Our desires, fantasies, and preferences are a natural part of the human experience. They’re not a reflection of our past, but rather a celebration of our individuality and creativity.

Sex Myths Debunked: A Product of Societal Shame

So, where did this myth come from? Well, it’s largely a product of societal shame and the stigma surrounding sex in general. For centuries, we’ve been taught that sex is only for reproduction, and that any form of pleasure or experimentation is sinful or wrong. This puritanical mindset has led to the demonization of anything that doesn’t fit the narrow mold of “normal” sexuality.

But here’s the thing: what’s normal, anyway? Is it the missionary position, lights off, and a quickie before bed? Newsflash: that’s not everyone’s cup of tea. In fact, research suggests that up to 60% of people have at least one fetish or kink, with BDSM being one of the most common.

Research Says…

Studies have consistently shown that kinks and fetishes are not a sign of trauma or dysfunction. In fact, a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that BDSM practitioners reported higher levels of intimacy, communication, and relationship satisfaction compared to non-BDSM participants.

Healthy Exploration vs. Pathology

Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But what about people who have experienced trauma? Doesn’t their kink or fetish stem from that?” Not necessarily. While it’s true that some people may develop kinks or fetishes as a coping mechanism for past trauma, this is not always the case.

In fact, research suggests that healthy exploration of kinks and fetishes can actually be a sign of emotional intelligence, creativity, and a willingness to challenge societal norms. It’s all about consent, communication, and mutual respect – the same principles that govern healthy relationships.

Normalizing Kink

We consider this Sex Myths Debunked! So, how do we normalize kink and fetish culture? By talking about it, for starters. By embracing our desires and fantasies, rather than shaming or hiding them. By recognizing that kinks and fetishes are a natural part of human sexuality, rather than a deviation from the norm.

So, the next time someone tells you that your kink or fetish is a sign of trauma or dysfunction, you tell them to take a seat. Research says otherwise. Our desires, fantasies, and preferences are a natural part of the human experience. Let’s celebrate our individuality, rather than shaming or hiding it.

And remember, sweethearts: kink is not a four-letter word. It’s a celebration of our humanity, creativity, and passion.

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Today we’re giving you a primer on the uniquely messy fetish. This fascinating fetish involves getting messy, covered in substances like food, paint, or even mud, while enjoying the sensations involved. Whether you’re simply curious or ready to experiment, I serve to give you a primer of all things Sploshing–exploring its different types, how people practice it, and even some sexy tips for those curious about trying it out themselves.

Types of Sploshing

Sploshing is a term that actually encompasses a number of activities. Each activity is unique in its own right, but some may be more appealing to you than others.

Some of the most popular types include:

• WAM (Wet and Messy): This involves getting covered in wet, gooey substances like mud, paint, or even food. This is the most popular form.
• Sploshing, specifically with Food: Think pies, cakes, and other sweet treats. Combined with Sitophilia!
• Slime: For those who love a good squelch, slime sploshing is the way to go. This type of sploshing involves using homemade or store-bought slime to create a messy, tactile experience. You can easily find them on Instagram!
• Muddy: Getting down and dirty in mud is perfect for those who love the great outdoors!

Whatever the approach, the key to truly enjoying this kink is embracing the mess and letting go of inhibitions. Some individuals prefer to engage in solo sessions, using substances like paint or slime to create a messy, sensory experience. Others may engage in group sessions, where multiple people get together to create a wild scene!

There is truly no singular way to enjoy this naughty and stimulating activity! Sometimes, practitioners take inspiration from other fetishes and BDSM practices, a chosen substance may be used as a form of domination or stimulation.

How to Try Sploshing

Feeling intrigued? There’s no harm in trying by yourself, to see how a solo session feels. Here are a few tips to get you started:

• Start Small: Begin with a small, controlled environment, like a bathroom or designated play area. Somewhere you can be undisturbed and comfortable.
• Control the Mess, at First: Sometimes controlling the mess is helpful for some beginners! This will help you get comfortable with the idea of getting messy. Either line your playspace with clear plastic (cheap shower curtains work great!) or get a kiddie pool!
• Then, Embrace the Mess: Remember, sploshing is all about embracing the messy, sensory experience.
• Choose Your Substance: Select a substance that resonates with you, whether it’s paint, slime, or even food. Experiment with different textures and sensations, as well!
• Communicate with Partners: If you’re engaging with a partner, make sure to communicate clearly about boundaries, desires, or any safety concerns.

Is this something you’re interested in exploring? This unique, fascinating fetish can create a world of fun. Whether you engage in solo play or with a partner, we hope these tips helped give you a good primer of what to think about.

Don’t forget to let me know in the comments, or on social media, what you thought! Plus, I’m more than happy to explore new topics all the time. Send your suggestions to me on social media!

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Sitophilia, a term derived from the Greek words “sitos” (food) and “philia” (love), refers to a sexual fascination with food, eating, or being fed. This unique fetish transcends the conventional boundaries of sexuality, blurring the lines between sustenance and seduction. In this article, we’ll delve into the world of sitophilia, exploring its nuances and providing ideas for those interested in exploring this fascinating aspect of human sexuality.

Sitophilia: Unraveling the Fascination with Food and Sex

At its core, sitophilia is about the eroticization of food and the act of consumption. It can manifest in various ways, such as:

• Sexual arousal from watching someone eat or being fed
• Fantasizing about food-related scenarios, like being fed by a dominant partner or engaging in food play
• Using food as a prop or tool for sexual stimulation
• Associating specific foods with sexual pleasure or intimacy
• Exploring Sitophilia, SOLO

Are you wanting to give Sitophilia a try? Here are some naughty ideas to tempt your tastebuds!

Partnered Food Play:

Experiment with different textures, temperatures, and sensations. Try feeding yourself or a partner with your hands, using utensils, or even incorporating food into foreplay. Fun foods to try include cut up fruits, sauces, jello, whipped cream, and even ice cream to combine sitophilia with a little temperature play!

Explore the role of food in power play scenarios, such as a dominant partner feeding a submissive one. This can add an exciting layer of complexity to your sitophilic exploration.

Sensual Dining:

Set up a romantic dinner with a partner, focusing on the sensory experience of eating together. Pay attention to the sounds, smells, and tastes, and see how it heightens your intimacy. You can do it in silence, and under candlelight to set the mood. Let your senses take over, you hedonist!

Food Fantasies:

Have you simply let yourself drift off into fantasy? Write down your food-related fantasies, no matter how unusual they may seem. This can help you identify patterns and desires, allowing you to explore them further.

Sensory Deprivation:

Try eating in the dark or blindfolded, heightening your sense of touch and smell. This can create a new, intense experience. You can do this by yourself, or with a partner. Take the time to enjoy the textures and flavors of the food you’ve prepared.

Remember: Sitophilia, like any fetish, requires consent, respect, and open communication with your partner(s). Ensure that all parties involved are comfortable and willing to engage in these activities. As you venture into the world of sitophilia, remember to prioritize your comfort, safety, and boundaries. This fascinating aspect of human sexuality offers a unique opportunity to explore new dimensions of intimacy and pleasure. By embracing your curiosity and creativity, you can unlock a richer, more satisfying sexual experience.

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Normalize armpit sniffing! Even Napoleon was reported to have enjoyed the essence of his lover.

Not wanting to lose any of her natural scent before he arrived home, Napoleon famously wrote to his lover, Empress Joséphine, “Don’t wash, I’m coming home”

Some of you may be thinking, “what?” but this is my attempt to normalize something that even I, at one point, thought was a bit to the left of the center. One day, however, I opened up my mind, when I realized I was drifting off to sleep, intoxicated by inhaling the delicate scent, emanating straight from the armpit of my partner. 

Gawd, am I an armpit girl now? Think about it; we’ve been told that we’re supposed to dislike this odor. Perhaps it’s where I have arrived in my sexual biology, or maybe it’s something I’ve never noticed before.

I remember my mother, ever so fearful about smelling any less than godly, would frequently turn her nose up and exclaim, “can you BELIEVE we’re supposed to be attracted to that?!” I always wrote her off, as young ones do. However I didn’t really consider the notion of being attracted to pheromones. Not until becoming more and more frequently exposed to people who love armpits, in various adult online communities. 

The answer is: armpit sniffing is all about pheromones.

This deep desire that sometimes spans into fetish territory, was far more common than I realized. This old but informative TED Talk uncovers a great deal about pheromones and why we respond to them, using dogs as a perfect example as a creature that learns and uncovers through scent.

Maybe it’s not that we’re necessarily supposed to be *attracted* in the same way we’d be attracted to smelling a flower. As with many animals, humans are biologically wired to pick up information, based on scent. The information we “pick up” can tell our brains many things, such as whether or not a person can be a potential mate, biologically. 

Hormones and pheromones are secreted by our apocrine sweatglands, which only reside in our genital-region or underarms. It’s no surprise that, as animals ourselves, we’re able to pick up on these hormones and pheromones which trigger a brain response. If we’re attracted to it, that means there is a level of compatibility. Pheromones and other hormones can tell our brains a lot of things we don’t understand consciously, but understand on a more primal level. Armpit Sniffing is just one way to get that scent, stimulating our brains in unique ways.

Various research studies have shown that people can “sniff out” better mates, that are more genetically dissimilar. This popular study had 49 women bask in the odor of men’s two-day old shirts. The study found that these women strongly preferred those who possessed different gene variants from themselves.

All Genders Enjoy Pheromones!

A similar experiment was performed on straight men. In this study, 41 women were asked to wear cotton gauze in their pits for 24 hours, on two different days. One day was a high fertility day. The second pad was worn on a low-fertility day. The study concluded that men rated the high-fertility days as smelling “sexier” and more pleasant, overall. 

Study author Kelly Gildersleeve suggested, “It could be a learned response that historically encouraged men to have sex with a woman precisely when sex was more likely to result in conception.”

Scent is a way to bond, but it’s also a way to suss out compatibility.

While there is more to uncover, scent and closeness are very much correlated in an intimate situation. Sometimes simply having a strong connection with someone can be enough for us to love their scent, as well.

Beyond the potential genetic connection, this study uncovers how odor and compatibility can be based on a “positive feedback loop”. There is a relationship that exists psychologically between how much a person likes their partner’s B.O. and exposure. 

Pheromones are Communicators, similar to Hormones

Since nowadays we mask underarm odor quite frequently, it’s become a lost art of non-verbal communication. Our bodies run and operate based on hormones, which communicate messages to the brain from various regions of the body. Pheromones are external communicators, stimulating your evolutionary instincts in ways you may or may not be conditioned to appreciate. 

Pheromones aren’t quite like hormones, but they have similar purposes as communicators. Hormones are what our bodies use to communicate needs and carry out processes such as mood and sexual function. Pheromones work outside the body, signaling messages to members of the same species. Much like animals, we’re able to pick up on those easily, through erogenous zones such as the armpit and the groin-area. 

On A Personal Note

Speaking as a woman that dates men, we’re socially conditioned to love a man’s scent from a young age. Even if it’s their cologne, it’s still paired with their personal musk, making it their own personal scent signature. We love this so much, that we love to steal their hoodies and wear them ourselves. 

Let’s call that what it is: basking in your person’s natural scent. So I ask, why not appreciate the armpit for what it is? A pheromone factory. It’s a signal of lust, inspiring a plethora of feelings you may not have allowed yourself to explore.

Enjoying the smell of someone’s body odor feels deeply primal in concept, but perhaps we’re over sanitizing the human body as an image. It’s not like it’s a surprise to anyone that  someone–another human!–can have body odor at all. Perhaps that’s simply because it is something deeply ingrained in our biology, and not something we desperately need to unpack.

Are you into Armpit Sniffing? Let us know your take in the comments about what really turns you on!

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