Welcome to the second volume of Pleasure Principles, the second Volume to my How To Masturbate series for those that own vaginas! Check out the first edition Pleasure Principles: Vol. 1 – Intro To The Vulva & Vagina here.

In this edition, we’ll cover the basics of sex toys. We’ll cover everything from nipple stimulators, dildos, bullets, vibrators, and clitoral suckers to get you started on your way to self-pleasure, without use of your own hands.

We’ll discuss the safest ways to use toys, how to keep them clean, and provide tips for maintaining discretion.

I’ll hold your hand. Let’s just call it “Mutual Masturbation”.

Pleasure Principles: Volume II – A Guide to Sex Toys for Vulvas and Vaginas

Nipple Stimulation

Nipple stimulators are a fantastic way to enhance your solo play sessions, with something a little atypical of many users when they learn how to masturbate. These toys work by providing intense and focused stimulation to your nipples. Here are some popular types and tips for using them safely:

• Nipple Clamps: These come in various styles, from simple clips to adjustable screw clamps. Start with beginner-friendly options and gradually explore more intense ones as you become accustomed to the sensation.These are also excellent for partner play, but that’s another blog!
• Suction Cups: These create a vacuum-like suction around your nipples, increasing blood flow and sensitivity.
• Vibrating Nipple Toys: These combine vibration with clamps or suction cups for added pleasure.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Always start with clean toys and hands.
• Apply a small amount of lube to the nipple area to enhance sensation and reduce friction.
• Begin with gentle pressure and gradually increase intensity as desired.
• Clean your toys after each use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner.
• Store them in a cool, dry place, away from direct sunlight.

How to Masturbate with Dildos

Dildos are classic sex toys designed for penetrative pleasure. In this section, we are specifically discussing the type of dildo that is manual, requiring use of your own hand to thrust them inside of yourself. This gives you a great chance to get truly intimate with yourself and see what you REALLY like. Dildos come in various shapes, sizes, and materials to cater to different preferences. There are even thrusting dildos, themed, and vibrating toys to choose from!

Here’s how to use them safely and effectively:

• Materials: Choose body-safe materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel.
• Sizes: Start with smaller sizes and gradually work your way up if you must! It takes time to decide what you really like.
• Lubrication: Always use a generous amount of water-based lube for smoother penetration.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Wash your dildo with warm water and mild soap before and after each use.
• Dry it thoroughly to prevent mold and bacteria growth.
• Store it in a clean, dry place, preferably in a toy bag or container.

Bullets and Vibrators

Bullets and vibrators are versatile toys that can be used for both clitoral and internal stimulation, depending on the type you purchase. Tip: If you purchase a bullet vibrator and want to experience the fun sensations inside of yourself without risk, put the toy inside of a condom. That will make it easier to pull out when you’re finished! Keep yourself our of the ER. 👀

Vibrators come in various shapes and sizes, with different vibration settings to cater to different preferences. I recommend choosing one with a variety of settings, to increase versatility in your experience.

Types of Vibrators:

• Bullets: Small and discreet, perfect for targeted clitoral stimulation.
• Vibrators: Larger and more versatile, suitable for both internal and external use.
• Dildo: In the shape of a dildo, but battery-powered to vibrate on command while you use it to thrust.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Always use a water-based lube for comfort and enhanced sensation.
• Wash your toy with warm water and mild soap after each use.
• Store it in a clean, dry place, away from direct sunlight.

Clitoral Suckers

Ah yes, my personal favorite of the bunch! Clitoral suckers use suction and vibration to provide intense clitoral stimulation. They are designed to mimic the sensation of oral sex and really amplify solo fun with new sensations you don’t usually get on your own. Choose from handheld devices or wearable options for hands-free pleasure, to choose how to masturbate. There aren’t too many variants of this toy, other than some being enabled for fully hands-free fun! Choose a model that has divverent vibration and suction settings to find your perfect rhythm.!

Make sure to check out my sex toy reviews for some of my favorite clitoral suckers.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Apply a small amount of water-based lube to the clitoral area for comfort and enhanced sensation.
• Wash your toy with warm water and mild soap after each use.
• Store it in a clean, dry place, away from direct sunlight.

Tips for Discretion

Maintaining privacy and discretion is essential when exploring yourself, intimately.. Here are some tips to help you keep your play sessions private:

• Soundproofing: Choose a toy that has positive reviews for sound, or go with a manual toy. Use a blanket, pillow, or towel to muffle any sounds that may emanate from your own pleasure.
• Storage: Store your toys in a discreet, locked drawer or container.
• Timing: Choose a time when you’re unlikely to be interrupted, just as you might for a meditation session. After all, orgasms are spiritual events. 😇

We hope that by understanding the basics of different types of toys and learning how to masturbate safely can go a long way in your personal self-love sessions. Stay safe, stay clean, and enjoy all the good vibrations you’ll most certainly have cumming!

With Love,

Amara

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If you’re naturally sensual, you have a bit more of a sensual self-care routine than others. What I mean by “sensual self-care”, is incorporating a little bit of romance in your self-care routine. This is outside the sexual pleasures, but I feel like adding sensuality into your day can add a little more oomph into your overall sexuality. 

Sensual self-care isn’t an explicitly feminine thing, but it’s certainly a thing I associate with my personal femininity. And really, I believe femininity is something a woman decides for herself. First of all, whether to express it or not to begin with! 

As a lover girl, I love incorporating a little romance into my day. Also, as a lover girl, I really love to find little ways to love myself along the way. The core of self-love really is the little things. At the end of the day, self-love is what you make of it. It can even be as small as buying yourself a tiny little treat. Why? Because you’re such a cutie patootie! 

Be that as it may, gorgeous, I have prepared a few ways to add a little romance into your routines, to indulge your senses, and pamper yourself with gentle, loving care. 

Make Sensual Self-Care Easy

• Candlelit Prep: Light a candle while getting ready, or winding down for the night, to create a warm, intimate ambiance.
• Silk Robe Ritual: Low effort! Do your makeup and hair while wearing a luxurious silk robe to feel like royalty. 
• Sensual Snacks: Indulge in sensual, indulgent snacks like chocolate-covered strawberries or creamy cheeses. Fruits with nuts and/or honey are also nice, healthy choices. A little indulgence never hurt!
• Sensual Sound: Listen to ASMR or binaural beats designed to stimulate sensuality and relaxation.
• Sensual Stretching: Practice gentle, sensual stretches while getting ready, like shoulder rolls or hip circles.
• Moonlight Moments: Take a few moments to gaze at the moon, connecting with its sensual, feminine energy. No, really! It’s an easy meditation practice to still the mind a bit, before carrying on with your nightly routines.
• Gentle Grooming: Practice gentle, loving grooming habits like brushing your hair with a soft-bristled brush. Get a pretty one, and a beautifully scented hair oil. Make this your nightly ritual.
• Sensual Bathing: Take a candlelit bath or shower, and use soaps, scrubs, and lotions. Use these products in scents that are known to have aphrodisiac qualities, like jasmine, rose, or sandalwood.
• Sensual Skincare: Incorporate facial massage into your skincare routine! This can be a great way to connect to yourself, and keep your skincare routine fresh. 

These suggestions are designed to be easily integrated into your daily self-care practices, enhancing the sensual aspects of your routine without requiring significant changes or investments.

They aim to engage all your senses, fostering a deeper connection with your body and promoting a sense of well-being and self-love. They can simply be done by anyone who wants to add a little more indulgence in their day. Remember, when it comes to all love AND self-love– even the little things count!

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“How to masturbate for women” seems like a ludicrous thing to search for, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, this isn’t shameful. Even grown adults could use a helping hand, when it comes to learning masturbation techniques that work, or for getting new ideas to spice up their routine. Before we dive into the world of self-pleasure, let’s set the scene for an intimate and engaging experience. “Exploring Self-Pleasure” is a new series designed to awaken your personal intimate journey.

Pleasure Principles: Vol. 1 – Intro To The Vulva & Vagina

This guide is designed to empower you to explore your body with confidence, and learn to experience new waves of pleasure. This article is meant more for those of us with vaginas who haven’t had a chance to explore their girlhood. There are a plethora of ways to stimulate and pleasure yourself, so I’ve compiled a few ways to get you started. Self-love is more than just looking in the mirror and accepting the beautiful person you are; self-love also includes self-pleasure!

If you’re new to the game, or haven’t taken the time to explore yourself and your needs beyond partnered sex, there is no better time than the present! Additionally, understanding how you react to various stimuli onto your anatomy is an integral part of understanding pleasure with a partner.

Setting the Mood for Self-Pleasure

You can create an ambiance or you can just slip your hands in your panties, and go to town! IT’s all up to you. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. Some of us may need a little self-romance or some visual stimulation.

Creating the right ambiance can significantly enhance your masturbation experience. Start by finding a private space where you can relax without interruptions. Dim the lights, and allow yourself to get acquainted with your body and your desires. The key is to engage all your senses to build arousal.

Maybe after a nice, hot shower, you can wind down with some candlelight and some erotica. Maybe try some audio porn, or even erotic porn for women. Lust Cinema is a favorite, for those of us that crave a more erotic, intimate experience. Or dive into hardcore anal porn. I ain’t judging. Hell, I might join.

Exploring Personal Erogenous Zones

One we’ve set the mood, it’s time for a little self-romance. Before we delve into specific techniques, it’s important to understand the concept of erogenous zones. These are areas of the body that are highly sensitive to touch and stimulation, and can trigger intense pleasure and arousal. For women, the most common erogenous zones include:

• The clitoris: a small, highly sensitive organ located at the front of the vulva
• The vagina: the muscular canal that connects the cervix to the outside of the body
• The G-spot: a sensitive area located on the front wall of the vagina
• The nipples: highly sensitive areas that can be stimulated to increase arousal. (Make sure to check out our blog on Nipple Orgasms!)

Don’t be afraid to feel your curves, grabbing them as objects of lust. You can totally skip this step, but I find it adds to the experience to run my hands over my breasts, between my legs, or grip my own ass. That’s self-love, baby. 💋

How to Masturbate for Women & Vagina Owners

These Manual Masturbation Techniques are specific to those of us who have not warmed up to toys yet, but want to explore new ways of experiencing this beautiful form of self-love.

The Clitoris
The clitoris is a powerhouse of pleasure, with thousands of nerve endings waiting to be stimulated. Here are some non-toy techniques to explore your clit:

• “The Gentle Circle”: Using one or two fingers (I like my middle, for some reason! Try them all to see which works best for you!), lightly trace circles around the clitoris. Experiment with different pressures and speeds to find what feels best.
• “The Side Slide”: Place your fingers on either side of the clitoral hood and slide them back and forth, stimulating the sides of the clitoris without direct contact, which can be too intense for some.
• “The Up and Down”: Move your fingers in an up-and-down motion directly over the clitoris. You can vary the rhythm and pressure to build excitement. Reduce sensitivity by making use of your clitoral hood.

The Vagina
Vaginal stimulation can lead to deep, satisfying orgasms. Here’s how to pleasure yourself manually:

• “The Come Hither”: Insert one or two fingers into your vagina and curl them towards your belly button. You’re aiming to stimulate the frontal wall where the G-spot is located. Experiment with different motions—circular, back-and-forth, or a combination of both. Your g-spot may be deeper or more shallow than some. Don’t be afraid to explore and take your time.
• “The Deep Stroke”: With your fingers fully inserted, thrust in and out, mimicking the motion of penetrative sex. Adjust the depth and speed according to what feels good for you.
• “The Finger Flick”: Instead of inserting your fingers, use your fingertips to rapidly flick the entrance of your vagina. This can create a teasing sensation that builds arousal.

Beyond The Basics: Manual Stimulation

Combining Clitoral and Vaginal Stimulation
For a blended orgasm, combine clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Use your non-dominant hand to play with your clit while your dominant hand explores inside your vagina. This simultaneous stimulation can lead to an intense and full-bodied climax.

Pillow Humping and Other Ideas

• Pillow Hump: Position a firm pillow or a cushion between your legs and grind against it. Adjust the pressure and rhythm to find the motion that brings you the most pleasure.
• Use a Shower Head: Use the detachable shower head to direct a stream of water onto your clitoris. The water’s pressure and temperature can provide a unique and exhilarating sensation!
• Inner Thigh Stimulation: Use your fingers to stimulate the inner thigh area, which can be highly sensitive. This can be a great way to build up arousal and anticipation.
• Perineum Stimulation: Use your fingers to stimulate the area between your vagina and anus, which can be highly sensitive. This can be a great way to add variety to your self-pleasure routine.

How to Use Lube

Lubrication is highly underrated, and helps to increase stimulation! For some of us, it’s essential for comfortable and pleasurable masturbation. It reduces friction and can enhance sensations. Remember, lube isn’t just for when you’re dry or have trouble lubing up naturally; it can elevate any masturbation session!

Water-based lubes are versatile and compatible with all types of sex toys and condoms. Apply lube to your fingers or directly to your genitals before you start exploring and have fun! Don’t be afraid to try a few brands you like the most.

Basic Self-Love Hygiene for a Healthy Vagina

Maintaining good hygiene is crucial for preventing infections and ensuring a healthy vagina. Here are some basic steps:

1. Wash your hands before and after masturbation to prevent the introduction of bacteria.
2. Use a gentle, fragrance-free soap to clean the external parts of your genitals daily. Avoid internal douching, as it can disrupt the natural balance of bacteria in your vagina.
3. Urinate after masturbation to flush out any bacteria that may have been introduced during sex play.
4. Wash sex toys with warm, soapy water or a toy cleaner after each use and store them in a clean, dry place.

In “Exploring Self-Pleasure Volume I,” we’ve covered the basics of setting the mood, exploring your erogenous zones, and mastering various manual masturbation techniques for both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. If you’re new to self-pleasure, you’ll love exploring your own little personal pleasure map! We’ve also discussed the importance of lube and basic hygiene practices. Remember, self-pleasure is a journey of self-discovery, and there’s no right or wrong way to explore your body. Embrace your sexuality, experiment with different techniques, and enjoy the ride.

Are there any specific techniques or topics you’d like to see covered in “Exploring Self-Pleasure”? Your feedback is invaluable in crafting content that will help you most!

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