You may love chocolate, but have you considered that you may love chocolate even more so because of an array of nutritional benefits and mood boosters? Chocolate is considered an aphrodisiac, and today we’re going to unpack a little bit more about how it became so well associated with love and lust.

You may seem keen to indulge in a piece of chocolate every so often (or daily–I do not judge), but there’s a rabbit hole beneath the simple pleasure of chocolate titillating your tastebuds. So what is it about chocolate that makes it such a potent symbol of desire?

An Indulgent Love Affair Between Chocolate and Your Hips

The very word conjures up images of rich flavors, and an experience that is as luxurious as it is comforting. Chocolate is among the top indulgent foods in the world, and is especially enjoyed around love-imbued celebrations.

Just a little bite of creamy decadence is the perfect sweet stimulation, to bridge an indulgent evening with a steamy finish.

The Food of the Gods: Chocolate Aphrodisiac

We give credit to ancient Mesoamericans, who were the first to understand the full body effects of chocolate. The history of chocolate began with the Maya, who were probably the first people in South America to cultivate the cocoa plant.

The Aztecs adopted many traditions and trade from the Mayans, carrying on the cacao traditions. They called it “xocolatl,” an ancient Nahuatl word meaning “bitter water”. This drink was nothing like the sweet confection we enjoy today. Instead, it was adorned with other chiles, herbs, and other flavors to develop a medicinal beverage, famously enjoyed by Aztec nobility. It was referred to as the “Food of the Gods” and was presented at the table of Emperor Moctezuma II by the Aztecs.

Nevertheless, this precious bean was prized for its mood-enhancing qualities. The Aztecs, in particular, believed chocolate to be a powerful aphrodisiac, among many other full-body qualities. So much so that the aforementioned Emperor was said to consume it in large quantities to fuel his romantic escapades among his harem!

The Chemistry of Craving

Chocolate contains a unique blend of compounds that can stimulate the brain and induce feelings of euphoria and pleasure.

The velvety texture and decadent flavor is more than just a treat—it’s a prelude to euphoria. Chocolate’s potent blend of phenylethylamine (PEA) and anandamide stimulates the brain in a similar way to the feeling of a lover’s touch. No wonder we love our chocolate so much!

Phenylethylamine isoften referred to as the “love drug,” because it can trigger the release of dopamine and norepinephrine. These are the same wonderful brain chemicals that bring on the feeling of falling in love!

So when I say a decadent chocolate cake tastes like “love,” I most certainly mean it.

Chocolate Aphrodisiac – Sensual Texture and Flavor

Chocolate is an incredible sensory experience. It’s savory, it’s sweet, evoking a delicious cocktail of brain chemicals!

The sensory experience of eating chocolate is another reason it’s associated with romance. Since chocolate has a creamy texture, the way it melts in your mouth can be likened to an intimate embrace. Similarly, dark chocolate, with its intense and slightly bitter notes, is particularly seductive, offering a sophisticated experience that can heighten the senses.

A Heart-Healthy Treat for Two

Beyond its ability to enchant the senses, chocolate also boasts health benefits that can contribute to a vibrant love life.

Dark chocolate is rich in antioxidants called flavonoids, which have been shown to support heart health by improving blood flow. And we all know what better blood flow contributes to, right?

No? Well, it gives the body a much *ahem* easier time rising to the occasion, by clearing the path for blood to flow into our sensitive erogenous zones.

Eat up, Buttercup.

We think that there are many excuses to enjoy chocolate. It’s a delicious treat that provides good nutrition and brain chemicals that make us nourished in more ways than one.

Unwrap a timeless aphrodisiac that whispers to your deepest desires. With its rich history, mood-boosting compounds, and sensual appeal, chocolate is the perfect ingredient for a little romance. Don’t forget to take a look at Hot Date Nutrition! Here I talk more about aphrodisiac foods, and how to indulge in them a little more frequently!

So go ahead, surrender to the seduction of chocolate, and let the sparks fly as they may! ✨

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The Alchemy of Love – A Love Letter to My Past

While I have never been keen on dating advice, I am also not one to hide my stories and share what I have learned. While I may not share these stories with anyone unprompted, I felt inspired to write a bit about how I have learned to become a better partner, find an ideal partner, and how I’ve managed to keep faith in love, in spite of the pain and sorrow peppered throughout my love life lore.

In my age and wisdom, I have found that when it comes to love, age has come with wisdom. That wisdom came from loving freely, and believing completely that giving love meant that I should expect it in return.

Well, love doesn’t quite work like that.

Perhaps it’s the current astrological transits, or perhaps because I’m ruminating on getting older. Perhaps it’s the feeling of finally being in a loving, safe situation with the actual ideal partner. Whatever it may be, I have found myself reflecting on the dramatics of my love life, from passionate nights to heavy traumas, and how they have impacted me as the partner I have become.

As I reflect on my ability to fully comprehend the joy of my life, I find I was not always this amorous. This time, I have found myself reflecting on past mistakes, triumphs, and glories that have led me to this place in my life where I finally feel secure. I feel loved, and appreciated and experience passion every day of my life, and I wouldn’t have manifested this without learning from my mistakes. One critical portion of my unsolicited dating advice: learn from your mistakes.

Alchemy is the practice of taking something; an object, a thought, a desire, and turning it into something new. It’s the magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. And all you need is to see love and life for what it is, in actuality.

Experiencing Romantic Love 

This could be a controversial statement, but: Love is not unusual, nor is it hard to find. Good, honest love is hard to find, but love itself?

Working with the belief that LOVE is as much of an emotion as it is an action and activity to participate in, helps put things into perspective. It’s easy to have a bad relationship and think you didn’t LOVE that person.

Sometimes that action, in love, is simply “being in a relationship” or “enjoying a passionate night together”. You can find love anywhere. You can find sexual passion in a bar, you can find a lover on an app. Sometimes we look for love in “all the wrong places,” but sometimes you get it right!

I fundamentally believe that romantic love is meant to be experienced in various times of your life, including when you’re too young to understand it. Lovers are meant to come and go, as are friends. Lovers are here to teach. Some may call them soul mates, even, or soul partners.

Many people have different beliefs on soul mates, and mine leaves room for multiple people to come into your lives. I don’t believe in “twin flames”, or in soul mates in the conventional sense of the word. I believe in the Elizabeth Gilbert philosophy of soulmates, which spoke to me after one of the hardest breakups I have ever experienced in my life. This can be taken as a piece of relationship or dating advice, as you move through your quest to find love.

Some relationships aren’t meant to last forever, even if you want them to last. This is where your life lessons come in, and taking lessons from your relationship is critical to finding something that suits you. If you want to see the OWN interview where Elizabeth Gilbert said this, you can watch it here. It came to me at an extremely impactful time.

Dating Advice – Learn From Your Relationships

After leaving a long-term relationship, I found myself a little confused as to the type of person I really wanted in my life. I knew it wasn’t my ex, but I was not sure where I wanted to go from there. 

Falling victim to the romantic idea of “what could have been,” I came across a man I had dated in the past. We dated in our twenties, and it was fun! It did not work out, and he spent many, many years wondering about me now and again. He knew he screwed up back then, and made sure to address it when speaking to me again. 

There were a few times he had reached out over the years, and I was usually in another relationship. But this time, I was single. He was just my type! This guy had a good job, he lived on his own, and took care of himself. However, it wasn’t long until he started getting more vulnerable, then started acting odd and distant.

As gung-ho as he was about a second chance with me, he slowly withdrew. I tried prompting him about it, and it was like talking to a wall. So, I left it alone. I simply did not reach out anymore.

It’s Not Always Personal

At the time, I was feeling glad I had not slept with him yet. While the lesson may seem obvious, I feel like the lesson was even deeper than not falling for “what could have been”. We ain’t Ashanti OR Nelly. This isn’t going to work out. 

It was learning that no matter what happens, no matter how much time has passed, most people do not change. To me, the lesson was that those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it. 

These same themes can be repeated even in relationships that had nothing to do with the original.

All of this helped me arrive at the most critical piece of dating advice I can give: Be truly intentional when picking your partner. Knowing what you want and don’t want is key.

Applying The Lessons

I fundamentally believe you can love someone in spite of their faults, and want to see the best in them. Otherwise flawed people would have never received our love to begin with. However, you’re not learning from love if you are not applying the lessons. 

We love humans; we don’t love products. There are human responses to things that may be considered positive or detrimental. When you begin to learn what is detrimental to you specifically, you need to take a step back when that is demonstrated in a partner.

You’ve already been there, baby.

Patterns repeat until they’re disrupted, and your job is to disrupt the pattern. Whether it be by a breakup, a conversation or something else. I have said it before and I’ll say it again, but when it comes to partnerships, closed mouths don’t get fed.

Understanding what you have experienced is crucial to enhance your own human experience. We learn not to touch a hot stovetop because it’s hot, but we don’t like to apply that to people that may not have the best intentions or who may be stumbling through their life journey. I’m telling you that if we aren’t applying what we learn, we are going to have the same experiences over and over. 

Whether it’s learning how to implement boundaries, learning what you truly want in a partner, or even learning to accept accountability– these are all lessons I have taken from relationships to help me grow. This is when life became fruitful.

Expecting Imperfection

People don’t come out of the box perfect. Our manufacturer didn’t design us in the same way a product is placed into production. Accepting your own flaws, as well as the flaws of others, is just a small piece of the dating advice sprinkled throughout this piece. There are no plans, so that means we come with faults. They are inherent. This is human. This is our gift and our curse. 

We cannot expect perfection where we are imperfect, ourselves. When we give our love to someone, it should be immediately reflected in our own self-love. After all, if we’re putting faith in someone else, we should be able to put a little into ourselves as well, no?

To all those I’ve loved before,

The ones with unique faces, big ears, curly hair, long hair, no hair. To the ones who were fat and bald and imperfect; the ones who had doll faces and long locks; the ones who wanted me to swing, the ones who were sexually confused. Oh! And we cannot forget the ones who ran the spectrum of ethnicities, the ones who have hurt me, the ones who have loved me–genuinely or disingenuously…

You all taught me valuable lessons, harshly and softly. Once I healed from the friction of your love or pain, those lessons became law. Pain became transmuted, and I created something even greater out of myself and my life. The “Sorcerer’s Stone,” if you will. For that, I thank you. 

And that, is the Alchemy of Love.

To Me. 💋

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