Today, we’re discussing the intersection of self-love and nutrition. If you want to add more into your self-love routine, make sure to check out the rest of our blogs on radical self-love here!

For my personal self-love practices, I fundamentally believe that the practice extends far beyond self-care, and beyond the simple declaration of loving oneself. Self-love isn’t just about accepting your body as it is, and accepting your faults. It’s about worshiping your body, properly caring for it, and indulging it in the pleasures it deserves. In this essay, we aim shift your perspectives. We wish to arm you with the tools you need to give your body the proper fuel it needs. 

Whether your body is soft and curvy, toned and tight, or anything in between, it craves care that makes you feel alive and powerful. Your body deserves good nutrition, movement, and sensual indulgences.

Nourish Your Body Like You Feed Your Fantasies

Sipping iced coffee all day and skipping meals? Living off fast food and sugary sodas? Babe, not on our watch. 

Your body needs and requires general maintenance!

You wouldn’t fuel a luxury car with cheap gas, so why treat your body like an afterthought? Your body isn’t a machine that runs on caffeine and neglect. It’s a temple that deserves to be spoiled with delicious, satisfying nourishment and a piece of cake here and there.

Just like you wouldn’t deny yourself pleasure, don’t deny your body the nutrients it craves and needs to run properly. Take your vitamins, eat a bowl of fruit. Drink water like it’s the elixir of life. Eat meals that make you moan with satisfaction, but also include essential micronutrients.

Nutrition is far beyond the macros–your body needs essential vitamins and minerals to survive and thrive. 

Move Your Body Like It’s Built for Pleasure

Exercise isn’t just about fitting into a smaller size or chasing society’s beauty standards. It’s about strength and general maintenance. You know how you shouldn’t leave a car unused for an extended period of time? 

If you don’t use your body’s muscles, you’re far more apt to “lose” it. The more you care for yourself, the more your confidence radiates in and out of the bedroom. When you feel good, you look good, and when you look good, you command desire.

Whether it’s yoga that makes you stretch and sigh, a brisk walk that gets your blood pumping, or a steamy dance session that makes you sweat, move your body like it’s made for sin. Go as low impact as you need to–even if it’s as simple as some lazy girl workouts.

Self Love Practices – The Ultimate Aphrodisiac

When you treat your body with love, it rewards you tenfold. 

Your skin glows. Your energy skyrockets. Your confidence becomes irresistible. You start to see yourself the way lovers do: a daydream, a fantasy, a beautiful fucking masterpiece.

By prioritizing our physical health, we’re sending a powerful message to ourselves: that we’re worthy of love, care, and attention. So, let’s make a commitment to ourselves to focus on self-care and self-love. Our bodies will thank us, and so will our minds.

So, eat well. Your self-love practices deserve a little addendum! Hydrate like you’re preparing for a marathon of pleasure. Move in ways that make you feel powerful and desired. Because when you love your body–no matter the size–the world lusts after it too.

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The beauty standard was quite hard in the 90s/00s, and many of us are still breaking what we thought was the norm. And many of us still believe even today that the pornstar look is big lips, big boobs, blonde hair, and a full-on bimbo aesthetic.

That’s a fetish. We call it bimbofication! I’ll cover that in a future story…

As I’m sure many Millennial women witnessed–nearly every female celebrity bathed themselves in bleach and starved themselves in the name of “beauty”.

I didn’t wanna starve myself, and didn’t want to bleach my hair. Thus, I did not consider myself beautiful. However, in my experiences, I discovered that porn didn’t solely sexualize one type. There were many types of beauty displayed, which shifted my perception of beauty in ways I did not expect.

How Did I Get Here

I didn’t even realize I was supposed to “strive” for the beauty standard. I was a young Hispanic woman, with brown hair, and brown eyes. Also, I wasn’t skinny.

I didn’t have representation until I got older and stars like Jennifer Lopez (who also eventually went blonde) among others, were brought to the forefront in mainstream media. Still, my perception of beauty standards had been ingrained by then. No amount of representation was quite enough to shift the impressions I held as a young girl. 

I was also a young single mom, and money was scarce. Fortunately for me, a friend who could reasonably have been my father took me under his wing. He taught me the building blocks of adult industry marketing, having been contracted with numerous studios himself. He needed someone to help him out in his business, and said he’d, “show me the ropes”.  Needing some additional financial support, I took the opportunity and never looked back. Little did I realize this would lead to developing my career, long term.

When I was looking for ways to support myself at a young age, I didn’t want to go the pornstar route. I didn’t even consider it. Being the star wasn’t suited for someone like me. However, writing, editing, promoting was easy for me to learn, and perfectly suited to someone who was quiet and kept to herself.

This gave me immediate exposure to an industry where you’d think I might struggle with the beauty standards. It wasn’t long until I learned that the big boob, blown up lip, blow-up doll aesthetic wasn’t even the standard in the industry 15+ years ago. And it most certainly isn’t the standard now.

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

Diversity is Marketable 

As we know, most porn is crafted to the male gaze, as they are the biggest buyers. If you aren’t already on the pulse of the industry, you probably have an idea in your head of what men want to see in their adult content.

However, we must consider that the male gaze is far more expansive than what we like to think. Let’s unpack that:

Meeting The Demands

Pornography often reflects the desires of the population–whether it be taboo, or more conventional. Big boobs and blonde hair may be the stereotype, but the truth is quite different from the perception

Throughout my time in the industry, I have remained at the sidelines. There, I saw many performers who challenged every definition of “sexy”. They challenged beauty standards, and looked good doing it. Some of the most popular, famous performers don’t even have big boobs or blonde hair. Some are fat. Some have stretch marks. Many are brown and Black. Some are thin with very small boobs. Pornography reflects what the consumer wants to see, and all of these types are heavily represented.

Performers that don’t “fit the mold” challenged the status quo in a way. The industry tends to reflect the inner desires of the population that consumes it. Consumers actively seek it out, and their dollars spent begin to reflect the type of content being made. 

The way consumers seek this media is measurable, by search volumes and site traffic. With this data at their fingertips, the industry must rise to meet the demand. 

In short; if people are searching for particular content, production companies are going to create it.

Beauty Standards are Fake

All I knew at the time I began working in this industry, was that it was great money to support myself and keep my life humming along nicely.

The impact of being a ghost, yet at the forefront of desire, was undeniable. All of these women from different looks and backgrounds had a large following of folks obsessing over their looks and unique sex appeal. 

That’s when I started realizing that the “standard” is bullshit. Most stars don’t meet the stereotype. Most successful OnlyFans models simply look like every girl you’ve ever known. 

Seeing women desired in this way helped me undo my standards of beauty. It gave me the gift of finding it in myself. If a woman that looks like me can make a mint with her body, is mine really all that bad?

No Longer Limited by Standards

Eurocentric beauty standards have ruled mainstream culture for decades, telling us that only certain faces, bodies, and hair textures are worthy of desire. But in the adult world, the rules bend—and often break—entirely. Sexualization, for all its complications, has a way of putting a spotlight on bodies that society tells us to overlook. In porn, there’s room for everyone’s fantasy, and that means there’s space for stretch marks, cellulite, curves, small chests, and dark skin.

Visibility in this context doesn’t just expand the definition of beauty. This proves that that there was ever one “correct” version to begin with.

Desire is everywhere.

Expand Your Perception, Include Yourself

Porn didn’t destroy my perception of beauty, nor did it make me feel badly about myself. It expanded my ideals, with the understanding that pretty much anyone can be desired. Somehow, it contributed to my radical self-love practices, simply by shifting my perception.

What I once thought was the only way to be beautiful turned out to be just one narrow, over-marketed idea. Desire doesn’t follow rules, or standards. Desire doesn’t write MAXIM or Vogue.  

Listen to desire first. Let it guide you. Because the idea that there is only one way to be beautiful is simply not rooted in reality.

The more I saw unconventional beauty being celebrated, the more I realized how much of our self-image is shaped by lies we’ve been sold. Perhaps we shouldn’t question whether or not we meet the standard. We should expand our world to allow the undercurrent of desire to define beauty, and measure our own beauty by a different device. That device?Our choice to be comfortable in our own skin.

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Chat, we need to talk. Self-love isn’t bubble baths and face masks, nor is it getting your nails done. While self-care acts such as these are a part of self-love, the practice expands far beyond your personal spa days.

Erotic self-love is where sensuality meets self-devotion. It’s a lifestyle, a mindset, and a delicious reclamation of your personal power. 

Integrating Erotic Self-Love into Your Life 

When you align body, mind, and spirit with sensual intention, you’re embodying self-love.

You light candles for you. You wear lingerie because it makes you feel irresistible, even if it’s just for a moment. Perhaps, you gently caress your skin and twerk in your bedroom – even if no one’s watching. 

Erotic self-love is about creating a world where your pleasure matters. Not selfishly, but with balance.

If you want more of a How-To to start, check out How-To: Sensual Self-Care; Add Sensuality to your Routines

Worship Yourself First

Your body has brought you here. It’s brought you this far. It’s brought you through things you never expected to get through.

Your body is a vessel, but that’s not all. It’s your playground, your power source. It’s where you store all your knowledge and secrets. Erotic self-love starts with treating it like the sacred, sexy altar it is.

That means feeding it well, moving it with joy (not punishment), and yes—exploring your own pleasure. Have you ever masturbated mindfully? Or explored the art of sensual touch? 

Erotic self-love invites you to stop waiting for permission or partners and start worshipping yourself.

Stimulate your Mind

Erotic empowerment starts in that pretty lil’ noggin of yours. Mental self-love is where you let go of shame and start romancing your own imagination, instead of holding onto the shame inflicted on you by your past.

Read that erotic fiction, and launch yourself into your fantasies. Journal your feelings and turn ons, and try to read them without cringing. 

Explore your deepest curiosities, and learn something new. Listen to music that lights up your mind and body, or explore new genres. Your mind deserves to play. It’s necessary for mental health.

We all know what “all work and no play” leads us into… 

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

Nourishing Your Spirit

Nourishing oneself must go beyond the body. Erotic self-love taps into spirituality. Some may even consider it Glamour Magick. 

Erotic self-love taps into something spiritual, whether you believe in other realms or not. You, as yourself, are a spiritual being. Honor your light. 

It’s about grounding into your worth, setting intentions, and honoring boundaries. Your “yeses” and “nos” are powerful and impactful upon your psyche. Don’t overextend either of them.

This is where mindfulness, breathwork, ritual, and even sex magic can come into play. You are allowed to connect with your erotic self in a way that feels sacred. Because guess what? Your pleasure is sacred, and worth honoring.

It’s a sexy way to live. 

Pleasure Changes Everything

The more you know yourself erotically and sensually, the more deeply you can connect with others. You will set stronger boundaries, love with abandon, and with soaring confidence. 

Making yourself a priority only enhances your power–but you have to want to do it. Erotic self-love isn’t selfish. It’s transformative. And baby, it’s something that is all yours. You call the shots. 

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While there may be joy in a lot of these relationships, there comes an accompaniment of searing pain. One day, the pain overrides the joy, rationale improves, and the survivor has a moment of clarity.

On this day, the pain overrides any joy. Eventually there is no joy to behold, because we’ve lost so much.

We’ve had our identities gutted like a fish. It becomes a secret shame.

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Escaping Survival Mode – Flaws of a Survivor

Emotional abuse can be quite insidious. One day, your abuser might make a comment you suspect you are misreading, so you brush it off. This leads to you brushing off the little things. Without realizing it, your sense of self begins gently eroding.

This removes your sense of self, slowly over time. The end result can convince you that you’re wrong. It may convince you that there is something wrong with how you’re experiencing reality. When the emotional harm begins to escalate into hostility, you have already been weakened. The effects of gaslighting can create a sheath of self-doubt around your sense of self. You may even wonder, “wait, was I the narcissist?”

We Adapt To Survive

Eventually, we adapt to these emotional cycles, which can put someone into survival mode. This means your brain is constantly on edge, for fear of what’s coming next.

Recognizing the brain patterns and emotional cycles is critical, to finally breaking-free mentally, from the situation. When you do finally escape, and the dust begins to settle, you may find that your head is getting clearer. Maybe your short-term memory improves after a few months. Maybe you’re less moody, and reactive.

Once we can recognize the cycles and our triggers within survival mode, that grants us the greatest opportunity to heal. For this, I recommend keeping a journal, for intentional healing. Note your reactions to other people, things, and situations.

Once everything is laid out for you to see, you’ll learn to sift out the noise, and find the patterns you created in order to survive. Recognizing the brain patterns is critical to undoing them, and getting yourself on the road to recovery.

Self Love & Remembering Who We Are – Flaws of a Survivor

As we sit there, in recovery from the trauma of abuse, you may wonder how to get out of it. There is a haze surrounding those first few moments–or even months–of freedom. When you’re no longer struggling to survive, you are well on your way to recovery.

Managing the “Flaws of a Survivor” you may have takes intentional work, but remembering who you are is worth the work.

Put yourself into perspective, when you’re getting out of a poor relationship. You’re vulnerable, whether you realize it or not. Your protective mechanisms may not be as strong. In some cases, they may be icon clad. However you may feel, it’s wise to give yourself time to survey the damage.

Be careful of self-criticism, and recognize that it’s from the perspective of someone who has been hurt. If this was one of your loved ones, would you treat them that way? Give yourself the grace you deserve when dealing with your flaws.

To quote myself in another post: You don’t need to be perfect to love yourself. Growth or needing growth is not a reflection of your worth. Forgive yourself for things, of which you may feel responsible. Accepting that you’re not perfect is SELF-LOVE.

Remember What You Deserve–Even If You’re Flawed

Loving an imperfect person perfectly taught me to love myself in spite of my own imperfections, teaching me that it is possible to love someone with the flaws of a survivor. I was flawed before I was a survivor, and I didn’t love myself. Self-love was not even something I knew existed, which means I never learned how to love myself.

Having spent many nights with tears in my eyes, and many mornings fearful of what I would awaken to, I now wake up with joy. Sleeping and waking with tears and fear was so profoundly impactful. But now I’m healing.

Then one day, you’ll remember who the F#CK you are! So, take the first step. Be honest with your self-assessment. You’ll be surprised by how far that gets you.

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If you’ve been with me since Part 1, we’ve unveiled how I got here, and invasive staring in Part 2. Today I am ready to discuss the more practical aspects of a simultaneously BIG and small part of my life.

While owning a spectacular set of breasts, it does come with a number of negative aspects that cannot be ignored, along with the positive. Today, I am going to unpack impacts on physical and mental health surrounding the …”support” of big ol’ honker ownership; Pain, Surgery, and Self-Acceptance.

Check out the Full Beyond the DD Series.

Big Boob Problems – They’re a Pain

Many of us, myself included, spent time in their teenage years wishing for larger breasts. This was practically a rite of passage in the 90s. Little did I realize, back when I was wielding lil’ b-cups, that I would end up as an all-natural anomaly; a top-heavy princess with a spine that grapples with the weight it must bear.

Specifically, this pair is a pain in my neck and shoulder muscles. I frequently wince, whenever I see feminists discuss how we should all go bra-less. My poor neck! My poor spine! “Not me,” I beg. I like to keep these things lovingly packed away, so my shoulders aren’t bearing the load.

When I am not manning the “equipment” properly, I am left in sizeable amounts of pain. My left shoulder seems to struggle the most, but my spine as a whole has left chiropractors aghast, wondering exactly what’s happened to me.

Sirs, I’m sorry. But can you NOT see what you’re dealing with? As one can imagine, manning the equipment involves costly materials one cannot simply just purchase as the local department store.

Big Boob Problems – Bras are Spendy

While I adore the fashionable designs from Curvy Kate, and I am able to find bras in sister sizes that function properly, even though not every bra suits every occasion. This fact is far more apparent, when you have larger breasts.

Some clothes just look ridiculous, in a bra that prioritizes fashion. They’re never quite cut right. Many of them designed for larger gals offer FULL coverage, which doesn’t even look good under a t-shirt.

While proper sizing works to make my hourglass more apparent, sometimes I just don’t want all the attention. They always keep my breasts festooned beautifully, in their full glory, as God intended. They’re front-and-center and begging to be seen.

While it may be fun to show off once in a while, most of the time these things just get in the way. Thus I have resorted to several means to control them appropriately, depending on the circumstances.

Minimizers Are a Godsend

Many days–particularly in polite company–I prefer to wear a minimizing bra. This may sound uncomfortable, but you’re going to have to hear me out. Especially if you’re a big boobied lady, yourself!

Minimizer bras are by far the most flexible item in my lingerie chest. Not only does the right minimizer still look good under most clothes, but it is not a totally miserable experience. Though, I will say, minimizing bras are the only reason I have begin to understand why women love taking their bras off at the end of the day. However, these bad boys can take about 3-4 inches off the width of my bustline!

Be that as it may, I value what they add to my overall look and figure. As for day-to-day comfort, I keep them strapped down and out of my business with sports bras. Even then, they don’t always offer the support necessary to keep my shoulders from straining. Sometimes, I require reinforcements in the form of a second sports bra. Or simply putting on a regular, uncomfortable bra.

It can be a sensory nightmare.

Big Boob Problems – What About Breast Reduction?

Those who have loved me intimately preferred for me to keep such sizeable mounds, as I have entertained the idea of surgery. The truth, however, is quite simple; I am not ready to part with them.

They may be a pain, they may get in the way, but it’s my BODY. These breasts are mine, and I love them just like I love the other parts of myself that make me, ME.

While I have had both major and minor surgeries in my life, voluntary surgery is not something I have the time or energy to recover from. Not to mention, if you read Part 1 of this series, you’ll know I have a number of health issues that may make healing and recovery a far more arduous journey, than it would if I was a fully healthy person.

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

Accepting The Problems & My Body

While they may be a pain, and they may be worth a reduction, it is up to me to maintain my health with my naturally gifted body. This is why I must maintain a strong back, and why I must eat healthily as an adult, to keep my bones in tip-top shape.

Part of self-acceptance sometimes means accepting things that are inconvenient. While I may have once wished to own two luscious mounds of joy upon my chest, actually developing them has taught me a crucial life lesson: “Be Careful What You Wish For, Because You Just Might Get It”!

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I thought to myself, “Would they have been MEMORABLE if he didn’t ABUSE me?” Then, I took a deep, raggedy breath.

At that moment, I felt a flood of chemicals flowing into my brain. I continued my train of thoughts: “Did he even have anything to offer aside from the abuse?” In my experience, he did not. Once that epiphany flooded my sensibilities, I felt slightly more free from the suffocation from this particular trauma.

This isn’t always the case, but for many of us, it takes a shift in perspective to break-free from the trauma we’ve experienced.

Healing from Traumatic Relationships – Reconciling My Abuser

Many of us, who have experienced trauma from an abusive romantic relationship, struggle to break free of the pain that was inflicted upon us. In some cases, we retain a level of attachment to our abusers, When you realize you chose to overlook their flaws to see the good in them, you’re realize even moreso that you lowered your standards for them.

In my experience, I definitely lowered my standards to be with someone. When I entered this particular former relationship, I was in an extremely dark place after a total heartbreak, with someone who also didn’t deserve me.

My self-esteem was in hell.

Looking back, it was worse than I realized. This person seemed like he wanted to bring me joy. We had so much fun together! We moved so quickly, that I was barely able to catch my breath before I found myself knee deep in emotional commitment.

I was trapped. I stopped going out. The abuse was so egregious–and so frequent–it caused the autoimmune disease I already had to go measurably out of control, from the enormous stress. In fact, I’m still dealing with the impacts of this on my health, 4 years later.

When I had the aforementioned epiphany, I realized this man had absolutely nothing to offer! He really ended up being no more than a step above a “hobosexual”. He wasn’t attractive to begin with, and then he had gained a substantial amount of weight. It made him feel worse about himself than he already did. We couldn’t even have sex anymore, due to both his weight and his self-esteem! He didn’t cook, didn’t clean, stayed underemployed, and didn’t even help with his own child that would visit us.

Couldn’t he have at least been good to look at?!

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

You weren’t played, like you may think.

Abusive people rarely show their true colors from the start. You didn’t deserve the abuse, but you do deserve to heal, to love yourself, and to find happiness. Let’s acknowledge that you were strong enough to survive, and move forward.

Finding Love After Trauma

Healing from traumatic relationships is a messy, dirty business. Healing on purpose is a true act of self-love. When it feels like you’re trudging through the mud of traumatic memories, it can feel quite crushing. But then, something-or someone!-comes along and jolts you awake, forcing you to confront the darkness head-on.

There are a few things to consider, when it comes to loving yourself and others again.

• Practicing self-love is crucial. If you’re struggling on the path to self-love, please check out my blog How To Practice Self-Love, Even When You Can’t, to learn how to help get started in creating healthier brain patterns.
• Trusting someone will feel like dying; but you’re not. Learning what the red flags are of an abusive person is important, but try not to do the “shoot first; ask questions later” thing. That is never productive, and can harm more than it heals.
• Healing from traumatic relationships will take longer than you think; but that’s okay. You still deserve love!
• If a relationship is your end goal, you should be aware that some parts of healing can only occur when you’re actively in a relationship. The reason being is that when you’re single, there is no one capable of pushing the buttons your former partner used to push.

Sometimes, all it takes is a moment of clarity to realize just how utterly insignificant they truly are and were.

Healing is a work-in-progress, but it’s also a conscious decision. At least, it has been for me. I’ve been through therapy, I read books, deconstructed brain patterns, and actively worked to give myself the love I deserved.

Clearing The Brain Fog

When you’re healing from trauma, suddenly, something may shift. You may wake up, the fog will lift and grant you clarity you needed to move forward. This realization was both humbling and empowering for me, which awakened me to the true nature of my abuser.

You still have to unpack the trauma, and lick the wounds that have been festering for so long. Think of minimizing your abuser as a radical tool for reframing abuse – a gift that can help you rise above the pain. Like a fleeting orgasm, their power over us dissipates, leaving behind a sense of our own strength and safety. And maybe a little euphoria.

I want you to know that it’s not your fault. You didn’t ask to be hurt, used, and have your feelings discarded. You were taken advantage of, and that’s not something to be ashamed of; it’s a testament to your heart.

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Who was Jezebel, anyway?

Jezebel was a biblical bad girl, known for her fierce independence, her love of luxury, and her unapologetic sensuality. She was a queen who refused to conform to societal norms, and instead, forged her own path. And that’s exactly what we’re going to tap into with this vision board – your inner Jezebel, the one who’s not afraid to take risks, to be bold, and to demand what she wants. Perhaps I should cover Jezebel in the next edition of Lust & Lore? Let me know in the comments!

Why Do I Need a Vision Board?

Wild women shouldn’t be tamed. As a huge fan of wild women, myself, I knew I wanted to be one. In a world that often tries to tame our wildness and stifle our desires, a vision board is a powerful tool to help you reclaim your inner Jezebel. If you’re a visual person, it helps you get clear on your vision.

A vision board is a visual representation of your desires–a collage of images, words, and textures that evoke feelings and emotions. By creating a vision board, you’re taking ownership of your outcomes. For this one, we are going to focus on your sensuality, celebrating your uniqueness, and manifesting a life that honors your deepest desires.

If nothing else, it’s a way to get a clear vision of what you want to be, or what you want to do. Sometimes we don’t know what we want, until we put it together and see it for ourselves!

How to Create a Vision Board to Find Your Inner Jezebel

Gather your materials:

• A large piece of cardboard, paper, or canvas
• Magazines, scissors, and glue
• Markers, paint, or colored pencils
• Photographs, fabrics, and other textures
• Any personal items that hold significance to your sensuality (e.g., a piece of lingerie, a rose petal, or a love letter)

Set Your Intention

Find a quiet, comfortable space where you can relax and tap into your inner world. Take a few deep breaths, and ask yourself: “What does my inner Jezebel look like? What does she want, and what does she deserve?” Allow your thoughts to flow, and write down your intentions.

Gather Your Inspiration

Flip through magazines, and cut out images that evoke feelings of sass, seduction, and empowerment. These can be images of strong women, luxurious settings, or sensual art. Collect words and phrases that resonate with your intentions, such as “unstoppable,” “fearless,” or “unapologetic.”

Create Your Vision Board

Begin arranging your images, words, and textures on your board. Group similar themes together, or create a flowing narrative that tells the story of your inner Jezebel’s journey. Add personal items that hold significance to your sensuality, and don’t be afraid to get creative with colors, shapes, and patterns.

Activate Your Board

Hang your vision board in a place where you’ll see it daily, such as your bedroom or meditation space. Take a few moments each day to gaze at your board, allowing the images and words to sink deep into your subconscious. Repeat your intentions out loud, and feel the energy of your inner Jezebel manifesting in your life.

Tips and Variations

• Create a digital vision board on Pinterest or Canva, and set it as your phone’s wallpaper or computer background.
• Invite friends over for a vision board party, and explore each other’s inner Jezebels.
• Update your vision board seasonally, reflecting your growth and evolution as a sensual being.

A vision board is a powerful tool to connect with your inner Jezebel, to manifest your desires, and to celebrate your unique sensuality. By embracing your inner Jezebel, you’re not only becoming the best version of yourself, but you’re also contributing to a world that honors and celebrates women’s power and sensuality. So, take the first step, and create a vision board today.

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

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This last week, I saw some really inspiring posts about self-love on Threads. However, a few posts about self-love really hit my soul and I wanted to share some insights with you here on the blog. In the process, I want to give you a few steps to get you on the way to becoming the love of your own life, using these nuggets of wisdom gleaned from other creators and users of the app.

That’s right. You can become the love of your life. No, this doesn’t take away from the person you love, either. Imagine what you could accomplish, if you added a little more love to your life.

3 Self-Love Practices to Become The Love Of Your Life

The path to self-love can be uncomfortable, but it’s worth it. These are some of the philosophies that have led me down a path of self-love, and helped me heal decades of trauma and struggles with self-perception. Self-love is more of a practice, than a destination. It’s a decision you have to make for yourself. These behaviors highlighted today create a foundation for self-love to form. The reality is, you cannot rely on others to give you everything, even if they are giving you the love you deserve. You still owe yourself the same love you give others!

1) Get Cringy – Idolize Yourself

I know you’re thinking this sounds corny. And I guess it is–at least, until you take self-love seriously. But you owe it to yourself to give yourself the love that others didn’t appreciate from you. You deserve to make yourself feel good.

View on Threads

Because who the HELL else is going to do it? Even if you have to fake it, learn to get comfortable with it. Affirming behavior, while it may feel weird and unnatural at first, remember that’s just your brain patterns resisting being corrected. Go ahead–wink at yourself when you look in the mirror today. Start small. Changing thought patterns will not change overnight!

Do it until it doesn’t make you want to vomit… Anymore.

2) Consider Self-Care As An Act of Self-Love

One radical thing I began to practice is loving myself the same way I’d love a partner. The more we rely on others for this validation, the more out-of-reach self-love can be. We really should be asking for more of ourselves, because we deserve that.

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I really don’t mean that we need to work harder on our goals, or deliver feats that are beyond our limits. I mean, we should better serve ourselves, because we cannot control how other people are going to treat us. I highly recommend reading her entire post on threads, because she outlines small acts of self-care as aspects of self-love.

Self-love is so much more than saying “I love myself.”

3) Put Yourself First

There is a fine line between being selfish and putting yourself first. Some say you have to “be a little selfish,” but that’s a bit of a negative way of looking at something so beautiful. While we may still be able to love someone the way we desire to love someone, we have to also ensure we pour into ourselves. Not to mention, to also choose partners that take care of themselves, as well. But perhaps, that’s another blog post.

This is yet another aspect I have gleaned from the previous point. This user finally put herself first; not their partner. Even the little things, like correctly stocking her pantry to feed herself, creating comfort, and giving herself all the things she’s previously given partners.

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Having done all of the above, myself? I highly recommend it.

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

Self Love is Not a Destination

Think of the path to Self-Love like the growth of a lotus, my favorite flower.   The path to self-love is often arduous; a challenge. Sometimes this journey of growth begins, in the murky depths where light won’t penetrate. Sometimes, though, under the right conditions, new life begins to take root. You may not even notice it at first, no. It might be slow. Growth isn’t always the same as everyone else.

Though, soon, new leaves will begin to develop. This new life seeks more than the muddy depths can provide. Soon, new growth begins to emerge, seeking the light.

Soon, this growth sees just a little bit of light glimmering upon the surface of the water above it. It’s still down deep, but if you just give it enough time, it will make it. You have to be patient.

This new growth continues its journey, to seek the light. It must continue, to reach the light. Soon the leaves will have emerged from the mud, and then they finally approach the surface.

You see, even just breaking the surface could be just enough room to thrive and bloom.

Sometimes the path isn’t lit at all. Sometimes, there is only darkness, but somehow you have to keep moving. Trust the process; you’ll break the surface.

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Today, I am here to tell you that this is misguided. Self-care is also taking care of our needs, my friends.

While many of us focus on getting our nails done, having a spa day, eating a naughty little treat, or even just exercise; there’s another crucial aspect of self-care that’s often overlooked. That is our sexuality.

Today I want you to explore the art of sensual living with me, and learn more about how incorporating sensuality into our daily lives can lead to happier and more orgasmic experiences! A healthy and fulfilling sex life is essential to our overall well-being, so I am encouraging you to honor your sensual self.

Incorporating Sensuality into Everyday Activities

Sensuality is not just about sex. If you follow me on Threads, you know I talk about this frequently. Sensuality is about finding out what stimulates our senses and what gives us pleasure. This is highly individual but I am more than happy to provide a few tips to get you started.

Your personal sensuality can grow over time. Wanna start small? Here are a few ways to incorporate sensuality into your daily routine:

• Sensual Snacks: Indulge in foods that stimulate your senses, like juicy fruits, rich chocolates, or spicy cheeses. Savor each bite, and pay attention to the textures, smells, and tastes.
• Sexy Soundtracks: Put on music that makes you feel sexy and confident when you’re getting dressed or doing chores. ASMR recordings can also be a great way to unwind and tap into your sensual side.
• Self-Care Sundays: Set aside one day a week for self-care, and make it a sensual experience. Take a long, relaxing bath, give yourself a massage, or practice yoga while focusing on your breath and body.

By incorporating these small moments of sensuality into your daily life, you’ll start to feel more connected to your body and your desires.

If you want a more in-depth article, please check out my previous article about this: How-To: Sensual Self-Care; Add Sensuality to your Routines

The Importance of Mindfulness in Sensual Living

Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment. You won’t be good at this right away! Mindfulness is a skill, and it can also be developed over time. Mindfulness is essential for sensual living. When we’re mindful, we’re more aware of ourselves, in both our bodies and our thoughts. This is one way to foster a deeper connection to your body, when you may not have even given it much thought, before.

Loving oneself is a critical aspect of mindfulness and sensual living. When we love and accept ourselves, we’re more likely to feel comfortable in our own skin. That leads to less distractions like worrying about the pudge in your low belly, or how your boobs hang.

And if you’re not thinking of all that, your mind has a whole lot more space to do things like focus on what’s hot, ready, and in front of you!

Mindfulness practices like meditation and deep breathing can help us cultivate self-love and self-acceptance. Remember, these are practices. You won’t be good at these things overnight! If you are looking for step-by-step guidance, let me know in the comments!

See more of our blogs on How To Practice Self Love here.

Here are a few ways mindfulness can impact orgasms:

• Increased Awareness: When we’re mindful, we’re more aware of our physical sensations.
• Reduced Stress: Mindfulness practices reduce stress, leading to less distractions.,
• Improved Communication: Mindfulness can help us communicate more effectively with our partners, building closer connections.

By incorporating mindfulness into our daily lives, we can cultivate a deeper connection with ourselves and our bodies, leading to a more sensual and fulfilling existence.

Tips for Creating a Sensual Environment at Home

Our environment can greatly impact our mood and our sensuality. Have you ever tried getting down in a roach-infested room? What about on a bed covered in food containers and books? Sorry kiddos–sex is an adult activity.

Once upon a gtime man who was 15 years my junior invited me to “come through”.   While the offer may have been enticing to some cougars, I was immediately plagued with visions of beds on the floor, no linens, and a dirty bathroom. I thought, “I have linens, towels, candles, and a luxurious bathroom. Why would I want to visit some young man’s apartment?!”

I’m sorry–sex is just better when the environment is comfortable. I’m too old–and too fancy!–to lay on a mattress on the floor. Moreover, a sensual and inviting environment makes you feel a little bit more like your home is your personal oasis to enjoy. 

Here are a few tips for creating a sensual environment at home:

• Soft Lighting: Dim red lights, candles, or string lights can create a warm and inviting atmosphere. You don’t even need to use them all the time! I always keep candles around for this, because they have the added bonus of smelling delicious!
• Sensual Textures: Incorporate plush throw blankets, soft rugs, and comfortable pillows into your environment. Even if you’re not using your couch, it’s still more inviting with throw blankets or pillows on it. You may just end up hanging out on your couch more often!
• Sensual Scents: Use essential oils or scented candles to create a sensual and relaxing atmosphere. Aromatherapy is REAL! For relaxing I like a combination of palo santo, lavender, rose, and citrus scents!
• Comforting Sounds: Play soothing music in your evenings, as you wind down. I prefer music without words, to prevent distractions. Your mileage may vary.

By creating a sensual environment at home, you’ll be more likely to feel relaxed and comfortable. This can lead to stress reduction, a sense of personal joy, and it can certainly make you more comfortable and “ready” for your sensual proclivities!

What are your thoughts? How do you incorporate sensuality into your daily life, and what tips do you have for creating a sensual environment at home?

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I’ll tell you something funny; I had this basically written before I sat down to do the final draft of this. Then I had one big realization: Self-Love is self-care, and everything you do to take care of yourself. That’s right–everything. Even the little things. I had to re-work this whole thing, before I shared my thoughts with you!

For this blog, I wish to focus on what self-love is, so you can find for yourself how to love yourself, in spite of your flaws. So, if you ask me how to love yourself, even when you cannot? I would ask you, “why not?” In this blog, I’ll be discussing why and how I arrived at that question.

How to Practice Self-Love When You Cannot

When I first started on my self-love journey, I didn’t expect that it would be so healing. While I still struggle with self-perception issues, I have put forth effort into changing my brain patterns to shift into hate just because I perceive myself in a negative way.

I also did not expect that practicing self-love would enrich the relationships with those around me, allowing me to bring people into my life that cared for me.

Starting to give yourself self-love can feel uncomfortable at times. For real–try looking in the mirror and say, “I Love You”. Try it! This is especially true, if it’s something you’ve never really practiced before. You don’t need to do this to learn how to practice self-love, but it really drives home how you feel about yourself.

However, the GOOD news is, that it’s definitely possible to re-condition your brain patterns to begin the shift. This blog intends to outline areas you can evaluate and improve, to see yourself in a new light.

Sometimes I believe the problem with not being able to practice self-love is 1), determining what self-love is TO YOU, and 2), learning to love yourself with your faults.

It’s all about creating new brain patterns full of kindness and patience towards yourself. Here are a few things to think about on your path to self-love:

Are you Willing?

This first starts with WILLINGNESS. You cannot achieve self-love if you are not willing to try self-love. The fact that you clicked on this blog from a search engine or via my social media, tells me that you’re at least willing enough to learn about it.

Think of self-love like a garden. You need to plant the seeds first. If you don’t even plant the seeds, what do you think is going to grow?

Assess Yourself With Intention

If you want to practice self-love, you can make it a goal to love yourself unconditionally. Understand first, however, that this takes conditioning and time. You have to be okay with the process and journey.

Remember, the first step here is being willing to actually do it. Then you have to learn to recognize where you’re filling yourself with negativity.

We’re usually taught to be ashamed of our flaws. Have you done anything to yourself that is unforgivable? Probably not. Sure, I may have let myself stay in relationships for too long, I’ve made mistakes, or I may have been unfair to myself. However, one must actively forgive themselves for past mistakes. The only person you need to forgive is yourself. No one else.

Everyone makes errors and that dwelling on them hinders self-acceptance. Do you hate your loved ones for errors they make?

Love is in the Little Things

One thing that contributes to my daily practice of self-love, is trying to focus on small, compassionate acts toward myself. Even if those small things don’t feel like “love” in the traditional sense.

It could be something like letting yourself rest when you’re exhausted, forgiving yourself for mistakes, or just being gentle with your inner dialogue instead of being too harsh. Take a moment each day to acknowledge something you like about yourself. Even if it’s hard. This is the first step of many you’ll take in this journey.

Ever buy someone you love a candy bar just because you’re thinking of them? Buy yourself one, too! Just considering your sensibilities for a moment, is a small act of self-love.

Loving Yourself Without Condition, How to Practice Self-Love

You don’t need to be perfect to love yourself. Growth or needing growth is not a reflection of your worth. Forgive yourself for things, of which you may feel responsible. Accepting that you’re not perfect is SELF-LOVE.

Your faults and struggles with your body aren’t going away. I still see myself in a dozen negative ways, and I struggle to unsee them. Sure, I may not love my stretch marks, but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to moisturize my skin, maintain hygiene, and care for myself the way I would want someone I loved to do so.

I’d never lose my love for someone, just because of perceived flaws. Why should I treat myself like that?

Assess Relationships and Boundaries

Do you have people in your life that tell you negative things about yourself, or always ask too much of you? Are you a recovering people-pleaser?

Having a supportive and healthy environment is really helpful in healing trauma on the path to loving yourself. Finding your people is very difficult, but it is even harder when you’re choosing self-loathing.

Self-love often means respecting your own limits. Learning to say “no” when you need to, whether it’s to people, work, or even your own inner demands, can be a powerful way to show yourself some love and care. It’s about prioritizing your own well-being. This is something I highly recommend professional help in pursuing for behavior change.

You’d defend someone you loved. Start by defending yourself.

Take Care of Your Body

This isn’t about changing how you look, but about treating your body with care and respect.

I used to think I couldn’t love myself because of my body. I am still not happy with my body, but I am definitely not allowing that to keep me from standing up for myself and taking care of myself!

Would you want someone you loved not to defend themselves, simply because they didn’t like themselves?

Show Up Like You Would for Someone Else You Love

No–not like people who have wronged you. How would YOU show up for someone you love?

Show up for yourself like that. Even if it’s hard. No one else can make the choice for you. People can love you, but they cannot make you love yourself. Bring yourself joy! You are far more powerful than you realize, because you’re capable of this. Even if you’re telling yourself right now that you’re not.

Remember; it’s a process. And it’s not an easy one.

Loving myself taught me how to love others better. It was a conscious choice, and I did the work. I’m still doing the work, because it never ends.

It’s not about whether you can or can’t love yourself. You have to first understand what self-love is, and how you can practice self-love. It’s a matter of treating yourself with care, even if you aren’t happy with something. Would you treat someone else you loved like this? Would you be this unfair to them?

The reality I had to accept was, that we are always a work in progress, and sometimes self-love is a mountain to climb. The more and more you pour into yourself, the better. One day you’ll look back, and see how your boundaries have saved you.

Learning how to practice self-love can take years, but there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel.

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