Welcome to another edition of “Beyond the DD,” where I discuss my “Big Boob Problems” from my real life experience of having actual big boobs! This is mostly just for funsies, because I am well-aware that having larger breasts is often seen as desirable. As with many desirable things; it ain’t all it’s cracked up to be!

In Part 1 of this series, I discussed how I even inherited such a pair. In addition, I covered my range of sizes, having been all the way up to 42K at one point! Throughout my experiences, I learned much about how bra sizes work (Thank you, ABTF), and how to manage the logistics around having these two things strapped to my chest at all times.

Beyond the DD, Part 2 – Avert Your Eyes

Today, we’re discussing how much I wish people could Avert Their Eyes! 😆 If you’re a fellow busty woman, you know that bouncing boobs don’t just occur all the time. Perhaps those big mommy milkers truly ARE a marvel! Or perhaps some folks simply have not seen boobs that big before, in person.

In reality, I am somewhat small in stature, with a curvy physique. There really is no point in hammering out the reasons. The point is that it happens, and it can get quite uncomfortable at times.

Big Boob Problems – Invasive Staring

As a busty woman, I have learned to at least appear as if I have tunnel vision. It keeps me out of trouble, and keeps me from making unwanted eye contact. While I may appear aloof, trust–I am paying attention!

Be that as it may, some people truly are not as sly as they seem to think.

Men with girlfriends? You’re not slick. If your girl didn’t see you, I sure did. So does anyone I am with, including friends and romantic partners.

Have you ever had a flock of teenage boys trying to sneak a peek on the sly? Look, virgins. There are 10 of you. You look ridiculous.

Unfortunately, you have to have some level of awareness when you’re in public, as a woman. If you don’t think we’re picking up on something, most of us definitely are. Like the man I caught getting video of me at Target! 🫠

No, I Don’t Always Want to Be Perceived

On occasion, I have been known to drop a thirst trap.

However, that’s me in control of the perception. I am making a choice at that moment to be perceived in a certain way. As an introverted and mildly misanthropic person, I very likely do not want to talk to strangers. Sometimes I am in a sociable mood, and am more receptive to public attention.

These are the times when I’m dressed in line with how I want to be perceived. Though, sometimes, I wish people would just leave me alone. Then I may not feel as if I have to dress in shapeless clothes, just to avoid unwanted attention when I go to the store to pick some avocados.

Perhaps I should wear a sign!

Ain’t My Fault They’re Big

A few years ago I saw a woman online, annoyed that someone asked her to cover up. This woman was well-endowed, and was justifiably upset that someone wasn’t minding her damn business. She said, “it ain’t my fault my titties are big!”

While there may be admirers, there are also plenty of haters. If I do choose to show off what I’ve got, that’s my choice to make. Receiving hate for it is just as much of a struggle, because *I* didn’t make this choice. These BIG NATTYS came on their own, baby.

Finding My Peace

Be that as it may, these are not things I can help, in others. Just as much as they cannot help that I have big honkin’ juicy mommy milkers.

We cannot expect strangers to know and understand our boundaries. We can only do what makes us feel comfortable in any given moment, regardless of what’s happening around us. Acceptance is all about learning what you can and cannot control.

They’re exhibiting their nature. They can help how they are, but sometimes we just have to accept that some people will always be who they are and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Have you had issues accepting your body, for better or worse? Do you have Big Boob Problems? Or maybe you just like huge boobs! Let me know in the comments!

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In the realms of human expression, few things can rival the raw sensuality and emotional depth of movement and dance leading us to explore the world of Sensual Movement. When we allow our bodies to flow with intention and passion, we tap into a world of self-expression, empowerment, and unbridled sensuality. Today I want to explore the world of sensual movement and dance with you, exploring how these ancient art forms can become a potent tool for self-discovery, intimacy, and seduction.

Even if it’s as simple as dancing naked in your shower, it can get the job done! 😜

The Language of the Body

Sensual movement and dance are more than just physical actions – they are a language that speaks directly to our souls. By surrendering to the rhythm of our bodies, we can convey emotions, desires, and intentions in a way that transcends words. This primal form of communication awakens our senses, igniting a deep connection with ourselves and those around us.

Embracing Sensual Movement

Sensual movement is not about perfection; it’s about embracing our imperfections and celebrating our uniqueness. It’s about letting go of inhibitions and allowing our bodies to express the full spectrum of human emotion. As we move, we tap into our inner sensuality, unleashing a cascade of feelings, desires, and sensations that can be both liberating and intoxicating.

The Art of Seduction

Sensual movement and dance can be a powerful tool for seduction, not just in the bedroom, but in everyday life. By owning our bodies and expressing our desires through movement, we become irresistible magnets, drawing others into our orbit. This is not about manipulation; it’s about embracing our authentic selves and sharing that energy with the world.

Finding Your Inner Rhythm

So, how do you tap into the world of sensual movement and dance? The answer is simple: start moving. Put on some music that speaks to your soul, and let your body respond. Don’t worry about technique or perfection – focus on the sensations, emotions, and desires that arise as you move. As you surrender to the rhythm of your body, you’ll unlock a world of self-expression, sensuality, and empowerment.

In the words of the great dancer, Martha Graham, “Movement never lies.” As we embrace the power of sensual movement and dance, we’ll discover that our bodies hold the secrets to our deepest desires, and that the language of movement is the most honest, raw, and seductive of them all.

Sensual movement and dance are not just forms of self-expression; they’re gateways to a world of intimacy, connection, and seduction. By embracing our bodies and unleashing our inner rhythm, we’ll tap into a power that’s both primal and transcendent. So, take the first step – let your body speak, and watch as the world responds to your self-love and self-care.

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What is Sitophilia? If you’re hungry for an answer, we can help you dabble in this savory sensation. Who knows? Maybe we’ll awaken something new in the process! Bon appétit!

Sitophilia, a term derived from the Greek words “sitos” (food) and “philia” (love), refers to a sexual fascination with food, eating, or being fed. This unique fetish transcends the conventional boundaries of sexuality, blurring the lines between sustenance and seduction. In this article, we’ll delve into the world of sitophilia, exploring its nuances and providing ideas for those interested in exploring this fascinating aspect of human sexuality.

Sitophilia: Unraveling the Fascination with Food and Sex

At its core, sitophilia is about the eroticization of food and the act of consumption. It can manifest in various ways, such as:

• Sexual arousal from watching someone eat or being fed
• Fantasizing about food-related scenarios, like being fed by a dominant partner or engaging in food play
• Using food as a prop or tool for sexual stimulation
• Associating specific foods with sexual pleasure or intimacy
• Exploring Sitophilia, SOLO

Are you wanting to give Sitophilia a try? Here are some naughty ideas to tempt your tastebuds!

Partnered Food Play:

Experiment with different textures, temperatures, and sensations. Try feeding yourself or a partner with your hands, using utensils, or even incorporating food into foreplay. Fun foods to try include cut up fruits, sauces, jello, whipped cream, and even ice cream to combine sitophilia with a little temperature play!

Explore the role of food in power play scenarios, such as a dominant partner feeding a submissive one. This can add an exciting layer of complexity to your sitophilic exploration.

Sensual Dining:

Set up a romantic dinner with a partner, focusing on the sensory experience of eating together. Pay attention to the sounds, smells, and tastes, and see how it heightens your intimacy. You can do it in silence, and under candlelight to set the mood. Let your senses take over, you hedonist! 🤭

Food Fantasies:

Have you simply let yourself drift off into fantasy? Write down your food-related fantasies, no matter how unusual they may seem. This can help you identify patterns and desires, allowing you to explore them further.

Sensory Deprivation:

Try eating in the dark or blindfolded, heightening your sense of touch and smell. This can create a new, intense experience. You can do this by yourself, or with a partner. Take the time to enjoy the textures and flavors of the food you’ve prepared.

Remember: Sitophilia, like any fetish, requires consent, respect, and open communication with your partner(s). Ensure that all parties involved are comfortable and willing to engage in these activities. As you venture into the world of sitophilia, remember to prioritize your comfort, safety, and boundaries. This fascinating aspect of human sexuality offers a unique opportunity to explore new dimensions of intimacy and pleasure. By embracing your curiosity and creativity, you can unlock a richer, more satisfying sexual experience.

The Alchemy of Love – A Love Letter to My Past

While I have never been keen on dating advice, I am also not one to hide my stories and share what I have learned. While I may not share these stories with anyone unprompted, I felt inspired to write a bit about how I have learned to become a better partner, find an ideal partner, and how I’ve managed to keep faith in love, in spite of the pain and sorrow peppered throughout my love life lore.

In my age and wisdom, I have found that when it comes to love, age has come with wisdom. That wisdom came from loving freely, and believing completely that giving love meant that I should expect it in return.

Well, love doesn’t quite work like that.

Perhaps it’s the current astrological transits, or perhaps because I’m ruminating on getting older. Perhaps it’s the feeling of finally being in a loving, safe situation with the actual ideal partner. Whatever it may be, I have found myself reflecting on the dramatics of my love life, from passionate nights to heavy traumas, and how they have impacted me as the partner I have become.

As I reflect on my ability to fully comprehend the joy of my life, I find I was not always this amorous. This time, I have found myself reflecting on past mistakes, triumphs, and glories that have led me to this place in my life where I finally feel secure. I feel loved, and appreciated and experience passion every day of my life, and I wouldn’t have manifested this without learning from my mistakes. One critical portion of my unsolicited dating advice: learn from your mistakes.

Alchemy is the practice of taking something; an object, a thought, a desire, and turning it into something new. It’s the magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. And all you need is to see love and life for what it is, in actuality.

Experiencing Romantic Love 

This could be a controversial statement, but: Love is not unusual, nor is it hard to find. Good, honest love is hard to find, but love itself?

Working with the belief that LOVE is as much of an emotion as it is an action and activity to participate in, helps put things into perspective. It’s easy to have a bad relationship and think you didn’t LOVE that person.

Sometimes that action, in love, is simply “being in a relationship” or “enjoying a passionate night together”. You can find love anywhere. You can find sexual passion in a bar, you can find a lover on an app. Sometimes we look for love in “all the wrong places,” but sometimes you get it right!

I fundamentally believe that romantic love is meant to be experienced in various times of your life, including when you’re too young to understand it. Lovers are meant to come and go, as are friends. Lovers are here to teach. Some may call them soul mates, even, or soul partners.

Many people have different beliefs on soul mates, and mine leaves room for multiple people to come into your lives. I don’t believe in “twin flames”, or in soul mates in the conventional sense of the word. I believe in the Elizabeth Gilbert philosophy of soulmates, which spoke to me after one of the hardest breakups I have ever experienced in my life. This can be taken as a piece of relationship or dating advice, as you move through your quest to find love.

Some relationships aren’t meant to last forever, even if you want them to last. This is where your life lessons come in, and taking lessons from your relationship is critical to finding something that suits you. If you want to see the OWN interview where Elizabeth Gilbert said this, you can watch it here. It came to me at an extremely impactful time.

Dating Advice – Learn From Your Relationships

After leaving a long-term relationship, I found myself a little confused as to the type of person I really wanted in my life. I knew it wasn’t my ex, but I was not sure where I wanted to go from there. 

Falling victim to the romantic idea of “what could have been,” I came across a man I had dated in the past. We dated in our twenties, and it was fun! It did not work out, and he spent many, many years wondering about me now and again. He knew he screwed up back then, and made sure to address it when speaking to me again. 

There were a few times he had reached out over the years, and I was usually in another relationship. But this time, I was single. He was just my type! This guy had a good job, he lived on his own, and took care of himself. However, it wasn’t long until he started getting more vulnerable, then started acting odd and distant.

As gung-ho as he was about a second chance with me, he slowly withdrew. I tried prompting him about it, and it was like talking to a wall. So, I left it alone. I simply did not reach out anymore.

It’s Not Always Personal

At the time, I was feeling glad I had not slept with him yet. While the lesson may seem obvious, I feel like the lesson was even deeper than not falling for “what could have been”. We ain’t Ashanti OR Nelly. This isn’t going to work out. 

It was learning that no matter what happens, no matter how much time has passed, most people do not change. To me, the lesson was that those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it. 

These same themes can be repeated even in relationships that had nothing to do with the original.

All of this helped me arrive at the most critical piece of dating advice I can give: Be truly intentional when picking your partner. Knowing what you want and don’t want is key.

Applying The Lessons

I fundamentally believe you can love someone in spite of their faults, and want to see the best in them. Otherwise flawed people would have never received our love to begin with. However, you’re not learning from love if you are not applying the lessons. 

We love humans; we don’t love products. There are human responses to things that may be considered positive or detrimental. When you begin to learn what is detrimental to you specifically, you need to take a step back when that is demonstrated in a partner.

You’ve already been there, baby.

Patterns repeat until they’re disrupted, and your job is to disrupt the pattern. Whether it be by a breakup, a conversation or something else. I have said it before and I’ll say it again, but when it comes to partnerships, closed mouths don’t get fed.

Understanding what you have experienced is crucial to enhance your own human experience. We learn not to touch a hot stovetop because it’s hot, but we don’t like to apply that to people that may not have the best intentions or who may be stumbling through their life journey. I’m telling you that if we aren’t applying what we learn, we are going to have the same experiences over and over. 

Whether it’s learning how to implement boundaries, learning what you truly want in a partner, or even learning to accept accountability– these are all lessons I have taken from relationships to help me grow. This is when life became fruitful.

Expecting Imperfection

People don’t come out of the box perfect. Our manufacturer didn’t design us in the same way a product is placed into production. Accepting your own flaws, as well as the flaws of others, is just a small piece of the dating advice sprinkled throughout this piece. There are no plans, so that means we come with faults. They are inherent. This is human. This is our gift and our curse. 

We cannot expect perfection where we are imperfect, ourselves. When we give our love to someone, it should be immediately reflected in our own self-love. After all, if we’re putting faith in someone else, we should be able to put a little into ourselves as well, no?

To all those I’ve loved before,

The ones with unique faces, big ears, curly hair, long hair, no hair. To the ones who were fat and bald and imperfect; the ones who had doll faces and long locks; the ones who wanted me to swing, the ones who were sexually confused. Oh! And we cannot forget the ones who ran the spectrum of ethnicities, the ones who have hurt me, the ones who have loved me–genuinely or disingenuously…

You all taught me valuable lessons, harshly and softly. Once I healed from the friction of your love or pain, those lessons became law. Pain became transmuted, and I created something even greater out of myself and my life. The “Sorcerer’s Stone,” if you will. For that, I thank you. 

And that, is the Alchemy of Love.

To Me. 💋

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