certain demographics. As such, I believe a lot of people have preconceived notions about her that tainted their perception of Pamela Anderson as an older woman. She was fortunate to be beautiful and got paid for it! However you may feel about her youthful antics: you weren’t the same person as you were 30 years ago, were you?

If you are–well, I suggest some positive self-reflection. 🤧

 

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A True Symbol of Beauty – Make-up Free Pamela Anderson

This is the very clip I keep watching. She’s beautiful. I’m elated just looking at her, with her imperfect skin, crystal clear eyes; proudly wearing her wrinkles. She’s glowing in a way a woman only does when they finally feel free.

I feel like her soul is free, without the pressure of being youthful and performative bombshell appearances. The internet discourse about Make-up Free Pamela Anderson is so funny to me, because it doesn’t make sense. So many people praise or criticize her going make-up free, with a variety of claims about her appearance. More and more, it becomes clear to me that maybe some people don’t fully understand what it means for Pamela Anderson to be without make-up. People don’t seem to take her seriously because of her past, which I feel is a grave miscalculation.

I saw claims that she has had surgical and skin procedures most of us had not.

Now, Pamela Anderson was always naturally beautiful, with the “classic beauty” face. She maintained it. After a certain point, she did get fillers and botox. Eventually, she had the fillers removed and stated that she is no longer interested in those procedures in more recent interviews.

This is a pretty good breakdown of the work she has had over the years:

Many are objectively beautiful, but it takes a certain spark to become an icon like Pamela Anderson. And she still has that spark!

I keep gazing upon her. She doesn’t look like she aged in a superhuman way, like many stars these days like to portray well into their 50s. Pamela is in her late fifties. Her skin is imperfect and uneven, she’s got wrinkles, smile lines, and more.What she did NOT do, was try to maintain her same appearance that made her famous to begin with.

You may see the same signs of aging on yourself. And yet, she still radiates the same sparkling energy that helped make her a full-blown sex symbol, to begin with.

But that’s exactly the thing: she doesn’t look abnormally youthful for her age. She’s aging like a normal person, whose beauty made her famous. Pamela Anderson Make-up Free is wearing her “flaws” like a badge of honor. Now she’s embracing a side of herself beyond the beauty that turned her into an icon. She’s fully getting into her “crone” season and is no longer bound by what people think of her looks.

Aging is a funny thing, as a participant in aging myself. Pamela Anderson looks like a healthy, beautiful 50+ year old woman. This is somewhat symbolic of the way we have evolved to look at appearance. Pamela is making headlines because she was known for her looks, and that is why we praise her for embracing her natural aging process.

Pamela was already pretty–yes.

Lovely Pamela isn’t the same beauty she was many years ago, and she understands this very well. We always relish when a star loses their good looks as they age, but no one seems to be feeling this way about her. Perhaps it’s because the Make-up Free Pamela Anderson is still very pretty. Watching her embrace this type of freedom is probably one of the coolest things I have seen an aging sex symbol do, in a very long time. It’s a radical act of self-love, and I wish I could bottle it and sell it.

Pamela Anderson was and is a sex symbol, and also a beacon to those of us to be okay with not looking the same way we did in our youth. Embrace the changes as you age, and you’ll find your own beauty, too.

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