Welcome to yet another edition of Beyond the DD, where I write about my life as a woman with breasts that… outsize much of the competition. This is a series about Big Boob Problems, and the joys and sorrows that come with accepting your body as it is–even if it’s something that’s considered desirable.

If you’ve been with me since Part 1, we’ve unveiled how I got here, and invasive staring in Part 2. Today I am ready to discuss the more practical aspects of a simultaneously BIG and small part of my life.

While owning a spectacular set of breasts, it does come with a number of negative aspects that cannot be ignored, along with the positive. Today, I am going to unpack impacts on physical and mental health surrounding the …”support” of big ol’ honker ownership; Pain, Surgery, and Self-Acceptance.

Check out the Full Beyond the DD Series.

Big Boob Problems – They’re a Pain

Many of us, myself included, spent time in their teenage years wishing for larger breasts. This was practically a rite of passage in the 90s. Little did I realize, back when I was wielding lil’ b-cups, that I would end up as an all-natural anomaly; a top-heavy princess with a spine that grapples with the weight it must bear.

Specifically, this pair is a pain in my neck and shoulder muscles. I frequently wince, whenever I see feminists discuss how we should all go bra-less. My poor neck! My poor spine! 😣 “Not me,” I beg. I like to keep these things lovingly packed away, so my shoulders aren’t bearing the load.

When I am not manning the “equipment” properly, I am left in sizeable amounts of pain. My left shoulder seems to struggle the most, but my spine as a whole has left chiropractors aghast, wondering exactly what’s happened to me.

Sirs, I’m sorry. But can you NOT see what you’re dealing with? As one can imagine, manning the equipment involves costly materials one cannot simply just purchase as the local department store.

Big Boob Problems – Bras are Spendy

While I adore the fashionable designs from Curvy Kate, and I am able to find bras in sister sizes that function properly, even though not every bra suits every occasion. This fact is far more apparent, when you have larger breasts.

Some clothes just look ridiculous, in a bra that prioritizes fashion. They’re never quite cut right. Many of them designed for larger gals offer FULL coverage, which doesn’t even look good under a t-shirt.

While proper sizing works to make my hourglass more apparent, sometimes I just don’t want all the attention. They always keep my breasts festooned beautifully, in their full glory, as God intended. They’re front-and-center and begging to be seen.

While it may be fun to show off once in a while, most of the time these things just get in the way. Thus I have resorted to several means to control them appropriately, depending on the circumstances.

Minimizers Are a Godsend

Many days–particularly in polite company–I prefer to wear a minimizing bra. This may sound uncomfortable, but you’re going to have to hear me out. Especially if you’re a big boobied lady, yourself!

Minimizer bras are by far the most flexible item in my lingerie chest. Not only does the right minimizer still look good under most clothes, but it is not a totally miserable experience. Though, I will say, minimizing bras are the only reason I have begin to understand why women love taking their bras off at the end of the day. However, these bad boys can take about 3-4 inches off the width of my bustline! 😱

Be that as it may, I value what they add to my overall look and figure. As for day-to-day comfort, I keep them strapped down and out of my business with sports bras. Even then, they don’t always offer the support necessary to keep my shoulders from straining. Sometimes, I require reinforcements in the form of a second sports bra. Or simply putting on a regular, uncomfortable bra.

It can be a sensory nightmare. 😅

Big Boob Problems – What About Breast Reduction?

Those who have loved me intimately preferred for me to keep such sizeable mounds, as I have entertained the idea of surgery. The truth, however, is quite simple; I am not ready to part with them.

They may be a pain, they may get in the way, but it’s my BODY. These breasts are mine, and I love them just like I love the other parts of myself that make me, ME.

While I have had both major and minor surgeries in my life, voluntary surgery is not something I have the time or energy to recover from. Not to mention, if you read Part 1 of this series, you’ll know I have a number of health issues that may make healing and recovery a far more arduous journey, than it would if I was a fully healthy person.

Accepting The Problems & My Body

While they may be a pain, and they may be worth a reduction, it is up to me to maintain my health with my naturally gifted body. This is why I must maintain a strong back, and why I must eat healthily as an adult, to keep my bones in tip-top shape.

Part of self-acceptance sometimes means accepting things that are inconvenient. While I may have once wished to own two luscious mounds of joy upon my chest, actually developing them has taught me a crucial life lesson: “Be Careful What You Wish For, Because You Just Might Get It”!

Welcome to another edition of “Beyond the DD,” where I discuss my “Big Boob Problems” from my real life experience of having actual big boobs! This is mostly just for funsies, because I am well-aware that having larger breasts is often seen as desirable. As with many desirable things; it ain’t all it’s cracked up to be!

In Part 1 of this series, I discussed how I even inherited such a pair. In addition, I covered my range of sizes, having been all the way up to 42K at one point! Throughout my experiences, I learned much about how bra sizes work (Thank you, ABTF), and how to manage the logistics around having these two things strapped to my chest at all times.

Beyond the DD, Part 2 – Avert Your Eyes

Today, we’re discussing how much I wish people could Avert Their Eyes! 😆 If you’re a fellow busty woman, you know that bouncing boobs don’t just occur all the time. Perhaps those big mommy milkers truly ARE a marvel! Or perhaps some folks simply have not seen boobs that big before, in person.

In reality, I am somewhat small in stature, with a curvy physique. There really is no point in hammering out the reasons. The point is that it happens, and it can get quite uncomfortable at times.

Big Boob Problems – Invasive Staring

As a busty woman, I have learned to at least appear as if I have tunnel vision. It keeps me out of trouble, and keeps me from making unwanted eye contact. While I may appear aloof, trust–I am paying attention!

Be that as it may, some people truly are not as sly as they seem to think.

Men with girlfriends? You’re not slick. If your girl didn’t see you, I sure did. So does anyone I am with, including friends and romantic partners.

Have you ever had a flock of teenage boys trying to sneak a peek on the sly? Look, virgins. There are 10 of you. You look ridiculous.

Unfortunately, you have to have some level of awareness when you’re in public, as a woman. If you don’t think we’re picking up on something, most of us definitely are. Like the man I caught getting video of me at Target! 🫠

No, I Don’t Always Want to Be Perceived

On occasion, I have been known to drop a thirst trap.

However, that’s me in control of the perception. I am making a choice at that moment to be perceived in a certain way. As an introverted and mildly misanthropic person, I very likely do not want to talk to strangers. Sometimes I am in a sociable mood, and am more receptive to public attention.

These are the times when I’m dressed in line with how I want to be perceived. Though, sometimes, I wish people would just leave me alone. Then I may not feel as if I have to dress in shapeless clothes, just to avoid unwanted attention when I go to the store to pick some avocados.

Perhaps I should wear a sign!

Ain’t My Fault They’re Big

A few years ago I saw a woman online, annoyed that someone asked her to cover up. This woman was well-endowed, and was justifiably upset that someone wasn’t minding her damn business. She said, “it ain’t my fault my titties are big!”

While there may be admirers, there are also plenty of haters. If I do choose to show off what I’ve got, that’s my choice to make. Receiving hate for it is just as much of a struggle, because *I* didn’t make this choice. These BIG NATTYS came on their own, baby.

Finding My Peace

Be that as it may, these are not things I can help, in others. Just as much as they cannot help that I have big honkin’ juicy mommy milkers.

We cannot expect strangers to know and understand our boundaries. We can only do what makes us feel comfortable in any given moment, regardless of what’s happening around us. Acceptance is all about learning what you can and cannot control.

They’re exhibiting their nature. They can help how they are, but sometimes we just have to accept that some people will always be who they are and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Have you had issues accepting your body, for better or worse? Do you have Big Boob Problems? Or maybe you just like huge boobs! Let me know in the comments!

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While “Big Boob Problems” may sound like a made up issue, I can most certainly tell you otherwise. Any person with any-sized breasts could tell you about a litany of issues and complaints that plague them daily. In this series, I intend to highlight only the experience of being a larger breasted woman. Many of us often find having a large bustline to be desirable, even if we think big boobs are falling out of favor over the ass worship that’s ever present in all forms of media today.

I can tell you from experience; you cannot control these things like you’d expect. 😆

Did big breasts go “out of fashion”? As a busty babe, myself, I personally don’t think so. I firmly believe it’s so well-ingrained in our collective psyches to appreciate an abundant, heaving rack. That desire isn’t going to go away easily. I have found that boasting a naturally large bustline can certainly impact how you experience the world, both positively and negatively.

In this series, my goal is to detail the array of experiences I encounter with my naturally large rack. This way, I can openly discuss my personal experience Beyond the DD.

Big Boob Problems, Beyond the DD

When I learned how bra sizes worked, it was a revelation. I had no idea I was even in the wrong bra size, until I found out about A Bra That Fits on Reddit years ago. It wasn’t until I got older that I actually learned how bra sizes work. I’ve been able to slightly manipulate the situation I was born with, by use of particular lingerie or just with the right outfits.

At first, it was difficult to manage them, but I’ve learned how to dress them since my early 20s.

I have a love-hate relationship with my breasts.

They’re 100% natural, and I’ve never once thought about surgery aside from a reduction. While my breasts haven’t always been this large, they’ve never been quite small either.

When I grew older, there was a series of events that lead to breast growth more than I ever expected.

Big Boob Problems in my 20s

In my early 20s, I was plagued by a hormonal disorder that caused every single hormone in my body to go haywire. I was gaining weight, my body felt useless, and I thought I was imagining my breast growth. At one point, it was difficult to keep up, resulting in an array of wardrobe malfunctions or outfits that were poorly put together. I had no idea how to control these things!

Among all the negative impacts, I could no longer control the growth of my breasts.

In this stage, I went from a DD to an H cup, having also gained weight in the process. Among all the negative impacts, I could no longer control the growth of my breasts. My body was producing so much estrogen, my breasts blew up to an impressive 42K.

Thus, creating my cross to bare: Big Boob Problems.

My Love-Hate Relationship With My Huge Rack

I am not going to lie to you; I love my breasts. They’re big and squishy. They’re fun to play with, and even to use to slap partners in the face! 🤭 My partners have always treated them like a novelty, because they’re simply not used to playing with breasts this large. I can respect that you don’t normally find natural breasts this big just anywhere.

Nowadays, I fluctuate between a 32J and a 36H (in UK sizes), depending on the day. In terms of comfort, I can often be seen in a 38DD/D. However, I don’t usually wear bras like this, as they tend to make them look EVEN BIGGER which stresses me out some days. This means I have a huge collection of bras in different sizes.

One day. my hormones will swing one way, and they’ll be larger. The next day, they may be more comfortable in a sports bra. They can be unpredictable as it is, due to normal hormonal fluctuations. It’s simply more frustrating when they’re already large and unmanageable to begin with.

They Get In The Way

Ultimately, they usually get in the way. They can be uncomfortable. Sometimes I don’t want to wear a bra due to swelling, but I also have to wear a bra because then my shoulders will hurt. This is particularly tiresome in the warmer months, when you can only take so much off to remain comfortable.

If we’re being realistic about body image, sometimes simply being positive about it isn’t enough. Sometimes we have to make changes to feel at home in our bodies. That can involve getting bigger breasts or even getting smaller breasts. We’re used to hearing people vie to have large breasts. I don’t blame them. There is a boost of confidence involved to getting the body you desire, whatever that may be. While I do not always wish for smaller breasts, some days I really think it would make life a bit easier!

Have you had issues accepting your body, for better or worse? Do you have Big Boob Problems? Or maybe you just like huge boobs! Let me know in the comments!