Is the outrage justified, or just another day of people not knowing how to act? Some of us see it for what it is: Marketing.

As a former agency marketer, I see so many layers of nuance. But also I have worked in the adult industry for the better part of the last decade. My takes on sexuality are far more nuanced than most people’s sensibilities. So today, we’re just going to unpack the conversations. Let’s go:

Not for Children Anymore – Breaking the Disney Curse

Let’s be honest: Did you think she was going to make G-rated sitcoms for tweens forever? She’s 26-years-old, babes. It’s called growing up. Wouldn’t it be a little weird to expect someone pushing 30 to still be doing musical numbers in a cafeteria? This isn’t GLEE.

The Disney-to-diva pipeline is alive and well, and Sabrina is just the latest to set the path on fire. People who think she is meant for children are just WEIRD at this point.

She’s made herself clear: she is not a child.

Have we learned nothing from Miley? Sure, Miley Cyrus did it with a sudden shift that rocked her fanbase. One day she was swinging naked on a wrecking ball, grinding on Robin Thicke, and licking construction tools. Iconic? Yes. Subtle? Absolutely not.

Sabrina chose the slow-burn glow-up, and became a woman before our very eyes, if you paid attention. Even if you think she didn’t. Over time, the eyeliner got darker, her outfits got sexier, and suddenly she’s singing lyrics that you’d rather not have your young ones singing along to, in the car.

You either clocked the transformation early, or you’re still stuck in 2016.

Sabrina was never going to stay your childhood fave forever, though her initial roles were minor. She used smart branding to go from “that girl from Girl Meets World” to a chart-topping, headline-snatching provocateur. And now? She’s just playing the game.

You’re angry about marketing.

Pushing Societal Boundaries – Sabrina Carpenter

From Madonna simulating masturbation on stage (she was almost arrested) in the ’90s to Britney strutting through a high school in a sexy schoolgirl outfit, women in pop have always had to push boundaries just to be taken seriously. And Sabrina?

She’s commanding like a seasoned professional; not reinventing the wheel.

Her past albums like Emails I Can’t Send and Short n’ Sweet already hinted at a bolder, unfiltered Sabrina.

It’s painfully obvious that this album cover is tongue-in-cheek light submission. She’s not afraid to bring these concepts to the forefront, to cause a commotion. I noted, however, that it’s in juxtaposition with the lead single “Manchild” where she is clearly not praising men.

A purposeful contradiction, it seems. Have you noticed that her whole brand has been about being tongue-in-cheek? For the less perceptive (or non-fans) among us, it’s only jarring.

It’s enough to make middle America write strongly worded Facebook posts. Which means… the marketing is working.

The additional uproar is not understanding that she’s creating imagery of kinks that are not mainstream: Pup Kinks. Woof.

So… Um. What Is a Pup Kink?

So, this is the part where the pearl-clutchers really lost their minds. The imagery was immediately obvious to me as an allusion to a submission/pup kink.

So, a “pup kink” is a roleplay-based fetish, where one partner pretends to be a puppy. That’s it. No actual dogs involved. It’s about submission, playfulness, and power dynamics, often involving collars, leashes, or wagging tails (yes, really).

Did Sabrina explicitly say this is what she’s referencing? Kinda. It’s purposely provocative. It’s marketing. And it worked.

If you want to learn more about other kinks and fetishes, make sure to check out our Sexually Speaking category!

Your Puritanism is Showing

Deep down, we’re still clutching onto purity culture like our virginity at Bible camp. OR maybe it’s because people still think she’s making music for children, which she never did.

Let it go. Men write lyrics about date rape and assault, and people are less apt to lose their minds. Kinks aren’t anti- or pro-feminism. They’re kinks. She’s displaying them in a way that looks like a lot of things to the uneducated masses, and is wide open for misinterpretation.

This is her art.

At the end of the day, I don’t think overt kink has a place in pop culture. I think some things are only meant for some circles. It’s the same reasoning why I don’t think kinky sexual acts should be on display at Pride. Same reasoning why I don’t wanna talk about your bedroom acts when we’re just trying to eat brunch.

It’s a nuanced conversation, but certain parts of this conversation are extremely cut and dry.

There’s a time and a place.

A Culture Afraid of Sex, but not Violence

We all have to learn about sex at some point, and it’s inarguably healthier to understand, so you can express yourself one day and in appropriate timeframes.

Have you noticed that violence is far more accepted than sexuality? Sabrina is exposing people’s real thoughts about sex, which don’t seem to have progressed far beyond the days where Madonna released her Sex Book in 1992.

Ask yourself how you’d respond if the imagery was violent, as opposed to a BDSM dynamic that isn’t actually harmful. Her hair isn’t even being pulled aggressively. You’re just imagining violence, here.

Besides, she KILLED A MAN in a music video. Where was the uproar?

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The Evolution of a Pop Star

We should all be free to explore our desires without shame. That’s what Peach Kisser is all about! Sabrina Carpenter’s latest era expands her brand with a little more edge. What she is doing isn’t feminism, however it’s the fruit of the work feminists have done, to allow women to make choices and become provocateurs. Whether it’s a moral failing on her or not doesn’t matter. At the end of the day, it’s marketing and branding that works.

Sabrina is not here to babysit your kids, and she never was. She’s not meant for children, and a lot of people seem to struggle with that concept. At the end of the day, we must all get better acquainted with the concept of nuance.

So if you’re still clutching your pearls, maybe it’s time to loosen that necklace. You’ve played right into her hands with the outrage, and as a marketer? That looks like success.

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In this Peach Kisser series, we hope to tell some stories you have never heard, or that may be especially fascinating. These may be about people of note, ancient gods, or wildly fascinating accounts of human sexuality through the ages. Suggestions are welcome, as we are always looking to learn and educate others!

Today we’re taking a look at the woman nicknamed “The Goddess Of Love,” with a glamorous and erotic entertainment career, and a life full of drama. The more I uncover about her, the more I have become by her life and controversies. I absolutely fell in love with Mexican sex icon Lyn May!

Lyn May was famous (and infamous) in Mexican entertainment for her dramatic love life, her dazzling good looks, as well as for her stage and screen performances. Behind the glamour, however, lay a life of turmoil, marked by exploitation, addiction, and heartbreak.

Who Was Lyn May?

Lyn May, born Lilia Guadalupe Mendiola Mayares on December 12, 1949, was a Mexican Vedette, actress, model, and performer. As an entertainer, she captivated Mexico with her charm and uniquely good looks. Lyn proved to be a popular sex symbol, and appeared in numerous films, television shows, and colorful stage productions.

What is a Mexican Vedette?

The rough translation of a “Vedette” is “showgirl”.

Vedettes entertained audiences through singing, dancing and acting, much like you would expect in any cabaret performance. Lyn May, originally a cabaret performer, and still entertains. She even still maintains a popular instagram account showing off her full glam and live performances!

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Early Life and Career

Born in the picturesque town of Nuxco, Tecpan de Galeana, Guerrero, Mexico, Lyn May is of Chinese Ancestry. This made her unique amongst other vedettes and performers of the time when she rose to stardom. She began her career as a cabaret dancer in Acapulco, making her way across Mexico into many stage shows and productions.

While performing in Mexico City, Lyn was discovered by filmmaker Alberto Isaac who casted her in his famous film Tivoli (1974). The film proved to be a success, which made Lyn May a star! May was catapulted into stardom! This meant more work and more fans!

The starlet’s career began to expand, helping her land more roles in Mexican telenovelas and comedies. She was among the most popular stars in “Ficheras,” which was a film genre that could be described as “erotic comedy,” showcasing her range as a dramatic and comedic actress.

Some of her most notable roles include Carnival Nights (1978), The Loving Ones (1979), Spicy Chile (1983).

Lyn May Love Life

While Lyn May proved to be a fascinating performer, her private life was equally fascinating.

Throughout her career, Lyn May was frequently linked high-profile figures. Her charm, allure, and exotic beauty made her a favorite among Mexico’s elite, navigating their world with ease. The combination of her sensuality and her status as a showgirl made her a fascinating figure, and her romantic entanglements with powerful men only added to her mystique.

Though Lyn May was careful about maintaining a level of privacy around these relationships, it’s clear that her love life was a reflection of the glamour and intrigue that surrounded her public persona.

One of the most famous and talked-about affairs Lyn May had was with the celebrated hearthrob and Mexican actor Andrés García. Andres was a well-known leading man in Mexican cinema, with his good looks and dramatic roles making him a star among audiences. The affair between Lyn May and García was the stuff of tabloid gossip and media speculation, making headlines for its intensity.

Despite the arduous journey, Lyn May has maintained that her love life was just as colorful as her career. It was filled with lessons learned and experiences that shaped her into the woman she is today. In her later years, she has focused more on embracing her legacy as a trailblazing showgirl and entertainer, rather than constantly being defined by her romantic relationships.

Lyn May Plastic Surgery and Beyond

In 2006, Lyn May made headlines for a reason that shocked many of her fans and admirers.

Culture often dictates that physical appearance is an important aspect of an entertainer’s career success. As many others, Lyn May sought to maintain her uniquely good looks. This meant Lyn turned to plastic surgery. Unfortunately, this surgery did not go as she had anticipated.

Lyn May had fallen victim to a botched Botox job. An aesthetician injected industrial-grade oil into her face instead of using the medically approved filler. Lyn May describes it in an interview as a mix of cooking oil and baby oil, which was injected into her face. The consequences were dire, leading to eventual severe health complications and disfigurement of her natural face. Her once-pristine features were forever changed by the ill-fated treatment, and she was faced with a long and arduous road to regaining her looks.

The incident sparked widespread media attention, with many outlets speculating about the circumstances surrounding the procedure. The ordeal took a toll on her mental and emotional well-being. Lyn May has chosen to focus more on self-love and positivity.

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Lyn May Pregnancy

A testament to her commitment to the bit, at 68-years-old Lyn May made headlines once again. This time, it was by announcing a pregnancy with her 29-year-old partner Marcos D1. This was later said to be a made up story, used to promote her farewell tour.

Her Legacy

Lyn was a pioneering Vedette, whose fearlessness in exploring life and love is nothing short of inspirational. Her life and unwavering dedication to her craft have cemented her place in the annals of Mexican entertainment. Despite her controversies and tragedies, May remains an icon, symbolizing the power of resilience and even self-love.

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