How to Set the Mood with Consent in Sex

Setting the mood with consent in sex doesn’t have to be tricky. You simply have to learn to adapt to changing rules, to ensure you and your partner are on the same page.

All it takes is knowing the right questions to ask, and paying attention to your partner. If you’re not willing to do those things, should you really be doing this anyway?

Perhaps asking is awkward if you’re asking to pleasure someone in the same fashion one would offer a dinner plate. Stopping to check in, or asking before changing acts is a conscious choice which eventually leads to better sex, especially when done with some added heat.

Paying Attention = Underrated Sex Skill

Simply paying attention is probably the number one thing someone can do, to improve their sex life. We don’t know about you, but there’s nothing sexier than someone who’s paying attention and actually wants you to enjoy yourself.

Checking in can be as simple as noticing someone’s reaction and asking if they want more, less, or something different. Asking “does this feel good?” or “can I try something?” is a sign you’re engaged.

Give Proactive Consent – Communication During Sex

That the hottest moments are the ones where nobody says anything and everyone magically knows what the other person wants. Right?

Except most of us are not mind readers! Communication is essential for better pleasure and removing the awkward feelings behind overthinking and combating feelings of inadequacy. What you want isn’t always what your person wants, and if you want to provide a truly holistic sexual experience, you’re going to want to communicate as much as you listen.

In addition to paying attention to your partner and asking questions when you need to, tell them what you’re enjoying, what you like, and what you want them to do! This street goes both ways!

Confidence is Sexy

Confidence, especially in the bedroom, is attractive.

You don’t need a formal consent speech, or any signed agreements, exactly. You can keep it light, flirty, even a little silly. A check-in can be a whisper, a grin, a raised eyebrow, or even a breathy, “can I go down on you?”

Communication doesn’t have to be serious to be sincere.

Beyond the Check-In – Consent in Sex

Being active goes beyond questions–providing consent as you continue is also hot! 🔥

Exhausting yourself with mental gymnastics is not benefitting your orgasm, or your partner’s orgasm. Not only is checking in valuable, but proactively telling your partner what you like and don’t want is also a critical piece.

When you know you’re on the same page, everything feels easier — and usually better. Remove some of the awkwardness of checking in by being clear with your partner about what you enjoy, what you want, AND what you want to try.

Pay Attention and Reap the Rewards

When you know someone actually wants you there, fully and enthusiastically, it changes everything.

Consent in sex doesn’t make things stiff or scripted. It makes them intentional. It turns intimacy into something shared, versus an act that is simply done to another person.

No one really likes guessing games, anyway. Check in. Because confidence is hot. Caring is hot. And orgasms come a little easier, when both partners are relaxed and comfortable during intimacy.