3 Self-Love Practices to Become The Love Of Your Life

Ever thought about becoming the love of your own life? That sounds un-romantic as hell, but hear me out! You can do it with self-love! 👋

This last week, I saw some really inspiring posts about self-love on Threads. However, a few posts about self-love really hit my soul and I wanted to share some insights with you here on the blog. In the process, I want to give you a few steps to get you on the way to becoming the love of your own life, using these nuggets of wisdom gleaned from other creators and users of the app.

That’s right. You can become the love of your life. No, this doesn’t take away from the person you love, either. Imagine what you could accomplish, if you added a little more love to your life.

3 Self-Love Practices to Become The Love Of Your Life

The path to self-love can be uncomfortable, but it’s worth it. These are some of the philosophies that have led me down a path of self-love, and helped me heal decades of trauma and struggles with self-perception. Self-love is more of a practice, than a destination. It’s a decision you have to make for yourself. These behaviors highlighted today create a foundation for self-love to form. The reality is, you cannot rely on others to give you everything, even if they are giving you the love you deserve. You still owe yourself the same love you give others!

1) Get Cringy – Idolize Yourself

I know you’re thinking this sounds corny. And I guess it is–at least, until you take self-love seriously. But you owe it to yourself to give yourself the love that others didn’t appreciate from you. You deserve to make yourself feel good.

 

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Because who the HELL else is going to do it? Even if you have to fake it, learn to get comfortable with it. Affirming behavior, while it may feel weird and unnatural at first, remember that’s just your brain patterns resisting being corrected. Go ahead–wink at yourself when you look in the mirror today. Start small. Changing thought patterns will not change overnight!

Do it until it doesn’t make you want to vomit… Anymore. 😉

2) Consider Self-Care As An Act of Self-Love

One radical thing I began to practice is loving myself the same way I’d love a partner. The more we rely on others for this validation, the more out-of-reach self-love can be. We really should be asking for more of ourselves, because we deserve that.

 

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I really don’t mean that we need to work harder on our goals, or deliver feats that are beyond our limits. I mean, we should better serve ourselves, because we cannot control how other people are going to treat us. I highly recommend reading her entire post on threads, because she outlines small acts of self-care as aspects of self-love.

Self-love is so much more than saying “I love myself.”

3) Put Yourself First

There is a fine line between being selfish and putting yourself first. Some say you have to “be a little selfish,” but that’s a bit of a negative way of looking at something so beautiful. While we may still be able to love someone the way we desire to love someone, we have to also ensure we pour into ourselves. Not to mention, to also choose partners that take care of themselves, as well. But perhaps, that’s another blog post. 😉

This is yet another aspect I have gleaned from the previous point. This user finally put herself first; not their partner. Even the little things, like correctly stocking her pantry to feed herself, creating comfort, and giving herself all the things she’s previously given partners.

 

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Having done all of the above, myself? I highly recommend it.

Self Love is Not a Destination 🪷

Think of the path to Self-Love like the growth of a lotus, my favorite flower.   The path to self-love is often arduous; a challenge. Sometimes this journey of growth begins, in the murky depths where light won’t penetrate. Sometimes, though, under the right conditions, new life begins to take root. You may not even notice it at first, no. It might be slow. Growth isn’t always the same as everyone else.

Though, soon, new leaves will begin to develop. This new life seeks more than the muddy depths can provide. Soon, new growth begins to emerge, seeking the light.

Soon, this growth sees just a little bit of light glimmering upon the surface of the water above it. It’s still down deep, but if you just give it enough time, it will make it. You have to be patient.

This new growth continues its journey, to seek the light. It must continue, to reach the light. Soon the leaves will have emerged from the mud, and then they finally approach the surface.

You see, even just breaking the surface could be just enough room to thrive and bloom.

Sometimes the path isn’t lit at all. Sometimes, there is only darkness, but somehow you have to keep moving. Trust the process; you’ll break the surface.