Welcome to the second volume of Pleasure Principles, the second Volume to my How To Masturbate series for those that own vaginas! Check out the first edition Pleasure Principles: Vol. 1 – Intro To The Vulva & Vagina here.

In this edition, we’ll cover the basics of sex toys. We’ll cover everything from nipple stimulators, dildos, bullets, vibrators, and clitoral suckers to get you started on your way to self-pleasure, without use of your own hands.

We’ll discuss the safest ways to use toys, how to keep them clean, and provide tips for maintaining discretion.

I’ll hold your hand. Let’s just call it “Mutual Masturbation”.

Pleasure Principles: Volume II – A Guide to Sex Toys for Vulvas and Vaginas

Nipple Stimulation

Nipple stimulators are a fantastic way to enhance your solo play sessions, with something a little atypical of many users when they learn how to masturbate. These toys work by providing intense and focused stimulation to your nipples. Here are some popular types and tips for using them safely:

• Nipple Clamps: These come in various styles, from simple clips to adjustable screw clamps. Start with beginner-friendly options and gradually explore more intense ones as you become accustomed to the sensation.These are also excellent for partner play, but that’s another blog!
• Suction Cups: These create a vacuum-like suction around your nipples, increasing blood flow and sensitivity.
• Vibrating Nipple Toys: These combine vibration with clamps or suction cups for added pleasure.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Always start with clean toys and hands.
• Apply a small amount of lube to the nipple area to enhance sensation and reduce friction.
• Begin with gentle pressure and gradually increase intensity as desired.
• Clean your toys after each use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner.
• Store them in a cool, dry place, away from direct sunlight.

How to Masturbate with Dildos

Dildos are classic sex toys designed for penetrative pleasure. In this section, we are specifically discussing the type of dildo that is manual, requiring use of your own hand to thrust them inside of yourself. This gives you a great chance to get truly intimate with yourself and see what you REALLY like. Dildos come in various shapes, sizes, and materials to cater to different preferences. There are even thrusting dildos, themed, and vibrating toys to choose from!

Here’s how to use them safely and effectively:

• Materials: Choose body-safe materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel.
• Sizes: Start with smaller sizes and gradually work your way up if you must! It takes time to decide what you really like.
• Lubrication: Always use a generous amount of water-based lube for smoother penetration.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Wash your dildo with warm water and mild soap before and after each use.
• Dry it thoroughly to prevent mold and bacteria growth.
• Store it in a clean, dry place, preferably in a toy bag or container.

Bullets and Vibrators

Bullets and vibrators are versatile toys that can be used for both clitoral and internal stimulation, depending on the type you purchase. Tip: If you purchase a bullet vibrator and want to experience the fun sensations inside of yourself without risk, put the toy inside of a condom. That will make it easier to pull out when you’re finished! Keep yourself our of the ER. 👀

Vibrators come in various shapes and sizes, with different vibration settings to cater to different preferences. I recommend choosing one with a variety of settings, to increase versatility in your experience.

Types of Vibrators:

• Bullets: Small and discreet, perfect for targeted clitoral stimulation.
• Vibrators: Larger and more versatile, suitable for both internal and external use.
• Dildo: In the shape of a dildo, but battery-powered to vibrate on command while you use it to thrust.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Always use a water-based lube for comfort and enhanced sensation.
• Wash your toy with warm water and mild soap after each use.
• Store it in a clean, dry place, away from direct sunlight.

Clitoral Suckers

Ah yes, my personal favorite of the bunch! Clitoral suckers use suction and vibration to provide intense clitoral stimulation. They are designed to mimic the sensation of oral sex and really amplify solo fun with new sensations you don’t usually get on your own. Choose from handheld devices or wearable options for hands-free pleasure, to choose how to masturbate. There aren’t too many variants of this toy, other than some being enabled for fully hands-free fun! Choose a model that has divverent vibration and suction settings to find your perfect rhythm.!

Make sure to check out my sex toy reviews for some of my favorite clitoral suckers.

Safe Use and Cleaning:

• Apply a small amount of water-based lube to the clitoral area for comfort and enhanced sensation.
• Wash your toy with warm water and mild soap after each use.
• Store it in a clean, dry place, away from direct sunlight.

Tips for Discretion

Maintaining privacy and discretion is essential when exploring yourself, intimately.. Here are some tips to help you keep your play sessions private:

• Soundproofing: Choose a toy that has positive reviews for sound, or go with a manual toy. Use a blanket, pillow, or towel to muffle any sounds that may emanate from your own pleasure.
• Storage: Store your toys in a discreet, locked drawer or container.
• Timing: Choose a time when you’re unlikely to be interrupted, just as you might for a meditation session. After all, orgasms are spiritual events. 😇

We hope that by understanding the basics of different types of toys and learning how to masturbate safely can go a long way in your personal self-love sessions. Stay safe, stay clean, and enjoy all the good vibrations you’ll most certainly have cumming!

With Love,

Amara

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“How to masturbate for women” seems like a ludicrous thing to search for, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, this isn’t shameful. Even grown adults could use a helping hand, when it comes to learning masturbation techniques that work, or for getting new ideas to spice up their routine. Before we dive into the world of self-pleasure, let’s set the scene for an intimate and engaging experience. “Exploring Self-Pleasure” is a new series designed to awaken your personal intimate journey.

Pleasure Principles: Vol. 1 – Intro To The Vulva & Vagina

This guide is designed to empower you to explore your body with confidence, and learn to experience new waves of pleasure. This article is meant more for those of us with vaginas who haven’t had a chance to explore their girlhood. There are a plethora of ways to stimulate and pleasure yourself, so I’ve compiled a few ways to get you started. Self-love is more than just looking in the mirror and accepting the beautiful person you are; self-love also includes self-pleasure!

If you’re new to the game, or haven’t taken the time to explore yourself and your needs beyond partnered sex, there is no better time than the present! Additionally, understanding how you react to various stimuli onto your anatomy is an integral part of understanding pleasure with a partner.

Setting the Mood for Self-Pleasure

You can create an ambiance or you can just slip your hands in your panties, and go to town! IT’s all up to you. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. Some of us may need a little self-romance or some visual stimulation.

Creating the right ambiance can significantly enhance your masturbation experience. Start by finding a private space where you can relax without interruptions. Dim the lights, and allow yourself to get acquainted with your body and your desires. The key is to engage all your senses to build arousal.

Maybe after a nice, hot shower, you can wind down with some candlelight and some erotica. Maybe try some audio porn, or even erotic porn for women. Lust Cinema is a favorite, for those of us that crave a more erotic, intimate experience. Or dive into hardcore anal porn. I ain’t judging. Hell, I might join.

Exploring Personal Erogenous Zones

One we’ve set the mood, it’s time for a little self-romance. Before we delve into specific techniques, it’s important to understand the concept of erogenous zones. These are areas of the body that are highly sensitive to touch and stimulation, and can trigger intense pleasure and arousal. For women, the most common erogenous zones include:

• The clitoris: a small, highly sensitive organ located at the front of the vulva
• The vagina: the muscular canal that connects the cervix to the outside of the body
• The G-spot: a sensitive area located on the front wall of the vagina
• The nipples: highly sensitive areas that can be stimulated to increase arousal. (Make sure to check out our blog on Nipple Orgasms!)

Don’t be afraid to feel your curves, grabbing them as objects of lust. You can totally skip this step, but I find it adds to the experience to run my hands over my breasts, between my legs, or grip my own ass. That’s self-love, baby. 💋

How to Masturbate for Women & Vagina Owners

These Manual Masturbation Techniques are specific to those of us who have not warmed up to toys yet, but want to explore new ways of experiencing this beautiful form of self-love.

The Clitoris
The clitoris is a powerhouse of pleasure, with thousands of nerve endings waiting to be stimulated. Here are some non-toy techniques to explore your clit:

• “The Gentle Circle”: Using one or two fingers (I like my middle, for some reason! Try them all to see which works best for you!), lightly trace circles around the clitoris. Experiment with different pressures and speeds to find what feels best.
• “The Side Slide”: Place your fingers on either side of the clitoral hood and slide them back and forth, stimulating the sides of the clitoris without direct contact, which can be too intense for some.
• “The Up and Down”: Move your fingers in an up-and-down motion directly over the clitoris. You can vary the rhythm and pressure to build excitement. Reduce sensitivity by making use of your clitoral hood.

The Vagina
Vaginal stimulation can lead to deep, satisfying orgasms. Here’s how to pleasure yourself manually:

• “The Come Hither”: Insert one or two fingers into your vagina and curl them towards your belly button. You’re aiming to stimulate the frontal wall where the G-spot is located. Experiment with different motions—circular, back-and-forth, or a combination of both. Your g-spot may be deeper or more shallow than some. Don’t be afraid to explore and take your time.
• “The Deep Stroke”: With your fingers fully inserted, thrust in and out, mimicking the motion of penetrative sex. Adjust the depth and speed according to what feels good for you.
• “The Finger Flick”: Instead of inserting your fingers, use your fingertips to rapidly flick the entrance of your vagina. This can create a teasing sensation that builds arousal.

Beyond The Basics: Manual Stimulation

Combining Clitoral and Vaginal Stimulation
For a blended orgasm, combine clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Use your non-dominant hand to play with your clit while your dominant hand explores inside your vagina. This simultaneous stimulation can lead to an intense and full-bodied climax.

Pillow Humping and Other Ideas

• Pillow Hump: Position a firm pillow or a cushion between your legs and grind against it. Adjust the pressure and rhythm to find the motion that brings you the most pleasure.
• Use a Shower Head: Use the detachable shower head to direct a stream of water onto your clitoris. The water’s pressure and temperature can provide a unique and exhilarating sensation!
• Inner Thigh Stimulation: Use your fingers to stimulate the inner thigh area, which can be highly sensitive. This can be a great way to build up arousal and anticipation.
• Perineum Stimulation: Use your fingers to stimulate the area between your vagina and anus, which can be highly sensitive. This can be a great way to add variety to your self-pleasure routine.

How to Use Lube

Lubrication is highly underrated, and helps to increase stimulation! For some of us, it’s essential for comfortable and pleasurable masturbation. It reduces friction and can enhance sensations. Remember, lube isn’t just for when you’re dry or have trouble lubing up naturally; it can elevate any masturbation session!

Water-based lubes are versatile and compatible with all types of sex toys and condoms. Apply lube to your fingers or directly to your genitals before you start exploring and have fun! Don’t be afraid to try a few brands you like the most.

Basic Self-Love Hygiene for a Healthy Vagina

Maintaining good hygiene is crucial for preventing infections and ensuring a healthy vagina. Here are some basic steps:

1. Wash your hands before and after masturbation to prevent the introduction of bacteria.
2. Use a gentle, fragrance-free soap to clean the external parts of your genitals daily. Avoid internal douching, as it can disrupt the natural balance of bacteria in your vagina.
3. Urinate after masturbation to flush out any bacteria that may have been introduced during sex play.
4. Wash sex toys with warm, soapy water or a toy cleaner after each use and store them in a clean, dry place.

In “Exploring Self-Pleasure Volume I,” we’ve covered the basics of setting the mood, exploring your erogenous zones, and mastering various manual masturbation techniques for both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. If you’re new to self-pleasure, you’ll love exploring your own little personal pleasure map! We’ve also discussed the importance of lube and basic hygiene practices. Remember, self-pleasure is a journey of self-discovery, and there’s no right or wrong way to explore your body. Embrace your sexuality, experiment with different techniques, and enjoy the ride.

Are there any specific techniques or topics you’d like to see covered in “Exploring Self-Pleasure”? Your feedback is invaluable in crafting content that will help you most!

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Today we review the plusOne Bullet Vibrator! This tiny little toy caught my attention with the tagline “invite a little pleasure”. That makes the Which is fair, because sometimes you need to invite a little pleasure into your lives! I am always excited to unbox a new sex toy, and did not have a bullet in my collection any longer. I thought this lipstick sized vibrator would be a cute addition to my pleasure arsenal. 

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PlusOne is not a brand I was aware of before I looked for the top sex toys on Amazon, but I am glad I learned more about this brand. This bullet vibrator packs quite a punch, from a brand that promotes inclusivity in sexuality, including accessible products that are easy to use and integrate in any lifestyle. This is one of their best selling products, and appears to be for a few reasons I intend to examine with you today! This product is just one part of their entire arsenal of products that accommodate for a variety of sexual wellness needs including kegela trainers, prostate massages, age-based massagers and more!

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Toy Description

The plusOne Bullet Vibrator is a compact vibe designed with discretion in mind. Upon first sight, it’s sleek, and comes in an array of colors, but ensures easy transport in a miniature package. 

This mini vibrator comes in 5 different colors. Not only is it tiny, but it’s also quiet, allowing for a discreet experience. This tiny temptation boasts a surprising 10 vibration modes that will have you exploring on your own, in your bed or even in the shower.

This toy is designed with premium silicone and fits nicely in your hand. You won’t have to worry about water damage, so don’t worry about how easy it is to clean. It is a cinch!

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Key Features (directly from the manufacturer website)

The Original Trusted Classic: Whether you want to spice up your solo play or add some excitement to your relationship, our bullet vibrator is your new best friend

10 Vibration Settings: The plusOne vibrating bullet is small but powerful. Easily cycle through 10 intensity levels with one button to find your perfect setting

100% Waterproof: This bullet is fully waterproof, making it easy to clean and perfect for use in the shower or bath

High-Quality Body Safe Silicone: Featuring a soft velvety touch, the bullet is made with body-safe silicone that is skin-friendly and free from phthalates, BPA and latex

Discreet And Pocket Sized: At only 3″ in length, it’s about the same size as your favorite lipstick. Fits easily in your pocket so you can discreetly take anywhere

First-Hand Use

This plusOne Bullet Vibrator claims to pack quite a punch in a tiny package. Upon reading the reviews, I was excited to get it in my hot little hands. I have been missing the convenience of a bullet vibrator and I was hoping to find that this would be the one that would make my naughty urges far more expedient, and expand my options. I will admit, this brand being available in CVS, et al, definitely made me feel a little put off. However, I think it’s a good thing we’re able to include sexual wellness in a place just as innocuous as a drugstore.

First impressions are important, and the packaging is lovely. They’re presented well, which adds to a little bit of self-romance. This vibrator is about 1-inch wide, and 3-inches long. This is the perfect lipstick vibrator. It comes with a charger and full set of instructions, and they do recommend a full charge for the first time. Battery life ultimately depends on you; how long you take to have an orgasm, how often you use the toy, etc.. Each charge should get you up to two hours of use. 

Being that this company focuses on accessibility for a variety of sexual health needs, this toy is easy to grip and maneuver. If you’re petite, or simply have small hands, you won’t fumble too much using this toy.  If you’re working on yourself for 10-15 minutes at a time, I don’t see any issues with performance. If you’re a long haul user, maybe consider keeping this in your arsenal only for times when you need something quick and/or portable.  

Quiet, Discreet Bullet Vibrator that Travels Well

This toy may be small, but it is certainly capable of powerful vibrations! As I mentioned previously, this little sucker has 10 vibration modes. I couldn’t believe it, so I had to try them all for myself. I have to say that the low modes are simply not enough for me. Personally, I think the toy is a bit too narrow for my preferences, as well. If you like a wider surface area, this is simply not the toy for you. However, it can still get the job done, so that definitely counts for something.

If you’re new to masturbation, make sure to check out the first volume in my How To Masturbate Series!

Be that as it may, it’s surprisingly powerful for what it is. It’s great for traveling. I also believe this toy is great for beginners, partner play, or people just getting used to enjoying clitoral stimulation! If you want one, you can buy the plusOneBullet Vibrator Now on Amazon!

Have you also used this product or a similar one? We want to hear your experience, so let us know in the comments or on social media!

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Have you even heard of Nipple Orgasms? Not only do they actually exist, but there is a sizeable part of the population that is capable of achieving orgasm from a lot of titty worship. Nipple orgasms are a real and legitimate aspect of human sexuality, offering a new frontier of sexual pleasure and exploration. By understanding the anatomy of the nipple and experimenting with different stimulation techniques, you can unlock the secrets of nipple orgasms and experience a new level of pleasure and intimacy.

When it comes to sexual pleasure, most people focus on the genital area, neglecting the treasure trove of sensations that can be found in other erogenous zones. One such often-overlooked area is the nipples. Yes, you read that right – nipple orgasms are a real thing, and they can be incredibly intense and pleasurable. Nipples can (and should be) an essential part of foreplay to increase general stimulation, but can you REALLY achieve orgasm? Let’s find out!

How Common Are Nipple Orgasms?

While there isn’t a wealth of scientific research on nipple orgasms, anecdotal evidence suggests that they are more common than you might think. Many people, regardless of gender, have reported experiencing nipple orgasms, and some even claim that they are more intense than traditional genital orgasms.

In a survey conducted by the sex education website, OMGYes, 1 in 5 women reported having had a nipple orgasm, with some even experiencing multiple orgasms in a single session. While the numbers might not be staggering, they do indicate that nipple orgasms are not an anomaly, but rather a legitimate aspect of human sexuality.

How to Have a Nipple Orgasm

The key to achieving a nipple orgasm lies in understanding the anatomy of the nipple and the surrounding area, and understanding how your body works. The nipple is a highly sensitive area, packed with nerve endings that respond to stimulation. The areola, the circular area surrounding the nipple, is also rich in nerve endings, making it an erogenous zone in its own right.

To stimulate the nipples, you can try the following techniques:

• Touch and Tease: Gently touch, caress, or stroke the nipples with your fingers or tongue. This can help build anticipation and arousal.
• Suck and Lick: Sucking and licking th e nipples can be incredibly pleasurable, especially when combined with gentle biting or nibbling.
• Pinch and Roll: Pinching or rolling the nipples between your fingers can create a delicious sensation, especially when combined with other forms of stimulation.
• Vibrations: Using a vibrator or other sex toy to stimulate the nipples can be a great way to add intensity to your play.

While some humans can experience nipple orgasm with prolonged nipple stimulation, some of us need a little bit more. Take your time, and get yourself good and warmed up. Sometimes, they may be even more sensitive after already experiencing a particularly strong orgasm. Thus meaning stimulation of the nipples can provide a sensory explosion you were not prepared to experience (but it is worth it)!

Sidenote: did you know you can use clitoral stimulators on your nipples? Check out my review of Eve’s Ravishing Rose!

So, if you’re continuing to play even after orgasm, you may want to ask your partner to perform a little titty worshiping. It’s like a reward. 😉 You’ll already be relaxed and loosened up, allowing for more unique sensations to soar.

What does a nipple orgasm feel like?

Describing the sensation can be challenging, but many people report that it’s similar to a traditional genital orgasm, but with a few key differences.

• Intense Pleasure: Nipple orgasms can be incredibly intense, with some people reporting that they feel like a wave of pleasure washing over them.
• Full-Body Sensation: Unlike genital orgasms, which are often focused in the genital area, nipple orgasms can create a full-body sensation, with pleasure radiating throughout the entire body.
• Tingling and Numbing: Some people report that nipple orgasms can create a tingling or numbing sensation in the nipples and surrounding area, which can be incredibly pleasurable.

Remember, sexual pleasure is all about exploration and experimentation, so don’t be afraid to try new things and see what works for you. And who knows – you might just discover a new favorite way to orgasm. And if you’d like to hear about my personal experience with Nipple Orgasms, go ahead and make a comment below! 😘

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