What is Sitophilia? If you’re hungry for an answer, we can help you dabble in this savory sensation. Who knows? Maybe we’ll awaken something new in the process! Bon appétit!

Sitophilia, a term derived from the Greek words “sitos” (food) and “philia” (love), refers to a sexual fascination with food, eating, or being fed. This unique fetish transcends the conventional boundaries of sexuality, blurring the lines between sustenance and seduction. In this article, we’ll delve into the world of sitophilia, exploring its nuances and providing ideas for those interested in exploring this fascinating aspect of human sexuality.

Sitophilia: Unraveling the Fascination with Food and Sex

At its core, sitophilia is about the eroticization of food and the act of consumption. It can manifest in various ways, such as:

• Sexual arousal from watching someone eat or being fed
• Fantasizing about food-related scenarios, like being fed by a dominant partner or engaging in food play
• Using food as a prop or tool for sexual stimulation
• Associating specific foods with sexual pleasure or intimacy
• Exploring Sitophilia, SOLO

Are you wanting to give Sitophilia a try? Here are some naughty ideas to tempt your tastebuds!

Partnered Food Play:

Experiment with different textures, temperatures, and sensations. Try feeding yourself or a partner with your hands, using utensils, or even incorporating food into foreplay. Fun foods to try include cut up fruits, sauces, jello, whipped cream, and even ice cream to combine sitophilia with a little temperature play!

Explore the role of food in power play scenarios, such as a dominant partner feeding a submissive one. This can add an exciting layer of complexity to your sitophilic exploration.

Sensual Dining:

Set up a romantic dinner with a partner, focusing on the sensory experience of eating together. Pay attention to the sounds, smells, and tastes, and see how it heightens your intimacy. You can do it in silence, and under candlelight to set the mood. Let your senses take over, you hedonist! 🤭

Food Fantasies:

Have you simply let yourself drift off into fantasy? Write down your food-related fantasies, no matter how unusual they may seem. This can help you identify patterns and desires, allowing you to explore them further.

Sensory Deprivation:

Try eating in the dark or blindfolded, heightening your sense of touch and smell. This can create a new, intense experience. You can do this by yourself, or with a partner. Take the time to enjoy the textures and flavors of the food you’ve prepared.

Remember: Sitophilia, like any fetish, requires consent, respect, and open communication with your partner(s). Ensure that all parties involved are comfortable and willing to engage in these activities. As you venture into the world of sitophilia, remember to prioritize your comfort, safety, and boundaries. This fascinating aspect of human sexuality offers a unique opportunity to explore new dimensions of intimacy and pleasure. By embracing your curiosity and creativity, you can unlock a richer, more satisfying sexual experience.

Have you even heard of Nipple Orgasms? Not only do they actually exist, but there is a sizeable part of the population that is capable of achieving orgasm from a lot of titty worship. Nipple orgasms are a real and legitimate aspect of human sexuality, offering a new frontier of sexual pleasure and exploration. By understanding the anatomy of the nipple and experimenting with different stimulation techniques, you can unlock the secrets of nipple orgasms and experience a new level of pleasure and intimacy.

When it comes to sexual pleasure, most people focus on the genital area, neglecting the treasure trove of sensations that can be found in other erogenous zones. One such often-overlooked area is the nipples. Yes, you read that right – nipple orgasms are a real thing, and they can be incredibly intense and pleasurable. Nipples can (and should be) an essential part of foreplay to increase general stimulation, but can you REALLY achieve orgasm? Let’s find out!

How Common Are Nipple Orgasms?

While there isn’t a wealth of scientific research on nipple orgasms, anecdotal evidence suggests that they are more common than you might think. Many people, regardless of gender, have reported experiencing nipple orgasms, and some even claim that they are more intense than traditional genital orgasms.

In a survey conducted by the sex education website, OMGYes, 1 in 5 women reported having had a nipple orgasm, with some even experiencing multiple orgasms in a single session. While the numbers might not be staggering, they do indicate that nipple orgasms are not an anomaly, but rather a legitimate aspect of human sexuality.

How to Have a Nipple Orgasm

The key to achieving a nipple orgasm lies in understanding the anatomy of the nipple and the surrounding area, and understanding how your body works. The nipple is a highly sensitive area, packed with nerve endings that respond to stimulation. The areola, the circular area surrounding the nipple, is also rich in nerve endings, making it an erogenous zone in its own right.

To stimulate the nipples, you can try the following techniques:

• Touch and Tease: Gently touch, caress, or stroke the nipples with your fingers or tongue. This can help build anticipation and arousal.
• Suck and Lick: Sucking and licking th e nipples can be incredibly pleasurable, especially when combined with gentle biting or nibbling.
• Pinch and Roll: Pinching or rolling the nipples between your fingers can create a delicious sensation, especially when combined with other forms of stimulation.
• Vibrations: Using a vibrator or other sex toy to stimulate the nipples can be a great way to add intensity to your play.

While some humans can experience nipple orgasm with prolonged nipple stimulation, some of us need a little bit more. Take your time, and get yourself good and warmed up. Sometimes, they may be even more sensitive after already experiencing a particularly strong orgasm. Thus meaning stimulation of the nipples can provide a sensory explosion you were not prepared to experience (but it is worth it)!

Sidenote: did you know you can use clitoral stimulators on your nipples? Check out my review of Eve’s Ravishing Rose!

So, if you’re continuing to play even after orgasm, you may want to ask your partner to perform a little titty worshiping. It’s like a reward. 😉 You’ll already be relaxed and loosened up, allowing for more unique sensations to soar.

What does a nipple orgasm feel like?

Describing the sensation can be challenging, but many people report that it’s similar to a traditional genital orgasm, but with a few key differences.

• Intense Pleasure: Nipple orgasms can be incredibly intense, with some people reporting that they feel like a wave of pleasure washing over them.
• Full-Body Sensation: Unlike genital orgasms, which are often focused in the genital area, nipple orgasms can create a full-body sensation, with pleasure radiating throughout the entire body.
• Tingling and Numbing: Some people report that nipple orgasms can create a tingling or numbing sensation in the nipples and surrounding area, which can be incredibly pleasurable.

Remember, sexual pleasure is all about exploration and experimentation, so don’t be afraid to try new things and see what works for you. And who knows – you might just discover a new favorite way to orgasm. And if you’d like to hear about my personal experience with Nipple Orgasms, go ahead and make a comment below! 😘

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Have you been asked to get freaky on the phone? If you’ve never done it before, chances are you’re wondering about the basics of how to have phone sex! We explore how intimidating phone sex can be, and offer up some quick tips to enhance your experience so you can have your own set of “Eargasms”!

Kiss Me Through the Phone: Quick Tips for Mind-Blowing Phone Sex

Do you have a long distance partner you need to satisfy? Sometimes you need to add a little spice to your Digital Getdowns, because they can’t WAIT to get you on the phone, girl!

Phone sex is a fun and very common way to ignite passion when you cannot physically be with your person. Sometimes you need to express your intimate connection via a more creative means, and phone sex is the primary way to do this! Of course, you can enhance all of this with a simple video cam session, but that may be for advanced users! 🤭 For now, let’s get you going on the basics, so you’ll be screaming your partners’ name into your phone, quickly!

Set the Mood
Phone sex can be awkward at first, but once you get turned on, you may lose exhibitions. It’s important to set the mood for, not only your partner but, for yourself! Do whatever it takes to get you in the mood.  Make sure you’re in a spot where you won’t be disturbed. Don’t be afraid to dim the lights and light a candle or two. Then think of how your partner would want to see you; put on some sexy panties that make you feel good.

Undoubtedly, they’re going to ask what you’re wearing. If you aren’t good at making it up, actually putting on something sexy definitely helps!

Paint Fantasy With Words
You only have words, so you have to make it count! You can even express desires you’ve held back from! It starts with your imagination. Be descriptive and let the words flow. Be specific and paint a picture in their heads. When things really get dirty, make sure you start describing what you’re doing, but be sensual about it! No one wants to hear how good your glass toy feels in your pussy, if you’re saying it like you’re ordering lunch (dos tacos, por favor!).

Talk about what you’d like to do to your partner and what you wish they were doing to you. Remember, the goal is to arouse and be aroused, so speak slowly, and don’t be afraid to let them hear you moan! Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to explore fantasies that you might not act out in real life. If you’re feeling brave, add something new into the conversation, even if it’s a little out-of-character. If you’re creating a safe space with your partner, you can discuss every little kink you’ve ever thought of, and base your phone sex sesh on that!

Engage the Senses
Hearing is obvious, but you can expand stimulation in a few ways! Try asking them to touch themselves a certain way, or explain how you’re using your toys. Let them guide you, and vice versa. This helps create the connection, and will definitely result in a steamier conversation!

Read Romance or Erotic Novels
If you’re having trouble finding your words, try giving erotic short stories or romance novels a try. Sometimes we have trouble putting feelings and sensations into words, and taking cues from well-written erotica (or even audio erotica!) can certainly help you keep the put simmering, by expanding your sexual imagination.

Listen and Respond
Good phone sex is a two-way street. It’s not just about talking; it’s about listening, too. Pay attention to the cues in your partner’s voice—their breaths, the speed of their speech, the tone. Respond to these cues by escalating the intensity of your own voice or by switching up the pace to match their arousal. Create a rhythm of banter, to exchange erotic thoughts, feelings, and enhance your full experience.

Hopefully we’ve given you a good rundown of the basics of how to have phone sex! Phone sex is an exhilarating way to enhance intimacy, even for partners that have access for each other. Sometimes, sex isn’t convenient for a number of reasons. Embrace fantasy, embrace words, and learn where your imagination can take you, together. If you haven’t done this before, don’t be afraid to allow your partner to lead! Sometimes, experience isn’t something to be jealous of. 😉

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Welcome to Peach Kisser Erotica! Do you want to read this story? This is a lesbian sex story that unveils a fantasy a woman may have when experiencing lust for another woman, who is serving her on a flight. She approaches her target with respect and lust, finding she is deeply rewarded for putting herself out there.

Mid-Flight Hospitality – a Lesbian Sex Story

After a surprisingly exhausting journey through airport security, amongst the bustle and anxiety produced by the very idea of travel, I finally settled into my seat on the plane. Finally, it was time to rest and ease my stressors until I got to my final destination. This was a long flight, I had prepared for all my needs that could come up for a journey like this.

As I stared off into the sky, I drifted into relaxation as the hum of the airplane engine generated a familiar lullaby in the sky. As the plane ascended, my eyes drifted to the flight attendants moving in tandem. So organized, and purposeful, and each one a vision in their neatly pressed uniforms. I couldn’t help but notice one– a redhead. She really caught my eye. Luxuriously tall with beautiful red locks that flowed in a fiery cascade. A goddess among mortals, her presence commanding yet inviting.

Her tailored uniform hugged her decadent curves, showcasing her generous chest that rose and fell with each breath. I found myself entranced by the gentle sway of her hips as she glided down the aisle, her smile a beacon of warmth in the sterile environment. Her name tag read “Annalise,” and I committed it to memory. Which is funny, because I am so terrible with names.

Annalise, a sensual mantra to accompany my elevated blood pressure as she passed.

Annalise was permeating my fantasies, distracting me from enjoying my flight.

Annalise–this goddess–moved with an elegance that belied the impossible proportions of her body. She was a living goddess fantasy; it’s like she was written by someone who truly loved women. Annalise’s breasts were full and inviting, brimming to the top of her uniform. Her skin looked supple, the kind that promised ecstasy with a single touch. I couldn’t tear my gaze away, and when our eyes met, a spark of recognition flickered between us. Had she noticed me too? Perhaps this was a silent acknowledgment of the chemistry that perfumed in the air.

As she approached, my loins were already swimming with desire. “Can I get you anything to drink?” she asked, her voice a melodic purr that resonated deep within me. Her smile hit me unexpectedly.

In this moment, I blushed to myself, almost as if I didn’t expect her to ask me anything. I stuttered, “uhh, yes, p-please.” I lamented sounding so embarrassing and sheepish, with slightly elevated blood pressure.

There would be more chances to interact with her, but this time I couldn’t muster the courage. I sat in deep contemplation, remembering I did actually have some notebook paper. “Well, I thought accounted for all my needs,” I joke to myself as I began to write her an invitation to meet me at the back of the plane.

Finally, Annalise returned to serve us once again. This time, I was prepared. I ordered a glass of wine and seized the opportunity, my hand shaking slightly as I passed her a note disguised as a napkin. Her eyes widened for a fraction of a second before she composed herself, tucking the note away with a sly wink. “I’ll be right back with your drink,” she promised, her lips curving into a knowing smile.

Minutes dragged on like hours, each second a test of my patience. Was I being rejected? When Annalise finally returned, she brushed against my arm as she handed me a glass of wine, her fingers lingering for just a moment longer than necessary. “Enjoy your flight,” she whispered, her breath hot against my ear.

I sipped my wine, even though my heart was in my stomach. I was in disbelief! The note had been simple, a bold invitation to meet at the back of the plane, where the hum of the engines would drown out our secrets. But it worked.

The only thing that can distract me is that I am stuck in a plane.

I waited for what felt like an eternity, the cabin lights dimming as passengers around me drifted off to sleep.

Then, with the stealth of a cat, I unbuckled my seatbelt and made my way to the rear of the plane. The galley was dimly lit, a sanctuary away from prying eyes. Annalise was already there, her uniform jacket discarded, revealing a blouse that strained against her ample bosom, and pretending to work.

Her eyes locked onto mine, a silent command that pulled me toward her. “I was hoping you’d actually come,” she murmured, her voice thick with desire.

“I wasn’t about to turn you down,” I confessed, my gaze hungrily roaming over her body, feeling myself salivate with my words. Annalise moved to press herself against my smaller body, the heat of her body mingling with my own. “We have to be quiet,” she warned, her fingers deftly unbuttoning my blouse. “Can you be quiet for me?”

I nodded, breathlessly full of joy that my hours of fantasizing have come to this. She kissed me then, softly. As if she was afraid to break me. She pulled me closer, gently exploring. I allowed her tongue to part my lips and fell into her arms. I moaned into the kiss, my hands finding their way to her waist, pulling her against me.

Her breasts pressed against mine. Both naturally large and soft, pressed together a tantalizing promise of what was to come. Annalise broke the kiss. And with a trembling breath, her lips began trailing down my neck, raising hairs all over my body. “I’ve been thinking about this since I saw you,” she admitted, her voice a husky whisper.

The Salacious Lust was Mutual

“I’m glad to know the feeling was mutual,” I said as I expertly unclasped her bra, freeing her breasts, which spilled into my hands. They were even more magnificent up close, soft and heavy, the nipples hardening under my touch. I leaned down, capturing one between my lips, sucking and teasing until Annalise’s breath came in ragged gasps.

Her hands were everywhere, unbuttoning my pants, slipping inside my underwear to find me wet and ready. “You’re soaked,” she breathed, her fingers circling my clit with maddening precision.

I bit my lip to stifle a moan, my hips bucking against her hand. “Please,” I begged, being mindful to keep this trip to the mile-high club at a whisper.

Annalise understood. Within moments, her fingers disappeared inside of me, only to return slick with my arousal. I clung to her, allowing my face to become completely overtaken between her breasts.

The pleasure built within me, a veritable ticking timebomb was waiting to explode within me. I rode her hand, my movements frantic and uncoordinated, desperate for release. Annalise watched me, her eyes dark with lust, her own breathing labored as she brought me to the brink.

“Come for me,” she commanded, somehow so firmly through a whisper. At the moment those words left her lips, I became enraptured by an orgasm crashing over me like a wave. There was no ease into it, she had body was shaking with lust and fervor. Immediately as I came, Annalise held me close. Her fingers still moved inside of me, as she wanted to make sure she drew out every last shudder of pleasure.

As I came to from the explosiveness of lust and the heights of orgasm, desperate to provide her the same release. I sank to my knees, my hands trembling as I unzipped her skirt. Annalise stepped out of it, revealing her lacy underwear. I hooked my fingers around the waistband, pulling them down slowly, revealing her arousal immediately. Her panties were soaked.

Ready for a Taste

As she stood before me, I pressed my face against her, inhaling her scent. My tongue was desperate to taste her, as she guided my mouth directly to those red curls. With her hands firmly grasping my long, brown locks, I lapped at her, my tongue delving into her folds, exploring her with a hunger I couldn’t contain.

She tasted as divine as I expected. She contained a sweetness that was all her own. I found her clit fully erect and ready for pleasure. I began circling it with my tongue, flicking it gently before fully enveloping it within my lips as I worked her clit with my tongue. Annalise’s breathing grew erratic, and she began pushing herself into my face, as if I was able to explore her more deeply. “Fuck, yes,” she hissed, her voice laced with desperation.

I redoubled my efforts, eager to bring her the same pleasure she had given me. My fingers joined my tongue, sliding inside her, curling to find exactly the right spot to ensure she received the same earth shattering orgasm.

Annalise’s body tensed, her fingers tightening in my hair. “I’m coming,” she gasped, trying her best to contain her voice. Those thick thighs were quivering around my head, as I gazed up at her beautiful, nude body. Naturally, I kept my focus. My tongue and fingers working in unison until she collapsed against the counter, spent and sated.

It was a sapphic fantasy I couldn’t believe it was happening to me. It was like sleeping with a goddess.

As we basked in the afterglow, we remained still, catching our breath with our bodies still intertwined. “That was… incredible,” Annalise panted, her eyes shining with satisfaction. I smiled, pride swelling within me. “I’m glad I could make your flight more enjoyable,” I teased, pressing a gentle kiss to her inner thigh, which made her shudder.

With a sigh, Annalise began to dress, her movements slightly shaky from her orgasmic quivers. “You certainly did,” she said with a grin. She giggled and handed me a bottle of water. “We should probably get back to our seats before someone notices we’re missing.”

I nodded knowingly, and smiled before adjusting my clothes and smoothing my hair. We shared one last, lingering look before slipping back into the cabin, our secret rendezvous hidden behind polite smiles and professional facades.

As the plane descended towards our destination, I reveled in the thrill of excitement still coursing through my veins. I had tasted the forbidden fruit of Annalise’s desire, and it was sweeter than I could have ever imagined.

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I had an excellent haul from Adam & Eve, and I was really excited to dig in for my very own Twisted Love Glass Dildo review. There was a sale running when I tossed this glass bad boy into my cart, and I am glad I had the chance to give it a go.

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The search was on for a new glass dildo, and this happened to be the one that caught my eye. I was looking for a few key factors. It had been a few years since I had one in my personal collection, and knew I enjoyed a lot of texture, and a multi-functional handle. I also wanted it to be visually interesting, since the last one I had was completely clear. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to admire what goes inside your pussy, after all. *wink*

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Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo Review – Toy Description

The manufacturer exclaims that this toy has “4 Stimulating Features Will Drive You Both Wild!” so I had to investigate. This is a double-ended dildo that can be used by yourself or with a partner, with features especially designed for the P-Spot, as well as the G-Spot! While I don’t have a p-spot, I do still have two holes available for pleasuring with this very pleasing glass dildo.

Key Features (directly from the manufacturer website)

Double-ended glass toy offers something fun for everyone
Main shaft is gently curved to serve as a G-Spot or prostate stimulator
Plug-shaped shaft ideal for backdoor fun or sharing with a partner
Blue swirls run up and down both ends for additional stimulation
Heat it up for a soothing massage or Cool it down for spine-tingling thrills
Handmade with shatter-resistant glass for an extremely durable toy
Use with water-based & silicone-based lubes

It’s quite pretty, actually. The photos on the website do it justice. Upon first looks, the curve is appealing. I’m already imagining the sensations, accented by the decorative swirls for additional stimulation. The shaft is intentionally buttplug-shaped! That helps you create interesting sensations, for sharing or solo fun.

Since it’s glass that means that there is the option for temperature play! I welcome any opportunity to play with sensations, and temperature play is one of my favorite kinks. So let’s dive into what makes this toy my new favorite glass dildo.

First-Hand Use of Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo

Having been a fan of glass dildos for a number of years, I was excited to finally get the Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo in my hands. This may not seem like an important detail to some, or for those that have never used a glass dildo, but the weight was exactly what I was looking for, along with texture.

With a glass dildo, I definitely don’t want something as thick as my silicone dildos. I want something that can sit comfortably in my vagina, allowing me to pleasure myself via other means at times, while still making its presence known and not getting pushed out so easily.

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When I am engaged in solo play, I often switch back and forth between toys. This creates a lot of varying sensations, before I even allow myself to orgasm. This dildo accomplished that feat, sitting comfortably inside of me, while I used other toys like my Ravishing Rose to stimulate my clit.

I first approached this toy at room temperature, which is still cool to the body. You’ll feel it as soon as you insert inside your orifice of choice. I chose to use this vaginally, though it does have fun features for anal, aside from its obvious buttplug shaped handle!

The smooth head makes the entrance so much more palpable and stimulating. Some dildos can be a bit too pointy for my tastes, and this was perfect.

Glass toys from my past collections have textured heads. I must say I prefer the smoothness of this toy. It slides in like silk, without too many rough corners or edges. I used a water-based lubricant, as always, to get things rocking and rolling quickly.

Moreover, it’s really just a beautiful toy. The swirls and twists of blue add texture to your experience, creating more stimulation. The curve in the toy is perfect for maneuvering inside, allowing even more control over your stimulation. You can easily point this head anywhere you need while engaged in penetration, to find all your ideal pleasure zones.

Final Notes and Where to Buy

This toy is easy to clean, delightful to use, and even has features that even allow for anal specific fun!

Make sure you have a really good toy cleaner, but you can buy the Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo by clicking here on Amazon, or via any of the product links!

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The Alchemy of Love – A Love Letter to My Past

While I have never been keen on dating advice, I am also not one to hide my stories and share what I have learned. While I may not share these stories with anyone unprompted, I felt inspired to write a bit about how I have learned to become a better partner, find an ideal partner, and how I’ve managed to keep faith in love, in spite of the pain and sorrow peppered throughout my love life lore.

In my age and wisdom, I have found that when it comes to love, age has come with wisdom. That wisdom came from loving freely, and believing completely that giving love meant that I should expect it in return.

Well, love doesn’t quite work like that.

Perhaps it’s the current astrological transits, or perhaps because I’m ruminating on getting older. Perhaps it’s the feeling of finally being in a loving, safe situation with the actual ideal partner. Whatever it may be, I have found myself reflecting on the dramatics of my love life, from passionate nights to heavy traumas, and how they have impacted me as the partner I have become.

As I reflect on my ability to fully comprehend the joy of my life, I find I was not always this amorous. This time, I have found myself reflecting on past mistakes, triumphs, and glories that have led me to this place in my life where I finally feel secure. I feel loved, and appreciated and experience passion every day of my life, and I wouldn’t have manifested this without learning from my mistakes. One critical portion of my unsolicited dating advice: learn from your mistakes.

Alchemy is the practice of taking something; an object, a thought, a desire, and turning it into something new. It’s the magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. And all you need is to see love and life for what it is, in actuality.

Experiencing Romantic Love 

This could be a controversial statement, but: Love is not unusual, nor is it hard to find. Good, honest love is hard to find, but love itself?

Working with the belief that LOVE is as much of an emotion as it is an action and activity to participate in, helps put things into perspective. It’s easy to have a bad relationship and think you didn’t LOVE that person.

Sometimes that action, in love, is simply “being in a relationship” or “enjoying a passionate night together”. You can find love anywhere. You can find sexual passion in a bar, you can find a lover on an app. Sometimes we look for love in “all the wrong places,” but sometimes you get it right!

I fundamentally believe that romantic love is meant to be experienced in various times of your life, including when you’re too young to understand it. Lovers are meant to come and go, as are friends. Lovers are here to teach. Some may call them soul mates, even, or soul partners.

Many people have different beliefs on soul mates, and mine leaves room for multiple people to come into your lives. I don’t believe in “twin flames”, or in soul mates in the conventional sense of the word. I believe in the Elizabeth Gilbert philosophy of soulmates, which spoke to me after one of the hardest breakups I have ever experienced in my life. This can be taken as a piece of relationship or dating advice, as you move through your quest to find love.

Some relationships aren’t meant to last forever, even if you want them to last. This is where your life lessons come in, and taking lessons from your relationship is critical to finding something that suits you. If you want to see the OWN interview where Elizabeth Gilbert said this, you can watch it here. It came to me at an extremely impactful time.

Dating Advice – Learn From Your Relationships

After leaving a long-term relationship, I found myself a little confused as to the type of person I really wanted in my life. I knew it wasn’t my ex, but I was not sure where I wanted to go from there. 

Falling victim to the romantic idea of “what could have been,” I came across a man I had dated in the past. We dated in our twenties, and it was fun! It did not work out, and he spent many, many years wondering about me now and again. He knew he screwed up back then, and made sure to address it when speaking to me again. 

There were a few times he had reached out over the years, and I was usually in another relationship. But this time, I was single. He was just my type! This guy had a good job, he lived on his own, and took care of himself. However, it wasn’t long until he started getting more vulnerable, then started acting odd and distant.

As gung-ho as he was about a second chance with me, he slowly withdrew. I tried prompting him about it, and it was like talking to a wall. So, I left it alone. I simply did not reach out anymore.

It’s Not Always Personal

At the time, I was feeling glad I had not slept with him yet. While the lesson may seem obvious, I feel like the lesson was even deeper than not falling for “what could have been”. We ain’t Ashanti OR Nelly. This isn’t going to work out. 

It was learning that no matter what happens, no matter how much time has passed, most people do not change. To me, the lesson was that those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it. 

These same themes can be repeated even in relationships that had nothing to do with the original.

All of this helped me arrive at the most critical piece of dating advice I can give: Be truly intentional when picking your partner. Knowing what you want and don’t want is key.

Applying The Lessons

I fundamentally believe you can love someone in spite of their faults, and want to see the best in them. Otherwise flawed people would have never received our love to begin with. However, you’re not learning from love if you are not applying the lessons. 

We love humans; we don’t love products. There are human responses to things that may be considered positive or detrimental. When you begin to learn what is detrimental to you specifically, you need to take a step back when that is demonstrated in a partner.

You’ve already been there, baby.

Patterns repeat until they’re disrupted, and your job is to disrupt the pattern. Whether it be by a breakup, a conversation or something else. I have said it before and I’ll say it again, but when it comes to partnerships, closed mouths don’t get fed.

Understanding what you have experienced is crucial to enhance your own human experience. We learn not to touch a hot stovetop because it’s hot, but we don’t like to apply that to people that may not have the best intentions or who may be stumbling through their life journey. I’m telling you that if we aren’t applying what we learn, we are going to have the same experiences over and over. 

Whether it’s learning how to implement boundaries, learning what you truly want in a partner, or even learning to accept accountability– these are all lessons I have taken from relationships to help me grow. This is when life became fruitful.

Expecting Imperfection

People don’t come out of the box perfect. Our manufacturer didn’t design us in the same way a product is placed into production. Accepting your own flaws, as well as the flaws of others, is just a small piece of the dating advice sprinkled throughout this piece. There are no plans, so that means we come with faults. They are inherent. This is human. This is our gift and our curse. 

We cannot expect perfection where we are imperfect, ourselves. When we give our love to someone, it should be immediately reflected in our own self-love. After all, if we’re putting faith in someone else, we should be able to put a little into ourselves as well, no?

To all those I’ve loved before,

The ones with unique faces, big ears, curly hair, long hair, no hair. To the ones who were fat and bald and imperfect; the ones who had doll faces and long locks; the ones who wanted me to swing, the ones who were sexually confused. Oh! And we cannot forget the ones who ran the spectrum of ethnicities, the ones who have hurt me, the ones who have loved me–genuinely or disingenuously…

You all taught me valuable lessons, harshly and softly. Once I healed from the friction of your love or pain, those lessons became law. Pain became transmuted, and I created something even greater out of myself and my life. The “Sorcerer’s Stone,” if you will. For that, I thank you. 

And that, is the Alchemy of Love.

To Me. 💋

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Sexual taboos have been a part of society for ages! But what if I told you that some of these taboos could actually benefit you? Let’s debunk these myths and explore how embracing certain sexual taboos can be good for your well-being. This list is by no means exhaustive, and they’re certainly not all meant for everyone.

This is a list of fun ideas to help ignite the potential in your bedroom! My advice:  proceed with caution! Make sure you understand your own boundaries before making any changes in your relationship. Not all of these ideas will work for everyone, but we should all be aware of the ways “taboo” ideals can improve our love lives.

7 Sexual Taboos (That Are Good For You)

1. The Power of Role-playing

Have you ever dabbled in acting? 🎭  Whether you’re exploring a new persona or enacting a fantasy, role-playing adds an element of excitement and playfulness to your intimate encounters.

The beauty of role-playing lies in its ability to break down inhibitions. This opens a door to candid conversations about desires and preferences. You can explore hidden facets of your personality and unleash a sense of freedom in expressing your deepest fantasies. Role-playing goes beyond the physical act – it delves into the realms of emotion and imagination, enriching your sexual experiences with a touch of theatricality and intrigue.

2. Exploring BDSM Dynamics

Diving into BDSM dynamics can foster trust, communication, and a deeper understanding of your desires and boundaries. This realm of sexual exploration transcends mere physicality, delving deep into the psychology of power dynamics and consent. Contrary to misconceptions, BDSM is grounded in mutual respect and clear communication. This creates space for partners to navigate complex desires and boundaries openly.

Exploring BDSM dynamics encourages individuals to confront their vulnerabilities and communicate their needs effectively, fostering personal growth and self-acceptance. By engaging in safe, sane, and consensual practices, partners can build a strong foundation of trust and understanding, paving the way for transformative experiences that transcend the confines of conventional relationships. So, don’t be afraid to delve into the world of BDSM; embrace the complexities, explore your boundaries, and nurture a deeper sense of connection with your partner.

3. The Beauty of Sensory Deprivation

Sensory deprivation can enhance sensitivity, intensify pleasure, and increase mindfulness during intimate moments, leading to a profound sensory experience. In a world filled with constant stimuli, the art of sensory deprivation offers a unique opportunity to heighten awareness and focus on the sensations of the present moment. By limiting external distractions, individuals can delve into a state of heightened sensitivity, where even the slightest touch can send waves of pleasure through their being.

The beauty of sensory deprivation lies in its ability to create a cocoon of intimacy, where partners can connect on a profound level by immersing themselves in the sensory experience. By removing the distractions of sight, sound, and other stimuli, individuals are able to tap into their primal instincts and enhance their connection with each other. Sensory deprivation invites individuals to explore the depths of their desires and emotions, allowing for a more intimate and fulfilling sexual encounter.

4. Open Relationships: Honesty and Freedom from Sexual Taboo

This “sexual taboo” is definitely not for everyone! Be that as it may, many include it within our sexual repertoire to excellent results! To me, it boils down to more of a societal taboo. Be warned: It does require a huge unlearning process, if you’re conditioned for monogamy.

Non-monogamous relationships can provide opportunities for emotional growth, self-discovery, and the celebration of diverse forms of love and connection. The traditional view of relationships often limits the scope of love and intimacy to monogamous partnerships. By embracing non-monogamy, individuals can explore the fluidity of human connections. This allows for a deeper understanding of themselves and their capacity for love.

5. Sex Toys in the Bedroom

Integrating sex toys into your sexual repertoire can provide a lot of surprising benefits! They can enhance pleasure, improve sexual health, and encourage exploration of your own body and desires. The stigma surrounding sex toys as taboo or shameful has long inhibited individuals from exploring the vast landscape of pleasure they offer. However, incorporating sex toys into intimate encounters can lead to a deeper understanding of one’s body, preferences, and erogenous zones, enhancing the overall sexual experience.

The liberation of sex toys lies in their ability to ignite passion, creativity, and spontaneity in the bedroom, transforming routine encounters into exciting and experimental adventures. Whether used solo or with a partner, sex toys can open up new avenues of pleasure, stimulating both the body and the mind. By embracing the diverse functions and forms of sex toys, individuals can break free from societal taboos and embrace a more fulfilling and liberated sexual expression.

6. The Art of Dirty Talk

Engaging in dirty talk can heighten arousal, improve communication in the bedroom, and enhance intimacy by verbalizing desires and fantasies. The power of words in the realm of intimacy is profound, capable of evoking desire, building anticipation, and strengthening emotional bonds. Dirty talk offers a playful and exciting way to express fantasies and exercise consent. This expands intimacy, creating a shared language of intimacy between partners.

Start simple with telling them that you love how they feel. Let your creative juices flow!

7. Reclaiming Sexual Wellness Through Tantra

The essence of Tantra lies in its emphasis on presence, awareness, and intention during intimate moments, creating a space for deep emotional connection and profound pleasure. By incorporating Tantric practices into your sexual routine, you can tap into an expansive reservoir of sexual energy and connection, leading to a heightened sense of arousal and intimacy. Tantra invites individuals to explore the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, reclaiming sexual wellness as a sacred and transformative journey.

What are some other fun ideas to keep things brewing in the bedroom? Let’s get rid of the stigma of sexual taboos, together! Comment below, or let me know on social media!

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Have you tried the Ava Vibrator Wand? I know I’ve tried other products that looked as sleek, with similar designs. Unfortunately, the last one I had did not make it past a use or two.

Not because I have a vulva from hell, but they simply wouldn’t charge. Oh well. At least I get to enjoy THIS version of the wand, as I was looking forward to enjoying a vibrator that had a wider surface area. Bullet vibrators may be worth using, but I personally love a more expansive vibrational experience. Let’s see what this super affordable vibrator is packin’!

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Toy Description – Ava Vibrator Wand

Meet your new secret pleasure pal! This discreet darling packs a punch with 20 patterns and 8 speeds of pure bliss. 

The manufacturer states that it’s as quiet as a whisper, so you can get your vibe on without anyone knowing. The cherry on top? A battery that lasts an impressive 2.5 hours+ on a single recharge, so you can keep the fun going all night long. 

Plus, cleaning up is a breeze – just a quick wash down with soap and water, and you’re good to go!

Key Features (directly from the manufacturer website)

• Water Resistant
• Easy to Clean
• Non-Toxic
• Medical-Grade Silicone
• 20 patterns, 8 intensities, and an Intuitive Memory

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First-Hand Use

This wand works wonders, but watch out! Crank it up to the higher settings, and you might find yourself holding onto a wild, buzzing beast that’ll make your hands tingle with excitement (or maybe just go numb!). The sleek design is smooth as silk and perfectly symmetrical, which is great for aesthetics but can be a bit tricky to navigate in the dark or under the covers. You might find yourself fumbling to find the right button or accidentally hitting the wrong one—oops! But hey, a little mystery adds to the fun, right?

This beauty has all the surface area you could dream of—go wide or get intricate, whatever floats your boat! With intensities ranging from a gentle tease to a mind blowing ‘I mean business’ vibe, versatility is the name of the game here. Trust me, you’ll love being able to tweak this baby in so many ways to hit just the right spot. Plus, both sides serve different purposes, so consider it a 2-in-1 pleasure tool.

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Mine came with a charging cable—DC on one end, USB on the other. But here’s where things get a bit cheeky: the entrance for the DC end might leave you scratching your head. Instead of an open hole, it’s sealed with a thick silicone skin. Yep, you heard it right! Just plug that charging prong right in—no breaking the silicone necessary. Technology’s getting pretty kinky, huh? The silicone will give way to the prongs, and your toy will be ready to rumble once again.

As far as the noise. Well… I wouldn’t call it whisper-quiet.  Noise with this toy changes depending on how you’re using it. I did really enjoy the Intuitive Memory feature. It maintains the same vibes you were enjoying, where you left off. In case you get interrupted, you can simply turn your toy back on, and get back to business!

I can’t speak to long-term durability and performance just yet, but let me tell you, this toy is a no-brainer to add to your collection! With its sleek design, powerful vibes, and versatility, it’s a steal at such an affordable price.

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Want to learn how to feel sexier? If you’re struggling to feel sexy, babe– you are not alone! As I have grown older, I have realized how sexiness is not one-dimensional. Conventional attractiveness or not, love isn’t only exclusive to the most beautiful among us. There are dozens of things that go into attraction!

When battling with my body throughout the years–going from size-to-size–I have found that there isn’t a great way to escape self-criticism without intentional conditioning. I remember when I was in my early twenties, I had an undiagnosed disorder. It caused me to gain weight and also kept me from losing weight.

How to Feel Sexier – Conditioned Self-Love

One evening, I was out having an excellent time with an old friend. She and I took photos together, we imbibed, and had a fabulous girls’ night. When the photos were unveiled, I was horrifyingly embarrassed by my relaxed GUT.

Okay, it was more than “relaxed”.

The kicker: she was a larger girl. When she went to intentionally lose weight some months later, she used that same photo of us, as her BEFORE photo. While demonstrating her weight loss in a solo “After” photo.

She LEFT me in the photo. There I was gazing at my unaddressed gut, while my friend flaunted her new body. Pictured right next to me, no less!

Naturally, feeling self-conscious, I asked her to crop me out. She declined. I was absolutely stewing inside and felt humiliated, but the experience clearly left a mark. In spite of such Mean Girl behavior, I took it with about as much grace as anyone could muster, and dropped it.

Framed this way, it was certainly humiliating. Though, looking back, it was less about my appearance than it was about my friendship. However, I do still wonder if I would have had an easier time swallowing it then, had I managed to accept my body for what it was.

People and society have ways to bring us down, and show us our insecurities. And sometimes the wrong people do it on purpose, when none of it matters. Now, I am glad body positivity exists, because it certainly helped me accept my body along the way, in my own personal health journey.

Here are the things I have kept in mind over the years to keep my head straight, regardless of my size:

5 Perspectives for a Body Positive Mindset

Add Something Sensually Inspired Into Your Daily Routine: 

In terms of how to feel sexier, this has the most immediate effects. Put on something that looks good on you. Wear the perfume you bought for special occasions. Wear that bold lipstick you’ve been putting off wearing. Sometimes a little red lipstick goes a long way. Ain’t nothing a little red lipstick can’t fix.

Put on those sexy panties. You deserve to feel good.

Move your body.

Even in a larger body, you should be moving. Practicing movement at every stage in your body acceptance journey is helpful! Not only does exercise boost feel-good chemicals known as endorphins, but it keeps you mobile, keeps you healthy, and you’ll get stronger overtime.

Move as much as you are able. It has many positive effects! Even if it’s just a sensual dance around your apartment, put on that music and enjoy it for once.

Curate Your Exposure.

I’ve been working in the adult industry for many years now. I can tell you a few things: there is no single type of “attractive”. I have seen hundreds of pornstars cycle through, during my time working in the industry. One thing I can say is that they ALL look different. Thick girls, plain girls, small tits, BBW, big tits, fake tits, saggy tits, bellies, 6 packs, fit women, blonde, brunette, redhead, tall, thin, petite, AMAZON–it’s all there!

I want you to remember that your vastness renders cameras useless, and the sight of you would make even the mountains lose their breath.

-Whitney Hanson

Don’t Project It On Your Partner.

Hey, if they caused you to feel a certain way about your body, that’s another story altogether. If you’re in a healthy relationship, they most likely did not.

Your partner chose to love you. Give them some grace, and ask for them to give you some, too! It’s perfectly normal to have feelings of inadequacy in a relationship, but they can be resolved with love and patience on both sides.

Be open with them, so they can understand. If it’s affecting your relationship, remember that your partner loves you. They fell in love with you and your body as it already was, and that’s incredibly special! Give them some grace and trust that they do actually want to sleep with you.

Oh, and let your partner touch you in the spots you hate. In my experience, they do so because they like them!

Honor your Multitudes, Loving Yourself

As for that old photo of myself? I can still see that  photo, adjacent to my newly fit friend, in my 20s–it’s burned in my brain. My weight has fluctuated through the years. As a woman who has been each size from 8-22, I have had many struggles with my body, and am learning to embrace the flaws. At every size, there is someone telling you that you’re not good enough somewhere. The only escape you can make is by making a choice. You must make a choice to consciously un-learn self-hatred.

Look at the people you love. Are you judging their fat rolls? Do you think less of them for their stretch marks? Remember, those who love you do not see your imperfections the way you do. You’re sexy and whole, and full of flaws and beauty.

God, have you ever SEEN your smile? You do this thing when you laugh! It makes me grin from ear to ear. 🥰.

Body positivity does have an impact on how we view ourselves sexually, and our overall self-esteem. Body acceptance comes with age, but can be created with intentional habits focused on the actual reality of your situation. Remember, you contain multitudes. Self-love may take a little work, but you deserve to love yourself as much as you deserve to receive love from others! And if you need more body positivity tips, you’ll love my friend over at Buzzing Babe, with a blog full of positive affirmations, and more sex toy reviews!

You are so much more than your body, and so much sexier than you even realize. Even then, your body is beautiful and worth the pleasure that life offers. You just have to believe it, accept it, and give yourself the grace and love you deserve.

@whitneyhansonpoetryi’ve been hard on myself lately and i wrote this because i needed it.♬ original sound – Whitney Hanson

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Today we discuss the Diamimio Thrusting Dildo Vibrator, as one of the newest editions to my pleasure drawer. Sometimes you’re in the mood for something other vibrators simply cannot offer–thrusting!

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I was excited to get down with this toy from first unboxing. It’s big and shiny, and I like how realistic it is. However, I really wanted something that was both realistic and capable of thrusting.

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Toy Description – Diamimio Thrusting Dildo Vibrator

The Diamimio Thrusting Dildo Vibrator is a top selling sex toy. This realistic dildo does a lot more than others, with 8 thrusting modes and 10 vibrating modes to offer up incredible variety in your routine.

This toy features a remote control and a powerful suction cup base, for some flexibility in your pleasure play.

• Key Features (directly from the manufacturer website)
• Realistic Touch and Feel
• 8 Powerful Thrusting Modes &10 Vibrating Modes
• Easy to Clean
• USB Rechargeable
• Body-Safe, Medical-Grade Silicone
• Powerful Suction Cup
• 8.4″ and 6.1″ insertion length, and the width diameter is 1.6 in

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First-Hand Use

I’ve been around the block a few times when it comes to sex toys, but this one? Wow! From the moment I ripped open the box, I was hooked. The quality is tdexcellent and you can tell the designers put some serious thought into the details. The texture? Surprisingly realistic. And the material? Just right – soft where you want it, firm where you need it. It doesn’t look as realistic as you might think, but it definitely felt as much.

This dildo that’s been my go-to for some hands-free fun. This badboy has a suction cup base that’s like a dream come true for anyone who loves to mix things up. I’ve stuck it to the shower wall and let me tell you, it’s like having a super-hot, always-ready partner who knows exactly how to hit the spot every time. I have a small shower! It’s got this incredible grip that doesn’t budge, so you can just let go and ride the waves of ecstasy.

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I’m obsessed with how effortless it is to clean this toy – and the fact that it’s made from body-safe materials is a major plus for me! Whether I’m indulging in solo pleasure or sharing it with a partner, this toy has become an absolute must-have in my collection.

With its clever combination of G-spot and anal stimulation, this bad boy is perfect for solo sessions or couples’ playtime. The realistic feel and cutting-edge tech will have you screaming with pleasure, making it an absolute must-have for any discerning pleasure-seeker. If you’re searching for a dildo that feels ridiculously close to the real deal, I highly recommend giving this lil’ fella a try.