If you’ve never been introduced, we think you could use an introduction with some fun Temperature Play tips! As an ever-curious person, I can testify to the allure, but I also feel like it’s a very “safe” and “vanilla” way to dabble in enhanced, sensual play and BDSM. If you’re new to kinkier concepts, maybe consider first that BDSM is a wide spectrum of activities that don’t necessarily involve whips and chains– but that’s another blog post!

Pleasure and pain has been likely the most mainstream aspect of BDSM. While I won’t be diving into the spectrum of what that covers, today we’re only discussing a singular aspect that can be used in multiple ways to achieve new heights of pleasure, new sensations and create some enjoyable intimacy. The book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose explores even the more casual ways humans engage in masochism (the M of BDSM, from tattoos to even people who eat insanely spicy food, on purpose.

Temperature play doesn’t even have to cause pain. It can be as simple as kissing someone’s back with cold lips, or adding a chilling sensation to another body part.

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What is Temperature Play?

If you came up groomed as a hetero female, you’ve probably heard the Cosmo-derived advice of, “suck on an ice cube before you go down”. Look, they’re barely even capable of using the word “penis,” but they’re onto something.

No one ever said that there isn’t such a thing as light BDSM, and realistically, that is anything outside of traditional, analog sex. The reality is, it can be fun way to spice things up. BDSM is your friend, even in a “vanilla” relationship”.

It can be as delicate or as masochistic as you want, especially when play involves heat.

Temperature Play Ideas

Some fun temperature play ideas that go beyond the typical can be fun experimentation, and can be as tame as you desire. The term “Temperature Play” is pretty broad, and usually encompasses the application of heat or cold, in the bedroom. Today, we’ll cover a few forms, to give you some ideas for the next time you’re in need of a little experimentation!

But first– let’s discuss a little bit of safety. You should be prepared for any potential burns, and make sure you aren’t removing ice directly from the freezer to produce sensations in your partner or yourself. Ice and Heat can damage the skin, so please take these safety considerations into account when you engage in temperature play for the first time.

Have something on hand to reverse whatever you’re doing. For example, keep cool water nearby for heat, or warming blankets and pads near for cold play. Make sure safety is at the top of mind, when engaging in this or any BDSM play. Utilize safe words if it helps you and your partner feel more comfortable, during your playtime.

At the end of the day, you are responsible for your and your partner’s safety, along with their consent. Now, let’s get down to the good stuff!

Ice/Cold Play Tips

Ice Play is often where many people begin, and can encompass a lot of action. Be wary of cold burns, and keep warming items on hand, should your partner need them. Warm water, towels, and blankets make for excellent accompaniments. You can incorporate ice/cold play in the following ways:

• Freeze a Glass Dildo for Insertion, or other sex toys
• Ice Cubes for melting on your partner’s nipples, skin, and other erogenous zones.
• Ice cubes to cool your mouth before oral stimulation
• Let an ice cube melt in their belly button
• Use to increase sensations on your partner’s body before performing upon them.
• Use Cold Food to lap up, from your partner’s body
• Induce pain, with pleasure. Responsibly.

Fire/Heat Play Tips

This is a fairly common kink. Personally, my first exposure to this was in the music video to Ricky’s Martin’s 1999 smash hit, “Livin’ la Vida Loca”. Anyone else remember that? Just me? Okay then.

Again, keep your partner’s safety in mind. Make sure you know how to treat a burn (both hot and cold) as accidents do happen. Here are some Fire Play Safety Tips, but here are some fun ways to play with varying degrees of heat in the mean time!

• Hot Towels
• Warming Massages
• Warming a glass or stainless steel sex toys
• Wax Play / Candle Wax (tip, do not use just any candle wax. There are candles manufactured for the explicit purpose of temperature play.)
• Carefully playing with fire, near or directly onto a person’s skin. Responsibly.
• Use of Topicals – Massage Oils, etc.

Some experts may recommend topicals which contain compounds like capsaicin. While topicals like this can provide unique sensations, it’s important to note that they can damage and burn skin. Maybe one day I’ll regale you with a story about accidental temperature play and capsaicin ointment, but that’s… another blog. 🙈 On that note, I’ll leave you with one last temperature play tip:

Capsaicin is best removed from the skin with dish soap.

It’s Playtime!

As always, any form of kink or BDSM must be approached with consent and a detailed discussion about personal limits and desires. If you’re looking for more specific Temperature Play Tips, please feel free to reach out to me on Twitter/X, or comment on the blog below!

Listen to your partner, play wisely and safely, and you’ll have something fun to incorporate into your routine whenever you’d like!

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Have you even heard of Nipple Orgasms? Not only do they actually exist, but there is a sizeable part of the population that is capable of achieving orgasm from a lot of titty worship. Nipple orgasms are a real and legitimate aspect of human sexuality, offering a new frontier of sexual pleasure and exploration. By understanding the anatomy of the nipple and experimenting with different stimulation techniques, you can unlock the secrets of nipple orgasms and experience a new level of pleasure and intimacy.

When it comes to sexual pleasure, most people focus on the genital area, neglecting the treasure trove of sensations that can be found in other erogenous zones. One such often-overlooked area is the nipples. Yes, you read that right – nipple orgasms are a real thing, and they can be incredibly intense and pleasurable. Nipples can (and should be) an essential part of foreplay to increase general stimulation, but can you REALLY achieve orgasm? Let’s find out!

How Common Are Nipple Orgasms?

While there isn’t a wealth of scientific research on nipple orgasms, anecdotal evidence suggests that they are more common than you might think. Many people, regardless of gender, have reported experiencing nipple orgasms, and some even claim that they are more intense than traditional genital orgasms.

In a survey conducted by the sex education website, OMGYes, 1 in 5 women reported having had a nipple orgasm, with some even experiencing multiple orgasms in a single session. While the numbers might not be staggering, they do indicate that nipple orgasms are not an anomaly, but rather a legitimate aspect of human sexuality.

How to Have a Nipple Orgasm

The key to achieving a nipple orgasm lies in understanding the anatomy of the nipple and the surrounding area, and understanding how your body works. The nipple is a highly sensitive area, packed with nerve endings that respond to stimulation. The areola, the circular area surrounding the nipple, is also rich in nerve endings, making it an erogenous zone in its own right.

To stimulate the nipples, you can try the following techniques:

• Touch and Tease: Gently touch, caress, or stroke the nipples with your fingers or tongue. This can help build anticipation and arousal.
• Suck and Lick: Sucking and licking th e nipples can be incredibly pleasurable, especially when combined with gentle biting or nibbling.
• Pinch and Roll: Pinching or rolling the nipples between your fingers can create a delicious sensation, especially when combined with other forms of stimulation.
• Vibrations: Using a vibrator or other sex toy to stimulate the nipples can be a great way to add intensity to your play.

While some humans can experience nipple orgasm with prolonged nipple stimulation, some of us need a little bit more. Take your time, and get yourself good and warmed up. Sometimes, they may be even more sensitive after already experiencing a particularly strong orgasm. Thus meaning stimulation of the nipples can provide a sensory explosion you were not prepared to experience (but it is worth it)!

Sidenote: did you know you can use clitoral stimulators on your nipples? Check out my review of Eve’s Ravishing Rose!

So, if you’re continuing to play even after orgasm, you may want to ask your partner to perform a little titty worshiping. It’s like a reward. 😉 You’ll already be relaxed and loosened up, allowing for more unique sensations to soar.

What does a nipple orgasm feel like?

Describing the sensation can be challenging, but many people report that it’s similar to a traditional genital orgasm, but with a few key differences.

• Intense Pleasure: Nipple orgasms can be incredibly intense, with some people reporting that they feel like a wave of pleasure washing over them.
• Full-Body Sensation: Unlike genital orgasms, which are often focused in the genital area, nipple orgasms can create a full-body sensation, with pleasure radiating throughout the entire body.
• Tingling and Numbing: Some people report that nipple orgasms can create a tingling or numbing sensation in the nipples and surrounding area, which can be incredibly pleasurable.

Remember, sexual pleasure is all about exploration and experimentation, so don’t be afraid to try new things and see what works for you. And who knows – you might just discover a new favorite way to orgasm. And if you’d like to hear about my personal experience with Nipple Orgasms, go ahead and make a comment below! 😘

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I had an excellent haul from Adam & Eve, and I was really excited to dig in for my very own Twisted Love Glass Dildo review. There was a sale running when I tossed this glass bad boy into my cart, and I am glad I had the chance to give it a go.

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The search was on for a new glass dildo, and this happened to be the one that caught my eye. I was looking for a few key factors. It had been a few years since I had one in my personal collection, and knew I enjoyed a lot of texture, and a multi-functional handle. I also wanted it to be visually interesting, since the last one I had was completely clear. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to admire what goes inside your pussy, after all. *wink*

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Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo Review – Toy Description

The manufacturer exclaims that this toy has “4 Stimulating Features Will Drive You Both Wild!” so I had to investigate. This is a double-ended dildo that can be used by yourself or with a partner, with features especially designed for the P-Spot, as well as the G-Spot! While I don’t have a p-spot, I do still have two holes available for pleasuring with this very pleasing glass dildo.

Key Features (directly from the manufacturer website)

Double-ended glass toy offers something fun for everyone
Main shaft is gently curved to serve as a G-Spot or prostate stimulator
Plug-shaped shaft ideal for backdoor fun or sharing with a partner
Blue swirls run up and down both ends for additional stimulation
Heat it up for a soothing massage or Cool it down for spine-tingling thrills
Handmade with shatter-resistant glass for an extremely durable toy
Use with water-based & silicone-based lubes

It’s quite pretty, actually. The photos on the website do it justice. Upon first looks, the curve is appealing. I’m already imagining the sensations, accented by the decorative swirls for additional stimulation. The shaft is intentionally buttplug-shaped! That helps you create interesting sensations, for sharing or solo fun.

Since it’s glass that means that there is the option for temperature play! I welcome any opportunity to play with sensations, and temperature play is one of my favorite kinks. So let’s dive into what makes this toy my new favorite glass dildo.

First-Hand Use of Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo

Having been a fan of glass dildos for a number of years, I was excited to finally get the Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo in my hands. This may not seem like an important detail to some, or for those that have never used a glass dildo, but the weight was exactly what I was looking for, along with texture.

With a glass dildo, I definitely don’t want something as thick as my silicone dildos. I want something that can sit comfortably in my vagina, allowing me to pleasure myself via other means at times, while still making its presence known and not getting pushed out so easily.

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When I am engaged in solo play, I often switch back and forth between toys. This creates a lot of varying sensations, before I even allow myself to orgasm. This dildo accomplished that feat, sitting comfortably inside of me, while I used other toys like my Ravishing Rose to stimulate my clit.

I first approached this toy at room temperature, which is still cool to the body. You’ll feel it as soon as you insert inside your orifice of choice. I chose to use this vaginally, though it does have fun features for anal, aside from its obvious buttplug shaped handle!

The smooth head makes the entrance so much more palpable and stimulating. Some dildos can be a bit too pointy for my tastes, and this was perfect.

Glass toys from my past collections have textured heads. I must say I prefer the smoothness of this toy. It slides in like silk, without too many rough corners or edges. I used a water-based lubricant, as always, to get things rocking and rolling quickly.

Moreover, it’s really just a beautiful toy. The swirls and twists of blue add texture to your experience, creating more stimulation. The curve in the toy is perfect for maneuvering inside, allowing even more control over your stimulation. You can easily point this head anywhere you need while engaged in penetration, to find all your ideal pleasure zones.

Final Notes and Where to Buy

This toy is easy to clean, delightful to use, and even has features that even allow for anal specific fun!

Make sure you have a really good toy cleaner, but you can buy the Adam & Eve Twisted Love Glass Dildo by clicking here on Amazon, or via any of the product links!

Have you also used this product or a similar one? What did you think of this Sex Toy Review? We want to hear your experience, so let us know in the comments or on social media!

Want to learn how to feel sexier? If you’re struggling to feel sexy, babe– you are not alone! As I have grown older, I have realized how sexiness is not one-dimensional. Conventional attractiveness or not, love isn’t only exclusive to the most beautiful among us. There are dozens of things that go into attraction!

When battling with my body throughout the years–going from size-to-size–I have found that there isn’t a great way to escape self-criticism without intentional conditioning. I remember when I was in my early twenties, I had an undiagnosed disorder. It caused me to gain weight and also kept me from losing weight.

How to Feel Sexier – Conditioned Self-Love

One evening, I was out having an excellent time with an old friend. She and I took photos together, we imbibed, and had a fabulous girls’ night. When the photos were unveiled, I was horrifyingly embarrassed by my relaxed GUT.

Okay, it was more than “relaxed”.

The kicker: she was a larger girl. When she went to intentionally lose weight some months later, she used that same photo of us, as her BEFORE photo. While demonstrating her weight loss in a solo “After” photo.

She LEFT me in the photo. There I was gazing at my unaddressed gut, while my friend flaunted her new body. Pictured right next to me, no less!

Naturally, feeling self-conscious, I asked her to crop me out. She declined. I was absolutely stewing inside and felt humiliated, but the experience clearly left a mark. In spite of such Mean Girl behavior, I took it with about as much grace as anyone could muster, and dropped it.

Framed this way, it was certainly humiliating. Though, looking back, it was less about my appearance than it was about my friendship. However, I do still wonder if I would have had an easier time swallowing it then, had I managed to accept my body for what it was.

People and society have ways to bring us down, and show us our insecurities. And sometimes the wrong people do it on purpose, when none of it matters. Now, I am glad body positivity exists, because it certainly helped me accept my body along the way, in my own personal health journey.

Here are the things I have kept in mind over the years to keep my head straight, regardless of my size:

5 Perspectives for a Body Positive Mindset

Add Something Sensually Inspired Into Your Daily Routine: 

In terms of how to feel sexier, this has the most immediate effects. Put on something that looks good on you. Wear the perfume you bought for special occasions. Wear that bold lipstick you’ve been putting off wearing. Sometimes a little red lipstick goes a long way. Ain’t nothing a little red lipstick can’t fix.

Put on those sexy panties. You deserve to feel good.

Move your body.

Even in a larger body, you should be moving. Practicing movement at every stage in your body acceptance journey is helpful! Not only does exercise boost feel-good chemicals known as endorphins, but it keeps you mobile, keeps you healthy, and you’ll get stronger overtime.

Move as much as you are able. It has many positive effects! Even if it’s just a sensual dance around your apartment, put on that music and enjoy it for once.

Curate Your Exposure.

I’ve been working in the adult industry for many years now. I can tell you a few things: there is no single type of “attractive”. I have seen hundreds of pornstars cycle through, during my time working in the industry. One thing I can say is that they ALL look different. Thick girls, plain girls, small tits, BBW, big tits, fake tits, saggy tits, bellies, 6 packs, fit women, blonde, brunette, redhead, tall, thin, petite, AMAZON–it’s all there!

I want you to remember that your vastness renders cameras useless, and the sight of you would make even the mountains lose their breath.

-Whitney Hanson

Don’t Project It On Your Partner.

Hey, if they caused you to feel a certain way about your body, that’s another story altogether. If you’re in a healthy relationship, they most likely did not.

Your partner chose to love you. Give them some grace, and ask for them to give you some, too! It’s perfectly normal to have feelings of inadequacy in a relationship, but they can be resolved with love and patience on both sides.

Be open with them, so they can understand. If it’s affecting your relationship, remember that your partner loves you. They fell in love with you and your body as it already was, and that’s incredibly special! Give them some grace and trust that they do actually want to sleep with you.

Oh, and let your partner touch you in the spots you hate. In my experience, they do so because they like them!

Honor your Multitudes, Loving Yourself

As for that old photo of myself? I can still see that  photo, adjacent to my newly fit friend, in my 20s–it’s burned in my brain. My weight has fluctuated through the years. As a woman who has been each size from 8-22, I have had many struggles with my body, and am learning to embrace the flaws. At every size, there is someone telling you that you’re not good enough somewhere. The only escape you can make is by making a choice. You must make a choice to consciously un-learn self-hatred.

Look at the people you love. Are you judging their fat rolls? Do you think less of them for their stretch marks? Remember, those who love you do not see your imperfections the way you do. You’re sexy and whole, and full of flaws and beauty.

God, have you ever SEEN your smile? You do this thing when you laugh! It makes me grin from ear to ear. 🥰.

Body positivity does have an impact on how we view ourselves sexually, and our overall self-esteem. Body acceptance comes with age, but can be created with intentional habits focused on the actual reality of your situation. Remember, you contain multitudes. Self-love may take a little work, but you deserve to love yourself as much as you deserve to receive love from others! And if you need more body positivity tips, you’ll love my friend over at Buzzing Babe, with a blog full of positive affirmations, and more sex toy reviews!

You are so much more than your body, and so much sexier than you even realize. Even then, your body is beautiful and worth the pleasure that life offers. You just have to believe it, accept it, and give yourself the grace and love you deserve.

@whitneyhansonpoetryi’ve been hard on myself lately and i wrote this because i needed it.♬ original sound – Whitney Hanson

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Normalize armpit sniffing! Even Napoleon was reported to have enjoyed the essence of his lover. 🧐🇫🇷

Not wanting to lose any of her natural scent before he arrived home, Napoleon famously wrote to his lover, Empress Joséphine, “Don’t wash, I’m coming home”

Some of you may be thinking, “what?” but this is my attempt to normalize something that even I, at one point, thought was a bit to the left of the center. One day, however, I opened up my mind, when I realized I was drifting off to sleep, intoxicated by inhaling the delicate scent, emanating straight from the armpit of my partner. 

Gawd, am I an armpit girl now? Think about it; we’ve been told that we’re supposed to dislike this odor. Perhaps it’s where I have arrived in my sexual biology, or maybe it’s something I’ve never noticed before.

I remember my mother, ever so fearful about smelling any less than godly, would frequently turn her nose up and exclaim, “can you BELIEVE we’re supposed to be attracted to that?!” I always wrote her off, as young ones do. However I didn’t really consider the notion of being attracted to pheromones. Not until becoming more and more frequently exposed to people who love armpits, in various adult online communities. 

The answer is: armpit sniffing is all about pheromones.

This deep desire that sometimes spans into fetish territory, was far more common than I realized. This old but informative TED Talk uncovers a great deal about pheromones and why we respond to them, using dogs as a perfect example as a creature that learns and uncovers through scent.

Maybe it’s not that we’re necessarily supposed to be *attracted* in the same way we’d be attracted to smelling a flower. As with many animals, humans are biologically wired to pick up information, based on scent. The information we “pick up” can tell our brains many things, such as whether or not a person can be a potential mate, biologically. 

Hormones and pheromones are secreted by our apocrine sweatglands, which only reside in our genital-region or underarms. It’s no surprise that, as animals ourselves, we’re able to pick up on these hormones and pheromones which trigger a brain response. If we’re attracted to it, that means there is a level of compatibility. Pheromones and other hormones can tell our brains a lot of things we don’t understand consciously, but understand on a more primal level. Armpit Sniffing is just one way to get that scent, stimulating our brains in unique ways.

Various research studies have shown that people can “sniff out” better mates, that are more genetically dissimilar. This popular study had 49 women bask in the odor of men’s two-day old shirts. The study found that these women strongly preferred those who possessed different gene variants from themselves.

All Genders Enjoy Pheromones!

A similar experiment was performed on straight men. In this study, 41 women were asked to wear cotton gauze in their pits for 24 hours, on two different days. One day was a high fertility day. The second pad was worn on a low-fertility day. The study concluded that men rated the high-fertility days as smelling “sexier” and more pleasant, overall. 

Study author Kelly Gildersleeve suggested, “It could be a learned response that historically encouraged men to have sex with a woman precisely when sex was more likely to result in conception.”

Scent is a way to bond, but it’s also a way to suss out compatibility.

While there is more to uncover, scent and closeness are very much correlated in an intimate situation. Sometimes simply having a strong connection with someone can be enough for us to love their scent, as well.

Beyond the potential genetic connection, this study uncovers how odor and compatibility can be based on a “positive feedback loop”. There is a relationship that exists psychologically between how much a person likes their partner’s B.O. and exposure. 

Pheromones are Communicators, similar to Hormones

Since nowadays we mask underarm odor quite frequently, it’s become a lost art of non-verbal communication. Our bodies run and operate based on hormones, which communicate messages to the brain from various regions of the body. Pheromones are external communicators, stimulating your evolutionary instincts in ways you may or may not be conditioned to appreciate. 

Pheromones aren’t quite like hormones, but they have similar purposes as communicators. Hormones are what our bodies use to communicate needs and carry out processes such as mood and sexual function. Pheromones work outside the body, signaling messages to members of the same species. Much like animals, we’re able to pick up on those easily, through erogenous zones such as the armpit and the groin-area. 

On A Personal Note

Speaking as a woman that dates men, we’re socially conditioned to love a man’s scent from a young age. Even if it’s their cologne, it’s still paired with their personal musk, making it their own personal scent signature. We love this so much, that we love to steal their hoodies and wear them ourselves. 

Let’s call that what it is: basking in your person’s natural scent. So I ask, why not appreciate the armpit for what it is? A pheromone factory. It’s a signal of lust, inspiring a plethora of feelings you may not have allowed yourself to explore.

Enjoying the smell of someone’s body odor feels deeply primal in concept, but perhaps we’re over sanitizing the human body as an image. It’s not like it’s a surprise to anyone that  someone–another human!–can have body odor at all. Perhaps that’s simply because it is something deeply ingrained in our biology, and not something we desperately need to unpack.

Are you into Armpit Sniffing? Let us know your take in the comments about what really turns you on!

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