This week’s myth is especially important:

Myth: Penetration is the main event.

It’s a common belief that sex doesn’t really start until penetration happens. People walking among us believ that everything before it is just foreplay. Perhaps it’s considered a warm-up act, something you endure or rush through on the way to the “real” thing. It’s a myth that convinces people to override their natural desires and instincts, and possibly end up faking orgasms or even lying to themselves.

Most sex myths aren’t built around pleasure. They’re built around performance and sometimes even by the patriarchy. This one happens to center male satisfaction.

So let’s slow it down.

Why We’re Taught Penetration Is the “Main Event”

Do you feel like you get more pleasure out of foreplay? You’re not alone. The idea that penetration is the main event seems to center around only one kind of pleasure, with many vagina-owners being left bereft of orgasm.

Penetration-focused sex works pretty well for people whose bodies are most easily and largely stimulated that way. For everyone else, it often requires adapting, waiting, or even erasing all desire altogether.

When sex is organized around penetration as the goal, everything else becomes secondary. That doesn’t mean penetration is bad. It just means we need to deconstruct pleasure, and reframe it in a way that pleasures all parties, regardless of their genitals.

Reality Check: Lesbian Sex Exists

One of the easiest ways to see the cracks in this myth is to look at sex that doesn’t involve around penises at all.

Lesbian sex doesn’t treat penetration as the default or the finish line. Sometimes it shows up, sometimes it doesn’t. Partners enjoy pleasure, connection, and responsiveness as they grow in pleasure together. And somehow, despite the lack of a so-called “main event,” the sex still counts. It’s still satisfying. It’s still complete.

This is the biggest smoking gun, to debunk this myth.

Reframing Penetration’s Role

Here’s where nuance matters: penetration can absolutely be part of great sex.

For many women, penetration feels best after other kinds of stimulation have already done some of the work. This is what we consider foreplay. More accurately, we’ll refer to these acts as “outercourse” here. We’re talking about kissing, touching, oral, grinding, teasing, warmth, buildup.

Think of penetration not as the ignition, but as something that can deepen or amplify pleasure once you’re already turned on. For some people, penetration can help tip things over the edge when they’re halfway there. For others, it’s neutral. For others, it’s not the thing at all.

Expansive Pleasure Changes Everything

The problem is pretending penetration is the whole point, altogether.

A lot of vagina owners don’t struggle with orgasm because their bodies are “difficult.” They struggle because sex has been narrowed down to one single act, requiring a penis.

When pleasure is allowed to be expansive, orgasm often follows more naturally. And if penetration joins the party? Great. If it doesn’t? Also great. You got to cum, you lucky devil!

Debunked Verdict

Penetration is the main event? Officially Debunked.

Unlearning sex myths can feel strange at first. Sometimes uncomfortable. Sometimes deeply relieving. Because once a myth loosens its grip, there’s suddenly more space—for curiosity, for communication, for pleasure that becomes more expansive.

Penetration is an option among many pleasure choices. It can be part of sex without being the only thing sex revolves around.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected, rushed, or underwhelmed because penetration was treated as the finish line, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. Your pleasure just needs more room than the myth allows.

Sex isn’t a performance for someone else. It’s a shared experience, shaped by what actually feels good. You’re allowed to center your own pleasure.

Stay curious. Stay soft with yourself. And remember: your clit matters.

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Our desires, fantasies, and preferences are a natural part of the human experience. They’re not a reflection of our past, but rather a celebration of our individuality and creativity.

Sex Myths Debunked: A Product of Societal Shame

So, where did this myth come from? Well, it’s largely a product of societal shame and the stigma surrounding sex in general. For centuries, we’ve been taught that sex is only for reproduction, and that any form of pleasure or experimentation is sinful or wrong. This puritanical mindset has led to the demonization of anything that doesn’t fit the narrow mold of “normal” sexuality.

But here’s the thing: what’s normal, anyway? Is it the missionary position, lights off, and a quickie before bed? Newsflash: that’s not everyone’s cup of tea. In fact, research suggests that up to 60% of people have at least one fetish or kink, with BDSM being one of the most common.

Research Says…

Studies have consistently shown that kinks and fetishes are not a sign of trauma or dysfunction. In fact, a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that BDSM practitioners reported higher levels of intimacy, communication, and relationship satisfaction compared to non-BDSM participants.

Healthy Exploration vs. Pathology

Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But what about people who have experienced trauma? Doesn’t their kink or fetish stem from that?” Not necessarily. While it’s true that some people may develop kinks or fetishes as a coping mechanism for past trauma, this is not always the case.

In fact, research suggests that healthy exploration of kinks and fetishes can actually be a sign of emotional intelligence, creativity, and a willingness to challenge societal norms. It’s all about consent, communication, and mutual respect – the same principles that govern healthy relationships.

Normalizing Kink

We consider this Sex Myths Debunked! So, how do we normalize kink and fetish culture? By talking about it, for starters. By embracing our desires and fantasies, rather than shaming or hiding them. By recognizing that kinks and fetishes are a natural part of human sexuality, rather than a deviation from the norm.

So, the next time someone tells you that your kink or fetish is a sign of trauma or dysfunction, you tell them to take a seat. Research says otherwise. Our desires, fantasies, and preferences are a natural part of the human experience. Let’s celebrate our individuality, rather than shaming or hiding it.

And remember, sweethearts: kink is not a four-letter word. It’s a celebration of our humanity, creativity, and passion.

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Well, today we’re going to enlighten you to a bit of the historical and oddly sexy history of the fruit keeping a generation from buying homes: the avocado.

In ancient Mexican culture, the avocado was revered as a potent aphrodisiac and considered sacred – the Fruit of the Gods. While ancient Mesocamerican cultures believed the avocado to be divine, they also considered it a powerful aphrodisiac. This meant that ancient cultures were incorporating it into their rituals and ceremonies, as well as including it as a staple in their diet.

Avocado Ancient Origins

The Aztecs believed avocados were a gift from the gods, cultivated in sacred gardens, and used in rituals of fertility, love, and abundance. The fruit we love today his roots reaching back 5,000 years, into Southern Mexico. To ancient cultures, the avocado wasn’t just a life sustaining food–it was a divine gift of pleasure.

It was then–5,000 years ago–that Mesoamerican tribes first began to cultivate the avocado for consumption.

A Fruit Fit for the Gods

In Aztec mythology, the avocado was linked to Gods of fertility and agriculture, and revered as a gift from Quetzalcoatl, the “Feathered Serpent”. The avocado’s soft, lush flesh and womb-like form made it a potent symbol of femininity, desire, and sensual abundance.

Even more compelling: the fruit takes about nine months to ripen. To the ancients, it seemed as if it was a not-so-subtle nod to human gestation.

They Grow in Pairs, So Cup them Properly

And with its plump, suggestive shape? Yeah, they noticed it did seem to resemble things OTHER than a human womb.

Native to Mexico and Central and South America, the Spanish word aguacate comes from the Aztec ahuacuatl, literally meaning “the tree of testicles.” No doubt the name derived from the way the fruit of the tree hangs in pairs, reminding those ancient peoples of the human male anatomy.

The fruit’s name was both a literal nod to its shape and a cheeky celebration of male virility. The word ahuacamolli — “avocado sauce” — is the spicy linguistic ancestor of guacamole.

So while “guacamole” doesn’t literally translate to “testicle sauce.” But in slangy Aztec terms? Kind of, yeah.

From Warriors to Conquistadors

When Spanish conquistadors landed in the 16th century, they discovered this love-loaded fruit and brought it back to Europe. The word ahuacatl morphed into aguacate, and the avocado quickly became a colonial culinary favorite — though its erotic backstory remained, shall we say, under wraps.

Still Hot After All These Years

Ancient warriors ate them for stamina. Lovers used them in fertility rituals. Modern romantics? We just add chili flakes and call it foreplay. Ancient warriors and emperors often sought to maintain stamina and virility, both inside and outside the bedroom.

Just wait until you hear about what they did with chocolate.

Avocado Aphrodisiac? Let’s Unpack!

For starters, it’s loaded with vitamin E, folate, healthy fat and necessary electrolytes like potassium — nutrients that fuel blood flow, boost mood, and yes–even boost fertility.

Getting adequate nutrition is still important to support reproductive functions, so perhaps the Aztecs were onto something, including this into their diet. Consuming these nutrients ensured they maintained health of their vital sexual organs.

After all, they didn’t exactly have a multi-vitamin in those days.

Enjoy Avocado–It’s Nature’s Butter!

For centuries, this creamy green fruit has symbolized lust, fertility, and sacred sensuality. So next time you indulge in some guac on your tacos, remember: you’re not just eating a superfood — you’re participating in a legacy of ancient divinity, and delicious desire.

Sources:

https://medium.com/@media_93416/an-avocado-story-the-tale-of-a-non-sweet-fruit-94a4addcfb5b

https://www.npr.org/2006/07/19/5563805/whats-in-a-name-the-avocado-story

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/guacamole-means-testicle-sauce/

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Pamela came to fame as a sex symbol, and these types of figures have historically been polarizing on society at large. While they’re prized and praised for their beauty, they’re deeply sexualized and thus seen as immoral by certain demographics. As such, I believe a lot of people have preconceived notions about her that tainted their perception of Pamela Anderson as an older woman. She was fortunate to be beautiful and got paid for it! However you may feel about her youthful antics: you weren’t the same person as you were 30 years ago, were you?

If you are–well, I suggest some positive self-reflection.

 

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A True Symbol of Beauty – Make-up Free Pamela Anderson

This is the very clip I keep watching. She’s beautiful. I’m elated just looking at her, with her imperfect skin, crystal clear eyes; proudly wearing her wrinkles. She’s glowing in a way a woman only does when they finally feel free.

I feel like her soul is free, without the pressure of being youthful and performative bombshell appearances. The internet discourse about Make-up Free Pamela Anderson is so funny to me, because it doesn’t make sense. So many people praise or criticize her going make-up free, with a variety of claims about her appearance. More and more, it becomes clear to me that maybe some people don’t fully understand what it means for Pamela Anderson to be without make-up. People don’t seem to take her seriously because of her past, which I feel is a grave miscalculation.

I saw claims that she has had surgical and skin procedures most of us had not.

Now, Pamela Anderson was always naturally beautiful, with the “classic beauty” face. She maintained it. After a certain point, she did get fillers and botox. Eventually, she had the fillers removed and stated that she is no longer interested in those procedures in more recent interviews.

This is a pretty good breakdown of the work she has had over the years:

Many are objectively beautiful, but it takes a certain spark to become an icon like Pamela Anderson. And she still has that spark!

I keep gazing upon her. She doesn’t look like she aged in a superhuman way, like many stars these days like to portray well into their 50s. Pamela is in her late fifties. Her skin is imperfect and uneven, she’s got wrinkles, smile lines, and more.What she did NOT do, was try to maintain her same appearance that made her famous to begin with.

You may see the same signs of aging on yourself. And yet, she still radiates the same sparkling energy that helped make her a full-blown sex symbol, to begin with.

But that’s exactly the thing: she doesn’t look abnormally youthful for her age. She’s aging like a normal person, whose beauty made her famous. Pamela Anderson Make-up Free is wearing her “flaws” like a badge of honor. Now she’s embracing a side of herself beyond the beauty that turned her into an icon. She’s fully getting into her “crone” season and is no longer bound by what people think of her looks.

Aging is a funny thing, as a participant in aging myself. Pamela Anderson looks like a healthy, beautiful 50+ year old woman. This is somewhat symbolic of the way we have evolved to look at appearance. Pamela is making headlines because she was known for her looks, and that is why we praise her for embracing her natural aging process.

Pamela was already pretty–yes.

Lovely Pamela isn’t the same beauty she was many years ago, and she understands this very well. We always relish when a star loses their good looks as they age, but no one seems to be feeling this way about her. Perhaps it’s because the Make-up Free Pamela Anderson is still very pretty. Watching her embrace this type of freedom is probably one of the coolest things I have seen an aging sex symbol do, in a very long time. It’s a radical act of self-love, and I wish I could bottle it and sell it.

Pamela Anderson was and is a sex symbol, and also a beacon to those of us to be okay with not looking the same way we did in our youth. Embrace the changes as you age, and you’ll find your own beauty, too.

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Sinfully Sweet: The Aphrodisiac Qualities of Honey

The sticky, sweet elixir has enraptured us for a millennia. Famously, modern archaeologists have found pots of honey, thousands of years old, still preserved in ancient Egyptian tombs. Wouldn’t you know it? It was still good enough to eat.

Evidence suggests that this tempting treat can stir a little more than just your tea; it can stimulate that libido. Honey can stir up feelings of romance and passion, you may not expect or even consider as a result of regular honey consumption. Heck – I consume it almost daily! Maybe that’s why my libido is out of control.

While honey may have many benefits outside of this realm, today we uncover how the ancient nectar of desire earned its reputation as an aphrodisiac.

The Nectar of Aphrodite

From mythology to reality, honey has long been associated with love and lust. This is a sweetener that is rich and deep, with complex notes of flavor. It’s the essence of nature.

Honey is just a sexy substance, to begin with, if you think about it. It flows slowly, enveloping every molecule it rolls over with its golden hue. Just imagine the flow of honey over your bare skin, slightly thicker than the sweat rolling off your body in an act of passion. Imagine as it rolls down the skin of your lover, allowing you to taste them with just a little extra sweetness. The taste alone, for true gourmands, is sensually delectable as it is visually appealing, flowing slowly over bare skin.

While I may have lost track of that for a minute, I wanted to take a moment to note that this is a testament to how useful honey has been in natural medicines. Before modern medicine, honey has been used to treat sexual dysfunction and boost libido.

A Spoonful of Seduction; Honey as an Aphrodisiac

While honey provides the utmost of sensory pleasure, this tempting treat contains nutritive minerals that may serve to benefit you in the bedroom. It turns out that honey has been linked to protective roles in reproductive health! And we all know a healthy and virile reproductive system means a more vigorous sex life!

Honey contains a couple of important nutrients;

1. Boron, which helps regulate hormone levels, and
2. Nitric oxide, is the chemical responsible for erections, and thus is important to maintain within the body to stay

Mother Nature Makes Certain We Get Down

This study states that in reproductive health, honey has been shown to improve fertility, offers protection for post-menopausal women, and can even restore testosterone levels over time. This means more virility, even increasing sperm quality.

Research shows that just a three-ounce helping of honey can significantly increase nitric oxide levels in the blood. Plus, the natural sugars in honey provide a quick energy boost, perfect for those late-night rendezvous when you need a little extra stamina.

The Bee’s Knees of Romance

Honey’s aphrodisiac qualities extend beyond the delicious taste. Its luscious sweetness can set the mood, making it a perfect addition to a romantic evening as a part of a charcuterie or cheese board or even just in the bedroom. Oh! Maybe a honey-flavored massage oil? Imagine the intoxicating scent that could be stemming from your lover.

Incorporating honey into your love life is both easy and enticing. Whether you’re drizzling it over strawberries for a playful treat or adding a dollop to your evening tea to set a cozy mood, honey’s sweetness is sure to add a touch of romance to any encounter.

So next time you’re looking to spice things up, consider reaching for the honey jar – one of our favorite aphrodisiacs – and savor the sweet, sensual buzz it brings. Whether enjoyed for its taste, its texture, or its ability to boost libido, honey is a versatile and delightful way to add a little sweetness to your sex life.

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While there are many ads that range from sexist, homophobic, racist and more, today we’re focusing on ads that straddle the lines of sexy. Perhaps this was messaging that worked at the time, but the seedy undertones of a few of these ads make me a touch queasy. Nevertheless, I have compiled ad with the hopes of making your skin crawl, at least a little!

You cannot convince me that most of these advertisers didn’t know what they were doing. You can’t, you can’t, you can’t, you can’t!

Love’s Baby Soft Commercial – 1975

“So Love made Baby Soft, with the innocent scent of a cuddly clean baby who grew up very sexy,” is making my skin crawl. How is this real? How did they get this woman to agree to this? This is probably the creepy vintage commercials of the current round up. It gets better from here, I promise.

“You and Your Johnson” – Johnson Boating 1980s

If you’ve not heard a single sexual thing in the last 50 years, you wouldn’t know that Johnson is often a euphemism for “penis”. To me, it sounds like he’s got quite the third leg, if you have to include it with your guest lists.

World’s Largest Lemons Ad – Quick Way Bar Mix

Okay, I kind of love this ad, and I really think it’s something I need to re-create. She’s a gorgeous pin-up, with LARGE, juicy lemons! Does it get any better? I wouldn’t call this inappropriate, but I do love the euphemism for lemons.

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Ballzac – 1993

Technically, I was alive when this commercial aired, but I most certainly do not remember this. The hippidy hoppity beats must have made it sound extra cool, to the kids who don’t know what a ballsack is, and also do not mind looking like one.

I almost wish they made some in “nude” tones.

Spread Your Legs!

COME ON. COME. ON. You know exactly what you were doing here, Pontiac! You’re encouraging passionate, backseat action which is a crime. A good one, with no victims.

Fly Judy – 1974

There’s a lot to unpack here. Judy’s voice, sweetly explaining that she wants to be flown everywhere. Especially as she begins to undress on the beach! Was that timing incredible or what?

I cannot imagine what the editors were thinking. What were the writers thinking?! “Fly Me,” she says. Yes, baby!

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