How to Masturbate – Volume I, Intro To The Vulva & Vagina

“How to masturbate for women” seems like a ludicrous thing to search for, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, this isn’t shameful. Even grown adults could use a helping hand, when it comes to learning masturbation techniques that work, or for getting new ideas to spice up their routine. Before we dive into the world of self-pleasure, let’s set the scene for an intimate and engaging experience. “Exploring Self-Pleasure” is a new series designed to awaken your personal intimate journey.

Pleasure Principles: Vol. 1 – Intro To The Vulva & Vagina

This guide is designed to empower you to explore your body with confidence, and learn to experience new waves of pleasure. This article is meant more for those of us with vaginas who haven’t had a chance to explore their girlhood. There are a plethora of ways to stimulate and pleasure yourself, so I’ve compiled a few ways to get you started. Self-love is more than just looking in the mirror and accepting the beautiful person you are; self-love also includes self-pleasure!

If you’re new to the game, or haven’t taken the time to explore yourself and your needs beyond partnered sex, there is no better time than the present! Additionally, understanding how you react to various stimuli onto your anatomy is an integral part of understanding pleasure with a partner.

Setting the Mood for Self-Pleasure

You can create an ambiance or you can just slip your hands in your panties, and go to town! IT’s all up to you. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. Some of us may need a little self-romance or some visual stimulation.

Creating the right ambiance can significantly enhance your masturbation experience. Start by finding a private space where you can relax without interruptions. Dim the lights, and allow yourself to get acquainted with your body and your desires. The key is to engage all your senses to build arousal.

Maybe after a nice, hot shower, you can wind down with some candlelight and some erotica. Maybe try some audio porn, or even erotic porn for women. Lust Cinema is a favorite, for those of us that crave a more erotic, intimate experience. Or dive into hardcore anal porn. I ain’t judging. Hell, I might join.

Exploring Personal Erogenous Zones

One we’ve set the mood, it’s time for a little self-romance. Before we delve into specific techniques, it’s important to understand the concept of erogenous zones. These are areas of the body that are highly sensitive to touch and stimulation, and can trigger intense pleasure and arousal. For women, the most common erogenous zones include:

• The clitoris: a small, highly sensitive organ located at the front of the vulva
• The vagina: the muscular canal that connects the cervix to the outside of the body
• The G-spot: a sensitive area located on the front wall of the vagina
• The nipples: highly sensitive areas that can be stimulated to increase arousal. (Make sure to check out our blog on Nipple Orgasms!)

Don’t be afraid to feel your curves, grabbing them as objects of lust. You can totally skip this step, but I find it adds to the experience to run my hands over my breasts, between my legs, or grip my own ass. That’s self-love, baby. 💋

How to Masturbate for Women & Vagina Owners

These Manual Masturbation Techniques are specific to those of us who have not warmed up to toys yet, but want to explore new ways of experiencing this beautiful form of self-love.

The Clitoris
The clitoris is a powerhouse of pleasure, with thousands of nerve endings waiting to be stimulated. Here are some non-toy techniques to explore your clit:

• “The Gentle Circle”: Using one or two fingers (I like my middle, for some reason! Try them all to see which works best for you!), lightly trace circles around the clitoris. Experiment with different pressures and speeds to find what feels best.
• “The Side Slide”: Place your fingers on either side of the clitoral hood and slide them back and forth, stimulating the sides of the clitoris without direct contact, which can be too intense for some.
• “The Up and Down”: Move your fingers in an up-and-down motion directly over the clitoris. You can vary the rhythm and pressure to build excitement. Reduce sensitivity by making use of your clitoral hood.

The Vagina
Vaginal stimulation can lead to deep, satisfying orgasms. Here’s how to pleasure yourself manually:

• “The Come Hither”: Insert one or two fingers into your vagina and curl them towards your belly button. You’re aiming to stimulate the frontal wall where the G-spot is located. Experiment with different motions—circular, back-and-forth, or a combination of both. Your g-spot may be deeper or more shallow than some. Don’t be afraid to explore and take your time.
• “The Deep Stroke”: With your fingers fully inserted, thrust in and out, mimicking the motion of penetrative sex. Adjust the depth and speed according to what feels good for you.
• “The Finger Flick”: Instead of inserting your fingers, use your fingertips to rapidly flick the entrance of your vagina. This can create a teasing sensation that builds arousal.

Beyond The Basics: Manual Stimulation

Combining Clitoral and Vaginal Stimulation
For a blended orgasm, combine clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Use your non-dominant hand to play with your clit while your dominant hand explores inside your vagina. This simultaneous stimulation can lead to an intense and full-bodied climax.

Pillow Humping and Other Ideas

• Pillow Hump: Position a firm pillow or a cushion between your legs and grind against it. Adjust the pressure and rhythm to find the motion that brings you the most pleasure.
• Use a Shower Head: Use the detachable shower head to direct a stream of water onto your clitoris. The water’s pressure and temperature can provide a unique and exhilarating sensation!
• Inner Thigh Stimulation: Use your fingers to stimulate the inner thigh area, which can be highly sensitive. This can be a great way to build up arousal and anticipation.
• Perineum Stimulation: Use your fingers to stimulate the area between your vagina and anus, which can be highly sensitive. This can be a great way to add variety to your self-pleasure routine.

How to Use Lube

Lubrication is highly underrated, and helps to increase stimulation! For some of us, it’s essential for comfortable and pleasurable masturbation. It reduces friction and can enhance sensations. Remember, lube isn’t just for when you’re dry or have trouble lubing up naturally; it can elevate any masturbation session!

Water-based lubes are versatile and compatible with all types of sex toys and condoms. Apply lube to your fingers or directly to your genitals before you start exploring and have fun! Don’t be afraid to try a few brands you like the most.

Basic Self-Love Hygiene for a Healthy Vagina

Maintaining good hygiene is crucial for preventing infections and ensuring a healthy vagina. Here are some basic steps:

1. Wash your hands before and after masturbation to prevent the introduction of bacteria.
2. Use a gentle, fragrance-free soap to clean the external parts of your genitals daily. Avoid internal douching, as it can disrupt the natural balance of bacteria in your vagina.
3. Urinate after masturbation to flush out any bacteria that may have been introduced during sex play.
4. Wash sex toys with warm, soapy water or a toy cleaner after each use and store them in a clean, dry place.

In “Exploring Self-Pleasure Volume I,” we’ve covered the basics of setting the mood, exploring your erogenous zones, and mastering various manual masturbation techniques for both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. If you’re new to self-pleasure, you’ll love exploring your own little personal pleasure map! We’ve also discussed the importance of lube and basic hygiene practices. Remember, self-pleasure is a journey of self-discovery, and there’s no right or wrong way to explore your body. Embrace your sexuality, experiment with different techniques, and enjoy the ride.

Are there any specific techniques or topics you’d like to see covered in “Exploring Self-Pleasure”? Your feedback is invaluable in crafting content that will help you most!

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