Find Your Inner Jezebel

How to Create a Vision Board to Find Your Inner Jezebel

Wanna break out of your shell? Are you tired of playing it safe and suppressing your inner sass? Do you want to tap into your inner seductress and manifest a life that’s full of passion, power, and pleasure? Then it’s time to help you find your inner Jezebel. Let’s talk about how to create a vision board, to grow your fierce sensuality.

Who was Jezebel, anyway?

Jezebel was a biblical bad girl, known for her fierce independence, her love of luxury, and her unapologetic sensuality. She was a queen who refused to conform to societal norms, and instead, forged her own path. And that’s exactly what we’re going to tap into with this vision board – your inner Jezebel, the one who’s not afraid to take risks, to be bold, and to demand what she wants. Perhaps I should cover Jezebel in the next edition of Lust & Lore? Let me know in the comments!

Why Do I Need a Vision Board?

Wild women shouldn’t be tamed. As a huge fan of wild women, myself, I knew I wanted to be one. In a world that often tries to tame our wildness and stifle our desires, a vision board is a powerful tool to help you reclaim your inner Jezebel. If you’re a visual person, it helps you get clear on your vision.

A vision board is a visual representation of your desires–a collage of images, words, and textures that evoke feelings and emotions. By creating a vision board, you’re taking ownership of your outcomes. For this one, we are going to focus on your sensuality, celebrating your uniqueness, and manifesting a life that honors your deepest desires.

If nothing else, it’s a way to get a clear vision of what you want to be, or what you want to do. Sometimes we don’t know what we want, until we put it together and see it for ourselves!

How to Create a Vision Board to Find Your Inner Jezebel

Gather your materials:

  • A large piece of cardboard, paper, or canvas
  • Magazines, scissors, and glue
  • Markers, paint, or colored pencils
  • Photographs, fabrics, and other textures
  • Any personal items that hold significance to your sensuality (e.g., a piece of lingerie, a rose petal, or a love letter)

Set Your Intention

Find a quiet, comfortable space where you can relax and tap into your inner world. Take a few deep breaths, and ask yourself: “What does my inner Jezebel look like? What does she want, and what does she deserve?” Allow your thoughts to flow, and write down your intentions.

Gather Your Inspiration

Flip through magazines, and cut out images that evoke feelings of sass, seduction, and empowerment. These can be images of strong women, luxurious settings, or sensual art. Collect words and phrases that resonate with your intentions, such as “unstoppable,” “fearless,” or “unapologetic.”

Create Your Vision Board

Begin arranging your images, words, and textures on your board. Group similar themes together, or create a flowing narrative that tells the story of your inner Jezebel’s journey. Add personal items that hold significance to your sensuality, and don’t be afraid to get creative with colors, shapes, and patterns.

Activate Your Board

Hang your vision board in a place where you’ll see it daily, such as your bedroom or meditation space. Take a few moments each day to gaze at your board, allowing the images and words to sink deep into your subconscious. Repeat your intentions out loud, and feel the energy of your inner Jezebel manifesting in your life.

Tips and Variations

  • Create a digital vision board on Pinterest or Canva, and set it as your phone’s wallpaper or computer background.
  • Invite friends over for a vision board party, and explore each other’s inner Jezebels.
  • Update your vision board seasonally, reflecting your growth and evolution as a sensual being.

A vision board is a powerful tool to connect with your inner Jezebel, to manifest your desires, and to celebrate your unique sensuality. By embracing your inner Jezebel, you’re not only becoming the best version of yourself, but you’re also contributing to a world that honors and celebrates women’s power and sensuality. So, take the first step, and create a vision board today.

The Madams of the Wild West: Power, Wealth, and Influence

Creating sin creates influence. At least, it did back in the days of the Wild West. While legendary figures like Doc Holiday and Billy the Kid reigned the American Frontier, there were influences that aren’t typically spoken about in polite company, or even in history books. There was a whole lot more to the Wild West than Cowboys and Saloons! Heck–there’s even more to the saloons themselves.

In this edition of Lust & Lore, we only begin to discover the world Madams of the Wild West navigated. and how their business acumen gained them power, wealth, and influence in their communities.

What did Madams in the Wild West Do?

Madams were the managers and operators of brothels, overseeing the day-to-day business, managing workers, maintaining property, and handling financial transactions. As one can imagine, women did not have many paths to solo success these days, nor were they able to acquire as much as men, on their own. These pioneering women found themselves navigating a world that was certainly not made for them, creating empires by running brothels.

They sat in the seat of sin, of the Wild West, sometimes offering gambling and drinking alongside their fine establishments. However, they made it work, in spite of the many contradictions. Powerful, yet vulnerable, Madams were the ones who found opportunity, without even considering the gold rush. They created their own value as businesswomen, proving themselves to be soft, yet never to be messed with.

Many were former sex workers themselves, gleaning knowledge from their experience, to create profitable and well-run establishments. They were responsible for setting the rules, ensuring security. They had to offer a welcoming environment, to attract clientele. This sometimes transforming their brothels into elite salons–or, saloons–where men could indulge not only in pleasure, but also gambling, drinking, and with inviting musical entertainment.

Soiled Doves or Boss B*tches?

Have you ever heard the term “Soiled Dove”? Don’t ring the alarms yet! It’s an obsolete expression meant to denigrate prostitutes in the 19th century.

The phrase means that, these were women who had a “fallen” reputation. Some were viewed with contempt, while others gained a degree of respect. In those cases, these were Madams who had sterling reputations. Particularly if they contributed to their communities through philanthropy.

Many local businesses thrived due to the commerce brought in by brothels, along with their direct contributions, making madams an important part of the local economy.

Power and Wealth

Madams wielded considerable power, controlling not just their businesses but often exerting influence over local law enforcement, community planning, and politics. There were always threats of legal crackdowns looming over their businesses. Using their charming wiles (or bribes) they became shrewd business women, ensuring their establishments could thrive, in spite of fluctuating legal restrictions.

Many amassed great wealth, dressing in the finest clothes and adorning themselves with decadent jewelry. They often loved embodying the image of luxury and success. Even so, many were not nearly as financially solvent, and left little to their memories.

Notable Madams of the Wild West

Mattie Silks – 1846-1929

Mattie Silks

A business-savvy madam, Mattie Silks began her career at the age of 19. Notably, she was not previously a sex worker, but was known for running one of the most luxurious brothels in Denver. Mattie was fierce and fearless, earning a reputation as a true business woman in spite of her youth.

There were many stories about Mattie, who was not one to be messed with. Mattie was said to have had a duel with a rival madam, over business and affections of her lover, Cort Thompson. The truth of the matter was far less interesting than what the chatter around her legacy tells us.

While the tall tales tell us of a duel–a topless duel, at that–it really was no more than a bar fight. The intents were the same, as she was fighting in defense of her lover. However, Cort was said to have stood by her side, supporting her. What a man!

Not only are we still talking about her fist fight over 100 years later, but she proved herself to be a success. Mattie ran her business affairs successfully enough, to where she was able to retire comfortably; a rarity for women in her profession.

Pearl DeVere

Pearl DeVere

The glamorous and mysterious madam of Cripple Creek, Colorado. Pearl was the owner of the opulent Old Homestead brothel. Glamorous as she was, she was also known to have the most beautiful ladies of any parlor. As a madam, she ensured that they all wore fine clothes, and were taken care of medically and financially.

Pearl catered to an elite clientele, and she had to ensure her environment suited them justly. The Old Homestead was what one might consider “opulent.” It was filled with fine furniture, extravagant decor. They had TWO bathrooms, which was completely unheard of at the time. Not to mention, she hosted plenty of gaming tables for the gentlemen to complete the full trifecta of sin, as they drank merrily.

Pearl drew clientele all the way from Denver, to devour her wares of lovely, and truly cared for women. Ensuring that extra mile of care for her employees, guests were required to submit references.

Pearl died a somewhat dramatic  and poetic death, being found still draped in her $800 shell pink chiffon gown, which was imported from Paris. She was using morphine to help herself fall to sleep, which was common practice at the time, and succumbed to an accidental overdose.

Dora DuFran

Dora DuFran

As one of the most successful and famous madams of the Wild West, Dora was a success through and through. She expanded her operations, opening brothels in Deadwood and other frontier towns. Dora entered the sex industry as a teen, and moved her operations to Deadwood when the Gold Rush hit. As soon as she arrived in town, she boldly declared herself a madam and worked her way to becoming one of the most successful madams of all time. She started small, but quickly built a healthy empire.

Dora was a successful madam until she died in 1934, and is buried in Deadwood Cemetery with her pet parrot. Married and in-love, this true boss bitch also made sure she provided her love and adoration to cats. She was said to have cared for them in the brothels she kept. Her influence was said to be the main reason why some brothels became known as “cat houses”

Known for her humor and business acumen, she had a reputation that often had her come across legendary figures of the time. For instance, she was a close associate of the unconventional sharpshooter– and sometimes prostitute! –Calamity Jane. The pair was said to be so close, Dora was able to write a pamphlet about the life of Calamity Jane, jam packed with stories directly from her mouth.

The Legacy of the Wild West Madams

Madams were kind of the original “boss bitches” of the frontier, turning their knowledge of their trade into lucrative empires. Or at least, I like to think of it that way.

They acquired influence, wealth, and dressed to the nines to ensure they maintained a particular image. Building empires was always possible, and just looks a little different in the modern era of adult content creators! 😉

While their profession was controversial, their ability to succeed in a male-dominated world remains an enduring testament to their resilience in a world not built for them. These women were pioneers, in a way. They were strong and wise, ruthless and compassionate. Their self-made successes drawn from sex work illustrate the intricate social dynamics of the American frontier, proving society may have been more complex than we realize.

Resources –

https://www.notesfromthefrontier.com/post/soiled-doves

https://www.legendsofamerica.com/co-pearldevere/

https://recollections.biz/blog/5-madams-of-the-wild-west-and-what-made-them-famous/

Toys and Couplehood – Top Sex Toys for Couples

Sometimes couples are intimidated by sex toys, and that’s okay! When it comes to intimacy, sometimes we need a little extra boost to keep sparks flying. If you haven’t yet, perhaps it’s time to take your sex life to the next level. One way to do this is by incorporating sex toys into your sex life, with your partner/s.

Not only can sex toys enhance pleasure and excitement, but they can also foster deeper connection and help partners learn more about how the other person experiences pleasure. There are so many benefits of using sex toys for couples, and today we have some hot tips and unique toy recommendations to give you a boost, whether you’re in close proximity or even via long distance, to ensure you’re giving each other pleasure no matter what!

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Why Couples Should Try Using Toys in the Bedroom

Using sex toys as a couple can really enhance your intimacy in ways you may not expect! If you or your partner have any taboos surrounding sex, a simply vibrating toy can break down inhibitions and allow some freedom during sensual exploration.

Sex toys can also help to increase intimacy and closeness, as couples work together to find what works best for them. Additionally, using sex toys can add an element of excitement and adventure to the bedroom, keeping things fresh and exciting. It’s awfully nice to shake things up once in awhile.

Using sex toys as a couple can spice up your sex life and lead to more intense and varied experiences. Here are some benefits:

  • Enhanced Exploration: Toys allow couples to discover new turn-ons and sensations together.
  • Increased Intimacy: The shared experience can bring couples closer together, breaking inhibitions in the bedroom.
  • Improved Communication: Both inside and out of the bedroom.
  • Accessibility: Sex toys can cater to different needs and preferences, making them suitable for all couples regardless of ability or genitalia.
  • Fun and Pleasure: Simply put, toys are fun!

The Importance of Lube

Before you begin penetrating your partner or yourself with toys, it’s essential to talk about lube.

Lubricant is a crucial component of any sexual experience, as it helps to reduce friction and increase pleasure. Lube is not just a complement to sex toys; it’s a crucial component of sexual health and pleasure

When choosing a lube, look for one that is water-based or silicone-based, as these are generally safe to use with most sex toys. Avoid oil-based lubes, as they can damage certain materials. Here are a couple of benefits to including lube in your sexual hygiene:

  • Enhances Natural Lubrication: If there are any issues with natural lubrication, this increases safety and pleasure during sexual activity.
  • Enhances Sensation: Lube can make sexual experiences more comfortable and pleasurable.
  • Ensures Safety: Using lube reduces prevent condom breakage and tissue tearing, reducing the risk of infections and STDs.

If you’re a bit on the sensitive side, I highly recommend Sliquid Lube. My kitty seems to be a precious princess, and not just any lube will do. This product has changed my perspective on lube, and doesn’t throw off my pH. It’s not sticky or smelly, and it’s made with all-natural ingredients. Not to mention, this company has won MANY awards in the intimate industry. It’s a favorite amongst the industry for a reason, so I humbly suggest you give it a try.

Top Sex Toys for Couples

Partners are now enabled to explore new ways of pleasing each other, but some toys are simply meant for enhancing intercourse. This may be an excellent introduction, for those interested in getting their feet wet! These are some of the most talked about sex toys for couples on the market!

Some of these are mostly geared towards penis-in-vagina sex, however we cannot think of any reason why these wouldn’t also serve any couple, for dozens of reasons, regardless of their genitalia.

We-Vibe Sync

Buy We-Vibe Sync

The We-Vibe Sync is a wearable vibrator designed to stimulate both partners during penetrative sex, with delicious vibrations. It’s compact and adjustable, ensuring a perfect fit that is “smooth as silk”.

Features:

  • Worn during intercourse
  • Provides dual stimulation for the G-spot and clitoris
  • Adjustable to fit the wearer’s body
  • Can be controlled remotely for added convenience

LeloTiani3

Buy Lelo Tiani 3

The LeloTiani3 is a premium remote-controlled couples’ massager that ensures satisfaction. It’s sleek, powerful, and versatile, suitable for both internal and external stimulation.

Features:

  • Remote-controlled for versatile use
  • Offers both internal and external stimulation
  • Features SenseMotion technology for a more intuitive experience
  • Made with body-safe silicone

Lovehoney Magic Wand

Buy Lovehoney Black Wand Classic Vibrator

The Lovehoney Magic Wand is a powerful vibrator known for its deep, rumbly vibrations. It’s the perfect tool for relaxing tension and enhancing sexual pleasure. Try delivering a body massage, using this in tandem with your hands. And when the heat picks up, you can use this for extra stimulation.

Features:

  • Provides intense or targeted stimulation, depending on how it’s used
  • Features a soft, cushioned head for comfort
  • Offers variable speeds for customizable pleasure
  • Powerful vibrations that can be felt even through clothing

Incorporating sex toys for couples like these can revolutionize your sexual experiences. These toys not only add excitement and variety but also encourage intimacy and communication between partners. Get excited and try something new! Remember, the key to a memorable and pleasurable experience is often in the preparation.

Scene Reviews: Art of Anal, featuring Calita and Sylvan

Adding to my repertoire, I have been diving more into the work of Erika Lust and her associated sites. Lust Cinema has a history of bringing beautiful, cinematic and stunning porn for women to the forefront. Now they have a streaming platform you’ll love! Their Art of Anal series has caught my attention, as a fan of anal pornography. The format is far more femme friendly and the scenes are beautifully shot by a fleet of professional directors, who have sensual visions that will stimulate your senses in multiple ways.

This episode of Art of Anal was directed by Rebecca Stewart, and this was my first exposure to her work in particular. This scene immediately caught my attention with the simple, yet striking visuals, taking inspiration from spiritual rituals. The way this scene unfolds, the focus is primarily on the talent; which means that the talent simply has to be exquisite.

Art of Anal – Calita Fire & Sylvan

These two are talents I only discovered because of this scene. Calita Fire is a stunning, Spanish beauty with a doll face and a penchant for eroticism. Her all-natural body is accented with sculpted curves and plenty of hair, bringing additional sensuality to a scene that has such a “bare” setting.

Calita is a beauty that provides visual interest from the start, erotically massaging her body solo. Then Sylvan made his entrance, creating a beautiful pairing to feast your eyes upon. Sylvan is also new to me, as a talent. The Spanish performer is quite handsome, with sculpted facial hair and a sleek frame, worth taking the time to admire.

Click here to watch Art of Anal at Erika Lust

Setting the Scene

This scene imagines a world where anal sex should unfold like a gorgeous ritual. With candles and oils, this scene is set as an altar to anal worship, between a passionate pairing.

We begin with an overhead visual, where Calita lays on her back, completely nude. The starlet’s stunning and delicate features are the highlight amongst the sea of black and soft lighting. Calita’s gentle strokes over her body evoke a sense of immediate sensuality inserted into the scene. Within moments, Sylvan arrives to further admire her, and proceed with worshipping her body. This is art. She rolls over onto her belly and awaits his passionate grasp. He begins his massage, as he drips oil over her body. They relax, taking their sweet time and showing the oil glistening over her figure.

Click here to watch Art of Anal at Erika Lust

During the scene, we become even more stimulated with a soft, stimulating voice over in both English and Spanish. Calita begins to open up, and they sink more deeply into relaxation, as she invites him to sink more deeply into her. The rubdown reaches below her waist, and brings even more stunning visuals.

A Scene of Beauty

The beauty of the scene is quite apparent. Calita’s body is vulnerable and free, displaying her body hair, her oiled curves… Her very visible beautiful bush grows wet with arousal, as she rolls onto her back. With legs quivering, Calita becomes immersed in the euphoria of pleasure. Oh, this feels real. This feels like something I’d like to feel, myself.

If I were being lustfully taken anally, a massage would certainly put it over the top. It’s what we deserve after all.

The couple proceeds with a delicious tour of her body, as they whisper to each other between kisses. He fingers her slowly, letting us indulge in her all-natural body and even her bountiful hair. The fantasy unfolds beautifully. As she convulses with orgasmic bliss, the final climax brings us astonishing pleasure, with her dazzlingly erotic anal display.

When she finishes, her face flushed, he crawls up to lay next to her, both breathless. It’s erotic, it’s dreamy, demonstrating nothing but passion that you don’t even see in a gonzo production. This film even comes complete, with a little aftercare. Whether you explode with her or not, you’ll love the finishing romance. They did a beautiful job exploring what it feels like to feel like the be only two people in existence, when you’re passionately fucking.

Final Thoughts

This is a beautiful scene, and was shot exquisitely! I felt the performers’ chemistry and very nearly felt their ecstacy, too. This is a scorching film meant to be savored. Especially if you have a penchant for such a sinful act. 😉 If you want to watch this scene, you’ll have to check it out on Erika Lust!

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3 Self-Love Practices to Become The Love Of Your Life

Ever thought about becoming the love of your own life? That sounds un-romantic as hell, but hear me out! You can do it with self-love! 👋

This last week, I saw some really inspiring posts about self-love on Threads. However, a few posts about self-love really hit my soul and I wanted to share some insights with you here on the blog. In the process, I want to give you a few steps to get you on the way to becoming the love of your own life, using these nuggets of wisdom gleaned from other creators and users of the app.

That’s right. You can become the love of your life. No, this doesn’t take away from the person you love, either. Imagine what you could accomplish, if you added a little more love to your life.

3 Self-Love Practices to Become The Love Of Your Life

The path to self-love can be uncomfortable, but it’s worth it. These are some of the philosophies that have led me down a path of self-love, and helped me heal decades of trauma and struggles with self-perception. Self-love is more of a practice, than a destination. It’s a decision you have to make for yourself. These behaviors highlighted today create a foundation for self-love to form. The reality is, you cannot rely on others to give you everything, even if they are giving you the love you deserve. You still owe yourself the same love you give others!

1) Get Cringy – Idolize Yourself

I know you’re thinking this sounds corny. And I guess it is–at least, until you take self-love seriously. But you owe it to yourself to give yourself the love that others didn’t appreciate from you. You deserve to make yourself feel good.

 

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Because who the HELL else is going to do it? Even if you have to fake it, learn to get comfortable with it. Affirming behavior, while it may feel weird and unnatural at first, remember that’s just your brain patterns resisting being corrected. Go ahead–wink at yourself when you look in the mirror today. Start small. Changing thought patterns will not change overnight!

Do it until it doesn’t make you want to vomit… Anymore. 😉

2) Consider Self-Care As An Act of Self-Love

One radical thing I began to practice is loving myself the same way I’d love a partner. The more we rely on others for this validation, the more out-of-reach self-love can be. We really should be asking for more of ourselves, because we deserve that.

 

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I really don’t mean that we need to work harder on our goals, or deliver feats that are beyond our limits. I mean, we should better serve ourselves, because we cannot control how other people are going to treat us. I highly recommend reading her entire post on threads, because she outlines small acts of self-care as aspects of self-love.

Self-love is so much more than saying “I love myself.”

3) Put Yourself First

There is a fine line between being selfish and putting yourself first. Some say you have to “be a little selfish,” but that’s a bit of a negative way of looking at something so beautiful. While we may still be able to love someone the way we desire to love someone, we have to also ensure we pour into ourselves. Not to mention, to also choose partners that take care of themselves, as well. But perhaps, that’s another blog post. 😉

This is yet another aspect I have gleaned from the previous point. This user finally put herself first; not their partner. Even the little things, like correctly stocking her pantry to feed herself, creating comfort, and giving herself all the things she’s previously given partners.

 

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Having done all of the above, myself? I highly recommend it.

Self Love is Not a Destination 🪷

Think of the path to Self-Love like the growth of a lotus, my favorite flower.   The path to self-love is often arduous; a challenge. Sometimes this journey of growth begins, in the murky depths where light won’t penetrate. Sometimes, though, under the right conditions, new life begins to take root. You may not even notice it at first, no. It might be slow. Growth isn’t always the same as everyone else.

Though, soon, new leaves will begin to develop. This new life seeks more than the muddy depths can provide. Soon, new growth begins to emerge, seeking the light.

Soon, this growth sees just a little bit of light glimmering upon the surface of the water above it. It’s still down deep, but if you just give it enough time, it will make it. You have to be patient.

This new growth continues its journey, to seek the light. It must continue, to reach the light. Soon the leaves will have emerged from the mud, and then they finally approach the surface.

You see, even just breaking the surface could be just enough room to thrive and bloom.

Sometimes the path isn’t lit at all. Sometimes, there is only darkness, but somehow you have to keep moving. Trust the process; you’ll break the surface.

 

Sweet Sapphic Sundaes

Welcome to Peach Kisser Sex Stories! We feature lesbian sex stories and so much more. Sweet Sapphic Sundaes is from the first person perspective, that unveils a romantic connection between two close friends. They fall into each other over Ice Cream Sundaes on a warm afternoon, and make their connection a bit sweeter. No ice cream required!

Sweet Sapphic Sundaes

Summer leads to laziness, as we avoid the heat of the sun. It was a long afternoon, and I was watching the sun drop lower in the sky, slowly hanging back to offer us it’s golden hues and I felt like I needed a little company today.

I had invited my friend Anna over to my place. I loved Anna. We’ve been friends for decades, with closeness that has long outlived any of our great loves. I haven’t seen her lately, and so I thought I’d invite her over for some ice cream. It’s warm, and I am wary of the “Sunday Scaries”, and am not ready to let the weekend go. I desperately needed company, and I thought we should have a little catch-up sesh, over ice cream.

Picking Up Where We Left Off

We always picked up where we left off, having been friends for so long. We’ve bonded over lost loves and pets. I’ve been stressed out at work, and miss having company. As Anna walked in, golden hour struck. Suddenly, my world was illuminated with her presence, and I watched as her beauty unfolded. How could you not admire her long, kinky curls glistening in the sunlight? She grinned her infections grin, and giggled her salacious giggle as I had always come to enjoy.

We’d long been accused of flirting. We greeted each other with a warm hug,and she embraced me deeply. Excited at her arrival–not quite processing her energy–I led her into the kitchen where I had already crafted my ideal ice cream bar! I had several ice cream flavors and toppings splayed out on the counter. This was a sweet masterpiece I was more than ready to create.

We began with our usual pleasantries as we giggled together, choosing our favorite toppings and hunger in our eyes. I went for good ol’ vanilla ice cream, with whipped cream and a generous scoop of hot fudge. She didn’t seem to have much organization with hers, topping strawberry ice cream with marshmallow fluff, oreo cookies, and caramel sauce.

“And you, my dear, need a cherry on top,” Anna said with a grin, as she topped our sundaes, each with a single cherry.

My kitchen was made warm, not by the heat of the Summer, but with our wild laughter as we teased each other.

As we sat at my kitchen bar, Anna’s demeanor shifted subtly. She smiled, but her energy was off. Her usual giggle-filled self seemed more contemplative than usual. I looked over to her with concern, and saw her visibly shudder.

“I have something to tell you,” she said, clearing her throat. Oh, god. What could she possibly have to say?! I felt the fear of anticipation bubbling up in my throat, as I waited for her to continue. “I decided that I would take this chance to make a confession: I have feelings for you. Real ones.”

The admission made the air thick. This was not something I anticipated, but I continued to process her words. Anna had feelings for me? The revelation struck me right in the chest. In my shock, I felt… a surprisingly welcome desire I didn’t realize laid beneath the surface.

I froze, stunned. Thank goodness she waited, between bites. I would have surely choked. Anna began searching my face for any positive sign. I didn’t have time to think, and time was moving so quickly. Or was it slow? I couldn’t tell. In a flurry of surprise emotions, I pressed my lips to hers.

The floodgates are open. She kisses back.

I feel my body full with pulsing joy. Our kisses became more and more impassioned, as we pulled each other closer. For the first time, I’m feeling her curves. I didn’t even know how much I was anticipating this moment.

We were suddenly more eager for each other than our ice cream. As it melted, we continued to melt into each other’s arms, enjoying the feel of intimacy we’ve never had before.

In a fit of passion, Anna reached for the chocolate sauce, and drizzled some upon her fingers. She slid her finger into my mouth, and asked, “would you like another taste?” I nodded, silently. Anna gave me another fingerful of chocolate, and something primal in me took over. I grabbed the bottle myself, as I raised her shirt over her head. That’s right, she never did wear a bra… I was now faced with her luscious breasts, with her nipples fully erect.

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“Are we really doing this?” I ask. Anna nodded with that wild grin, and giggled her sexy giggle before she kissed me deeply. She looked at me with a challenge in her eyes, as I playfully drizzled a little chocolate onto her chest.

“We might as well finish what we started, “ I say. The chocolate streamed between Anna’s breasts, highlighting her pale skin. I lapped it up gently. The taste of the rich, sweet sauce mingled with the saltiness of her skin, driving me wild with desire. I traced her skin with my tongue, finishing with a kiss as she began slipping off my top. lesbian sex stories

I sank to my knees in front of her, slipping off my bra to bare my breasts to her. She smiles as my heart beats faster. Anna moaned softly, her fingers threading through my hair as she urged me on.

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As our sundaes melted, we frantically moved to the living room. We laid down upon the blankets in my plush couch, the world around us fading into insignificance. There was nothing more important than this, in this moment, as we lost ourselves. lesbian sex stories

Anna’s hands explored my body, sending warm sensations through my body. I reciprocated, my fingers tracing the contours of her body. We finished undressing each other, finally naked and in each other’s arms.

Since I have never seen her nude, I was in awe. I was struck by each curve and her perfect, puffy nipples. Anna was a vision, her body a new place to explore, with peaks and valleys destined to be savored. I worshipped her with my mouth and hands, engulfing her nipples in my mouth, as our desire grew.

She guided me on top of her, our bodies folding into each other perfectly. I reached between her legs, feeling her heat making my desire grow even further. I plunged my fingers into her wetness, kissing her as she joyfully gasped into my mouth.

We melded together, bodies in sync and passions flowing.

All I felt was Anna. All I could hear was Anna. We moved in sync, as she cried out with pleasure, slightly echoing in the room. Her body pulsed beneath me, as she surrendered to pleasure in my hands.

As we reached the peak, our bodies shuddered with pleasure. I made sure she came right into my hands, dripping with her ever flowing juices. This exploration of seeing Anna in a new light created swelling inside of me. I delighted in the euphoria of this newfound pleasure; I could see colors! It was as if we became enveloped in cosmic joy as we reached orgasm.

My beautiful Anna, naked in front of me and writhing with pleasure. As she released, I slipped my lips over her fully erect nipples making her cry out with glee, and a little giggle. She took a deep sigh and her body relaxed in my arms, chocolate stains and all.

Hungover with pleasure…

Anna looked at me, her eyes still filled with bold desire. “Shower with me?” she asked, her voice husky and charming, singing to me like a viola.

I nodded, unable to use my voice. We made our way to my shower, holding hands. We still hadn’t gotten off the orgasmic high, the pure newness of it all. I turned on the shower and led her in. We washed each other gently, removing the last bits of chocolate from our adventurous play.

As we stood there, our bodies pressed together, I thought to myself that Anna is now mine. This is something to be cared for, and to find joy and pleasure within. Anna and I had crossed a threshold, morphing our friendship into something far more expansive. Something beyond us, that we could nurture and grow. lesbian sex stories

We make our way out of the shower, and find each other’s bodies again. Now fresh and clean, I lead her to my bedroom to rest. By now, it’s already evening and growing later. Anna’s head is resting on my chest. Our ice cream sundaes might have melted into oblivion, and my “Sunday Scaries” disappeared into an extremely welcome, sticky mess. With a cherry on top.

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Ethical Porn for Women: Romance & Inclusivity Reign

What is Ethical Porn? Well, it’s a whole lot of fun, I’ll tell you that much!

There is growing interest in a more ethical and inclusive approach in pornography, in recent years. The people are beginning to yearn for diverse looks and genders, and real bodies. That means there is a plethora of good porn being created with “real life” sensibilities in mind.

You may have heard about porn for women, feminist porn, or other “buzz” words. They all point in the same direction, creating an intersectionality between porn made with ethics in mind, and general diversity in content.

The Ethical Porn movement seeks to challenge the adult entertainment status quo, by offering up realistic, respectful porn with actors that are compensated fairly for their work.

Now that’s sexy.

What is Ethical Porn?

Ethical porn emphasizes fair labor practices, equal pay, and a safe working environment. This type of porn also seeks to represent diverse bodies, desires, and sexual experiences, moving away from the traditional, narrow, and often oppressive representations of women in mainstream porn.

Pay For Your Porn, Buddy

In my world, sex work is real work, and performers deserve to be compensated fairly for their talent, performance, and offering up their nude body for your gooning. Free porn is everywhere, but you really know nothing about the production.

Recognize the value of paying for porn. By supporting the right sites, you’re contributing to a more equitable and respectful industry. So pat yourself on the back, for supporting this erotic art form. You’re creating more demand, which means more productions to go around for everyone!

10 Great Ethical Porn Sites for Women

Here are some excellent ethical porn sites that prioritize performer welfare, diversity, and realistic representations of sexuality:

  • Erika Lust: One of my favorite sites to review, with beautiful cinematic content that comes from the hearts and minds female directors.
  • QueerCrush: Director Electra Rayne brings beautiful, unscripted stories to life, with a diverse cast and an all Sapphic team.
  • CrashPadSeries: A queer, feminist porn site featuring a diverse cast of performers and a focus on consent and communication.
  • PinkLabel.TV: Definitely one of my favorites on the list. This is a fair trade porn site showcasing hundreds of videos with a wide range of sexual experiences.
  • BrightDesire: This site showcases a range of sexual experiences. This is a queer-heavy site, so if that’s your preference, you’ll absolutely love it here.
  • Bellesa: Porn by Women, for real. They pull together sexy, passionate porn from other sites, to bring femme-friendly content you may not find otherwise.

Making the choice to consume ethical porn for women is an essential step towards a more inclusive and respectful adult entertainment industry. Remember that when you support these sites, you’re contributing to an environment conducive to welfare of the performers, diversity, and inclusivity.

If you would like to hear more about these sites, or would like me to review any specific scenes, please make a comment below, or find me on social media!

The Art of Sensual Living – Taking Time For Yourself

In the chaos we have been dealing with in the present day, it’s become more and more important to focus inward to help yourself maintain some semblance of humanity. We’re human, after all, and we all require a level of care to survive. When it comes to self-care, we often focus on the care itself being the things we don’t necessarily need.

Today, I am here to tell you that this is misguided. Self-care is also taking care of our needs, my friends.

While many of us focus on getting our nails done, having a spa day, eating a naughty little treat, or even just exercise; there’s another crucial aspect of self-care that’s often overlooked. That is our sexuality.

Today I want you to explore the art of sensual living with me, and learn more about how incorporating sensuality into our daily lives can lead to happier and more orgasmic experiences! A healthy and fulfilling sex life is essential to our overall well-being, so I am encouraging you to honor your sensual self.

Incorporating Sensuality into Everyday Activities

Sensuality is not just about sex. If you follow me on Threads, you know I talk about this frequently. Sensuality is about finding out what stimulates our senses and what gives us pleasure. This is highly individual but I am more than happy to provide a few tips to get you started.

Your personal sensuality can grow over time. Wanna start small? Here are a few ways to incorporate sensuality into your daily routine:

  • Sensual Snacks: Indulge in foods that stimulate your senses, like juicy fruits, rich chocolates, or spicy cheeses. Savor each bite, and pay attention to the textures, smells, and tastes.
  • Sexy Soundtracks: Put on music that makes you feel sexy and confident when you’re getting dressed or doing chores. ASMR recordings can also be a great way to unwind and tap into your sensual side.
  • Self-Care Sundays: Set aside one day a week for self-care, and make it a sensual experience. Take a long, relaxing bath, give yourself a massage, or practice yoga while focusing on your breath and body.

By incorporating these small moments of sensuality into your daily life, you’ll start to feel more connected to your body and your desires.

If you want a more in-depth article, please check out my previous article about this: How-To: Sensual Self-Care; Add Sensuality to your Routines

The Importance of Mindfulness in Sensual Living

Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment. You won’t be good at this right away! Mindfulness is a skill, and it can also be developed over time. Mindfulness is essential for sensual living. When we’re mindful, we’re more aware of ourselves, in both our bodies and our thoughts. This is one way to foster a deeper connection to your body, when you may not have even given it much thought, before.

Loving oneself is a critical aspect of mindfulness and sensual living. When we love and accept ourselves, we’re more likely to feel comfortable in our own skin. That leads to less distractions like worrying about the pudge in your low belly, or how your boobs hang. 😉

And if you’re not thinking of all that, your mind has a whole lot more space to do things like focus on what’s hot, ready, and in front of you!

Mindfulness practices like meditation and deep breathing can help us cultivate self-love and self-acceptance. Remember, these are practices. You won’t be good at these things overnight! If you are looking for step-by-step guidance, let me know in the comments!

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Here are a few ways mindfulness can impact orgasms:

  • Increased Awareness: When we’re mindful, we’re more aware of our physical sensations.
  • Reduced Stress: Mindfulness practices reduce stress, leading to less distractions.,
  • Improved Communication: Mindfulness can help us communicate more effectively with our partners, building closer connections.

By incorporating mindfulness into our daily lives, we can cultivate a deeper connection with ourselves and our bodies, leading to a more sensual and fulfilling existence.

Tips for Creating a Sensual Environment at Home

Our environment can greatly impact our mood and our sensuality. Have you ever tried getting down in a roach-infested room? What about on a bed covered in food containers and books? Sorry kiddos–sex is an adult activity.

Once upon a gtime man who was 15 years my junior invited me to “come through”. 👀  While the offer may have been enticing to some cougars, I was immediately plagued with visions of beds on the floor, no linens, and a dirty bathroom. I thought, “I have linens, towels, candles, and a luxurious bathroom. Why would I want to visit some young man’s apartment?!”

I’m sorry–sex is just better when the environment is comfortable. I’m too old–and too fancy!–to lay on a mattress on the floor. Moreover, a sensual and inviting environment makes you feel a little bit more like your home is your personal oasis to enjoy. 

Here are a few tips for creating a sensual environment at home:

  • Soft Lighting: Dim red lights, candles, or string lights can create a warm and inviting atmosphere. You don’t even need to use them all the time! I always keep candles around for this, because they have the added bonus of smelling delicious!
  • Sensual Textures: Incorporate plush throw blankets, soft rugs, and comfortable pillows into your environment. Even if you’re not using your couch, it’s still more inviting with throw blankets or pillows on it. You may just end up hanging out on your couch more often!
  • Sensual Scents: Use essential oils or scented candles to create a sensual and relaxing atmosphere. Aromatherapy is REAL! For relaxing I like a combination of palo santo, lavender, rose, and citrus scents!
  • Comforting Sounds: Play soothing music in your evenings, as you wind down. I prefer music without words, to prevent distractions. Your mileage may vary.

By creating a sensual environment at home, you’ll be more likely to feel relaxed and comfortable. This can lead to stress reduction, a sense of personal joy, and it can certainly make you more comfortable and “ready” for your sensual proclivities!

What are your thoughts? How do you incorporate sensuality into your daily life, and what tips do you have for creating a sensual environment at home?

Why is Chocolate Romantic? From Bitter Water to Erotic Elixir

After writing my last Eros & Edibles piece on Chocolate as an Aphrodisiac, I was left with more questions about how chocolate came to be so heavily associated with sexual appetite and lust. Why is Chocolate Romantic and so associated with Sex and Love? Well, the answer isn’t quite as simple as you may expect!

While elbow deep in chocolate-knowledge, I discovered so many things I didn’t include in that article, because it simply didn’t fit. There are so many more interesting and unique facts surrounding chocolate’s sensual reputation, extending far back to the days when ancient civilizations thrived in Mesoamerica. 

As a Hispanic woman, I am quite familiar with the allure of the decadent treat. Mexican Hot Chocolate, adorned with the taste of cinnamon and ancho chiles, is a result of the deeply and spiritually rooted flavors that come from a plant that was once considered sacred.

Chocolate: From Bitter Water to Erotic Elixir

Chocolate is one food that people look at you as if you spouted an extra limb if you say you “don’t like” it. What’s wrong with you? Have you only had Hershey’s or something–it tastes like vomit! Chocolate has long enchanted each populatio throughout the ages, with its unctuous and silky texture; the result of processing invented by ancient civilizations.

Discovering the erotic and spiritual roots of this now ubiquitous treat has fostered more fascination in me, beyond just the libido boosting benefits. This is a discovery and celebration of the roots of “xocolatl”–or “bitter water”–better known today as Chocolate!

Where Does Chocolate Come From?

Chocolate is deeply rich and silky, tantalizing the tastebuds and leaving us with a high level of satisfaction for a number of reasons. However, this treat has an extensive ancient history.

Chocolate originated in Mesoamerica over 4000 years ago, and was first turned into a drink by the Olmecs of Mesoamerica. Their bitter brew, made with cacao beans they processed themselves, was a revelation to ancient societies. Not only for its incomparable flavor, but for the symbolism in which cacao was bestowed upon these civilizations.

These Mesoamerican civilizations held chocolate, known to them as “xocolatl,” in high regard. They recognized its potential to elevate mood and incite desire, as they sipped upon this sacred liquid.

How was Xocolatl Used?

The Aztecs and the Mayans were particularly famous for their xocolatl rituals. They believed this was a gift from divinity. Consumption of xocolatl was usually reserved for nobility, and served also in religious ceremonies and weddings, where lower classes were also able to enjoy the sacred elixir. 

Cacao was Considered Divine

The Mayans held chocolate in a high regard, and called it the “Drink of the Gods”. Mayans poured this mixture from one pot to another, creating a thick foamy beverage called “xocolatl”, meaning “bitter water.” Mayan chocolate was a revered brew made of roasted and ground cacao seeds mixed with chilies, water and cornmeal.

This bitter water was so much more than a beverage. This was a gift from the gods, and they believed that this plant had medicinal qualities, contributing to energy levels through compounds such as theobromine, They saw it not merely as a beverage but as a gift from feathered-serpent deity Quetzalcoatl, bestowing vitality and passion upon those who partook in its divine essence

Quetzalcoatl is a Toltec name for a Mesoamerican God who represented a variety of pleasures they enjoyed, including salubrious health, love, sex, food, and general agriculture.  

In addition to the civilizations that came before them, the Aztecs adopted the idea from the Maya, that cacao was a god-given fruit. They used cacao beans as a commodity, considering them as valuable as Spaniards saw Gold. Additionally, they followed the tradition of preparing chocolate as a drink in rich cultural rituals, and were particularly entranced by chocolate’s libido enhancement properties. 

Who Brought Chocolate To Europe?

The enchantment of chocolate has captivated the human palate for centuries, and it’s only grown ever since it expanded beyond its Mesoamerican roots. These days, what was once viewed as a luxury, and as valuable as gold, is now available for a couple of bucks at your local convenience store.

Chocolate made its way to Spain via means of the explorer Hernán Cortés, who was searching for gold. He was surprised to be presented with an abundance of cacao beans. 

Chocolate: From Currency to a Commodity

When Cortes came to meet with the Aztecs, he was on a conquest for gold. Evidently, he was shown cacao beans instead. This is a testament to the value the Mayans–and subsequently the Aztecs–placed on cacao. Cacao was used as currency, as well as a sacred drink for rituals and extravagant events.

Initially Spaniards didn’t think much of cacao. Mixing these ground beans with chiles and corn masa was not too pleasing to the European palate. 

Eventually, Spaniards began drinking chocolate with some changes; imparting sweetness to please their palates. Spanish monks were the first to add sugar to chocolate, creating something far more similar to the hot chocolate we drink today. 

Chocolate was served as a beverage to noble people in Spain, adorned with occasional spices such as cinnamon, instead of the chile peppers and corn masa that were traditionally used by Native Mesoamericans. 

In Spain, their unique take on the original unsweetened beverage was served to nobility, and prized as a special secret of the Spanish. It was 100 years before Chocolate was brought to other countries.

Nowadays, you can still find it prepared similarly in the form of Champurrado. This corn-masa thickened drink is sweetened with ingredients like piloncillo and cinnamon, providing a uniquely Mexican experience. 

How Chocolate Became So Sexy

Montezuma II, the Aztec emperor, was probably the greatest testament to chocolate’s erotic reputation. The emperor enjoyed this beverage so much, he even served xocolatl to Spanish explorers in 1519, who were considered honored guests. 

While chocolate was considered medicinal for many reasons, Montezuma prized his favorite drink for enhancing his sexual performance. It was said that the emperor consumed copious amounts of this frothy, bitter concoction to heighten his virility and stamina. As such, he was said to consume up to 50 cups of the divine liquid – daily! The ruler especially made sure to imbibe this stimulating tonic before getting buck wild in his personal harem. 

The emperor’s legendary consumption of chocolate specifically for his romantic exploits underscored its status as a divine aphrodisiac. The belief in its ability to inflame the senses and invigorate the body was so strong that cacao beans were even used as currency, a tangible measure of value and desire.

Preparation of Chocolate or Xocolatl

The preparation of xocolatl was a ritual in itself. This took a meticulous process that involved roasting and grinding cacao beans into a paste. This paste was then mixed with water and spices, along with nixtamalized cornmeal for thickening. This ancient, labor-intensive method produced a concoction that  had undeniable, potent effects on the mind and body. However, it was also far removed from the sugary sweetness of modern chocolate.

The frothy beverage, often spiced with chili peppers and vanilla, was a complex blend of bitterness and heat. Xocolatl was a a sensory experience that stimulated passion in the brain. This was especially powerful when combined with the effects of spiritual rituals. 

As the bitter liquid coursed through the veins of its consumers, it was believed to trigger the release of mood-enhancing chemicals within the brain. 

How Does Chocolate Stimulate the Brain?

Phenylethylamine is a compound found in chocolate. This compound is known to stimulate the same neurological pathways as falling in love or experiencing intense attraction. 

Anandamide, another compound, induces a state of bliss, its name derived from the Sanskrit word for joy or delight. These scientific findings lend at least some credence to chocolate’s sexy reputation.

So when I say a decadent chocolate cake tastes like “love,” I most certainly mean it.

Even modern day chocolate can prove to be a multi-sensory experience! While it may be sweet, sometimes cloyingly so, it also provides savory undertones to satisfy all senses of your palate. Now you know–a taste of this treat has the power to evoke the most delicious cocktail of brain chemicals!

Today, chocolate remains a symbol of romance and pleasure. Somehow, throughout the trials of time, the decadent treat still proves it’s a true descendant of the sacred xocolatl. While the recipe has evolved to suit sweeter tastes, the essence of chocolate’s allure persists. Chocolate continues to be a universal language of love, a key to unlocking desire, and always proves to be the perfect romantic gift.

Experience the enduring power of ancient wisdom, yourself, this Valentine’s Day. Enjoy a bite or three, before you seal the deal! 💋 


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How To Practice Self-Love, Even when you Can’t

My journey to self-love has been arduous. I consider this heavily, when people have asked me about How To Practice Self-Love, Even when you Can’t. I’ve been thinking about this topic for weeks, meditating on the possibilities and the journey.

I’ll tell you something funny; I had this basically written before I sat down to do the final draft of this. Then I had one big realization: Self-Love is self-care, and everything you do to take care of yourself. That’s right–everything. Even the little things. I had to re-work this whole thing, before I shared my thoughts with you!

For this blog, I wish to focus on what self-love is, so you can find for yourself how to love yourself, in spite of your flaws. So, if you ask me how to love yourself, even when you cannot? I would ask you, “why not?” In this blog, I’ll be discussing why and how I arrived at that question.

How to Practice Self-Love When You Cannot

When I first started on my self-love journey, I didn’t expect that it would be so healing. While I still struggle with self-perception issues, I have put forth effort into changing my brain patterns to shift into hate just because I perceive myself in a negative way.

I also did not expect that practicing self-love would enrich the relationships with those around me, allowing me to bring people into my life that cared for me.

Starting to give yourself self-love can feel uncomfortable at times. For real–try looking in the mirror and say, “I Love You”. Try it! This is especially true, if it’s something you’ve never really practiced before. You don’t need to do this to learn how to practice self-love, but it really drives home how you feel about yourself. 🫠

However, the GOOD news is, that it’s definitely possible to re-condition your brain patterns to begin the shift. This blog intends to outline areas you can evaluate and improve, to see yourself in a new light.

Sometimes I believe the problem with not being able to practice self-love is 1), determining what self-love is TO YOU, and 2), learning to love yourself with your faults.

It’s all about creating new brain patterns full of kindness and patience towards yourself. Here are a few things to think about on your path to self-love:

Are you Willing?

This first starts with WILLINGNESS. You cannot achieve self-love if you are not willing to try self-love. The fact that you clicked on this blog from a search engine or via my social media, tells me that you’re at least willing enough to learn about it.

Think of self-love like a garden. You need to plant the seeds first. If you don’t even plant the seeds, what do you think is going to grow?

Assess Yourself With Intention

If you want to practice self-love, you can make it a goal to love yourself unconditionally. Understand first, however, that this takes conditioning and time. You have to be okay with the process and journey.

Remember, the first step here is being willing to actually do it. Then you have to learn to recognize where you’re filling yourself with negativity.

We’re usually taught to be ashamed of our flaws. Have you done anything to yourself that is unforgivable? Probably not. Sure, I may have let myself stay in relationships for too long, I’ve made mistakes, or I may have been unfair to myself. However, one must actively forgive themselves for past mistakes. The only person you need to forgive is yourself. No one else.

Everyone makes errors and that dwelling on them hinders self-acceptance. Do you hate your loved ones for errors they make?

Love is in the Little Things

One thing that contributes to my daily practice of self-love, is trying to focus on small, compassionate acts toward myself. Even if those small things don’t feel like “love” in the traditional sense.

It could be something like letting yourself rest when you’re exhausted, forgiving yourself for mistakes, or just being gentle with your inner dialogue instead of being too harsh. Take a moment each day to acknowledge something you like about yourself. Even if it’s hard. This is the first step of many you’ll take in this journey.

Ever buy someone you love a candy bar just because you’re thinking of them? Buy yourself one, too! Just considering your sensibilities for a moment, is a small act of self-love.

Loving Yourself Without Condition, How to Practice Self-Love

You don’t need to be perfect to love yourself. Growth or needing growth is not a reflection of tour worth. Forgive yourself for things that you may feel responsible. Accepting that you’re not perfect is SELF-LOVE 💋

Your faults and struggles with your body aren’t going away. I still see myself in a dozen negative ways, and I struggle to unsee them. Sure, I may not love my stretch marks, but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to moisturize my skin, maintain hygiene, and care for myself the way I would want someone I loved to do so.

I’d never lose my love for someone, just because of perceived flaws. Why should I treat myself like that?

Assess Relationships and Boundaries

Do you have people in your life that tell you negative things about yourself, or always ask too much of you? Are you a recovering people-pleaser?

Having a supportive and healthy environment is really helpful in healing trauma on the path to loving yourself. Finding your people is very difficult, but it is even harder when you’re choosing self-loathing.

Self-love often means respecting your own limits. Learning to say “no” when you need to, whether it’s to people, work, or even your own inner demands, can be a powerful way to show yourself some love and care. It’s about prioritizing your own well-being. This is something I highly recommend professional help in pursuing for behavior change.

You’d defend someone you loved. Start by defending yourself.

Take Care of Your Body

This isn’t about changing how you look, but about treating your body with care and respect.

I used to think I couldn’t love myself because of my body. I am still not happy with my body, but I am definitely not allowing that to keep me from standing up for myself and taking care of myself!

Would you want someone you loved not to defend themselves, simply because they didn’t like themselves?

Show Up Like You Would for Someone Else You Love

No–not like people who have wronged you. How would YOU show up for someone you love?

Show up for yourself like that. Even if it’s hard. No one else can make the choice for you. People can love you, but they cannot make you love yourself. Bring yourself joy! You are far more powerful than you realize, because you’re capable of this. Even if you’re telling yourself right now that you’re not.

Remember; it’s a process. And it’s not an easy one.

Loving myself taught me how to love others better. It was a conscious choice, and I did the work. I’m still doing the work, because it never ends.

It’s not about whether you can or can’t love yourself. You have to first understand what self-love is, and how you can practice self-love. It’s a matter of treating yourself with care, even if you aren’t happy with something. Would you treat someone else you loved like this? Would you be this unfair to them?

The reality I had to accept was, that we are always a work in progress, and sometimes self-love is a mountain to climb. The more and more you pour into yourself, the better. One day you’ll look back, and see how your boundaries have saved you.

Learning how to practice self-love can take years, but there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel.

 


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