How to Have Phone Sex

Have you been asked to get freaky on the phone? If you’ve never done it before, chances are you’re wondering about the basics of how to have phone sex! We explore how intimidating phone sex can be, and offer up some quick tips to enhance your experience so you can have your own set of “Eargasms”!

Kiss Me Through the Phone: Quick Tips for Mind-Blowing Phone Sex

Do you have a long distance partner you need to satisfy? Sometimes you need to add a little spice to your Digital Getdowns, because they can’t WAIT to get you on the phone, girl!

Phone sex is a fun and very common way to ignite passion when you cannot physically be with your person. Sometimes you need to express your intimate connection via a more creative means, and phone sex is the primary way to do this! Of course, you can enhance all of this with a simple video cam session, but that may be for advanced users! 🤭 For now, let’s get you going on the basics, so you’ll be screaming your partners’ name into your phone, quickly!

Set the Mood
Phone sex can be awkward at first, but once you get turned on, you may lose exhibitions. It’s important to set the mood for, not only your partner but, for yourself! Do whatever it takes to get you in the mood.  Make sure you’re in a spot where you won’t be disturbed. Don’t be afraid to dim the lights and light a candle or two. Then think of how your partner would want to see you; put on some sexy panties that make you feel good.

Undoubtedly, they’re going to ask what you’re wearing. If you aren’t good at making it up, actually putting on something sexy definitely helps!

Paint Fantasy With Words
You only have words, so you have to make it count! You can even express desires you’ve held back from! It starts with your imagination. Be descriptive and let the words flow. Be specific and paint a picture in their heads. When things really get dirty, make sure you start describing what you’re doing, but be sensual about it! No one wants to hear how good your glass toy feels in your pussy, if you’re saying it like you’re ordering lunch (dos tacos, por favor!).

Talk about what you’d like to do to your partner and what you wish they were doing to you. Remember, the goal is to arouse and be aroused, so speak slowly, and don’t be afraid to let them hear you moan! Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to explore fantasies that you might not act out in real life. If you’re feeling brave, add something new into the conversation, even if it’s a little out-of-character. If you’re creating a safe space with your partner, you can discuss every little kink you’ve ever thought of, and base your phone sex sesh on that!

Engage the Senses
Hearing is obvious, but you can expand stimulation in a few ways! Try asking them to touch themselves a certain way, or explain how you’re using your toys. Let them guide you, and vice versa. This helps create the connection, and will definitely result in a steamier conversation!

Read Romance or Erotic Novels
If you’re having trouble finding your words, try giving erotic short stories or romance novels a try. Sometimes we have trouble putting feelings and sensations into words, and taking cues from well-written erotica (or even audio erotica!) can certainly help you keep the put simmering, by expanding your sexual imagination.

Listen and Respond
Good phone sex is a two-way street. It’s not just about talking; it’s about listening, too. Pay attention to the cues in your partner’s voice—their breaths, the speed of their speech, the tone. Respond to these cues by escalating the intensity of your own voice or by switching up the pace to match their arousal. Create a rhythm of banter, to exchange erotic thoughts, feelings, and enhance your full experience.

Hopefully we’ve given you a good rundown of the basics of how to have phone sex! Phone sex is an exhilarating way to enhance intimacy, even for partners that have access for each other. Sometimes, sex isn’t convenient for a number of reasons. Embrace fantasy, embrace words, and learn where your imagination can take you, together. If you haven’t done this before, don’t be afraid to allow your partner to lead! Sometimes, experience isn’t something to be jealous of. 😉

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